Work and career regrets… we all have them and lately my mind has brought me back to a lot of the dumb things I did that unknowingly sabotaged my role or career.

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1. AnonymousDecember 20,2022 at 2:35PM UTC

   Man - no reported the sexual conduct too and same thing - they investigated and it was supposed to be anonymous but someone came up to me and said it was phrased like ‘ well, did anyone make to feel uncomfortable at work in a hostile way it could be anyone like even xyz saying to cover your break even though you already knew this…’ and I ended up getting a one day suspension- got to love the federal government!! Of course the guy was a 25 year retired combat medic so they were going to protect him - doesn’t count my husband was retired vet.

2. AnonymousDecember 21,2022 at 2:16PM UTC

   The hypocrisy in promoting that a company doesn’t tolerate sexual-harassment, hostile work environment yada yada yada they provide training everyone has to take ( it’s mandatory), but the hypocrisy is flagrant for who HR protects, and the retaliation can force an employee to quit. It’s all a smokescreen. I’m so glad I’m going to retire the climate has changed to the point that the employer climate protects the employer, and if you don’t like it, the employee can leave!!!

   .protect the employer, and if you don’t like it, the employee can leave.

   I don’t say this easily I find it all sad

3. GirlBossanova934974December 22,2022 at 1:41PM UTC

   My regrets are only common theme. IF I had to do all over again, I would have made the utmost effort to exit companies and bosses who were not up to the job. At the first sign of trouble, it was time to make a run for the exit and do it very quickly. No such thing as loyalty these days. Great numbers mean zilch! Once you get associated with a bad boss, you should leave. Companies that are having financial difficulties? Be gone, ASAP! Layoff lists are comprised 90% of the time with people that are not cozy with whomever. It is rarely about your contribution. IF after 2-3 years you are not on the promotion list, be gone!

4. AnonymousDecember 22,2022 at 2:04PM UTC

   Same as you. Speaking up in meetings as a temp so many times. I have come in too hot at too many jobs.

   I've learned over time that I need to temper my ideas and learn before I start telling people what's on everyone's mind.

5. AnonymousDecember 22,2022 at 2:19PM UTC

   I found I don’t gossip but when others did I would give it back but I was always seen as the culprit of it and no one else. It happens often for some reason that I’m scapegoated as the main one when I’m generally just outspoken when people tick me off. Otherwise they continue and I get walked all over. Haven’t been able to find that balance. I speak up too and sometimes I need to keep my mouth shut. I tend to sabotage my positions by saying stupid stuff without thinking how it’s going to be received. I let people vent. I walk away. I’m highly non judgmental so I guess I feel others are the same but nope. It backfires every dang time on me.

6. PatriciaDecember 23,2022 at 12:52AM UTC

   I can relate. Had the same experience in the past, including abusive managers who simply got away with it.

7. AnonymousDecember 22,2022 at 5:30PM UTC

   I regret letting a super toxic boss get to me. And not reporting his racist/unethical behavior to corporate while I was still there.

8. AnonymousDecember 22,2022 at 7:41PM UTC

   working an all women environment. I was raised to believe that women stick up for one another / girl power etc. etc. This is BS. Since joining a tech environment where I work from home - it is a breath of fresh air. I do not have to listen to office gossip by women or get called out because I did not participate in the office gossip, tell my personal business to co-workers who pretend to be "friends" in order to find out your personal business, try to remember who did not like whom in the office, take crap from other women because I outperformed them and was told I made them look bad so I need to tone it down etc. etc. Now I just go to work do my job for 8 hours and I am done.

   I still have to interact with a couple women, but it is minimal and when I do I have to deal with passive aggressive behaviors /tactics lol I prefer facts.

   As I grow older, I am more of an introvert who prefers to only interact when absolutely necessary. Emails are my friend and can be used to track status updates.

   I never used the company equipment as my own. Therefore, I do not share my cell phone number with any co-workers, I give them a google voice number if they need to reach me.

9. AnonymousDecember 23,2022 at 10:22PM UTC

   You live and learn right! Totally admirable you do this now after seeing the can harm you. I’m trying to be this way, although hard. I love people but too many enemies all around. All my coworkers came to talk to me to gather information. Posing as friends. Not one was genuine. Not one! Why even engage or want to engage on their end? Do work. And go home. Collecting business to spread or just to use as leverage is something else. I don’t understand how to handle these people. I want to go off most days.

10. AnonymousDecember 24,2022 at 3:00AM UTC

    This happens to me, too. I am too trusting. How do you know when someone is playing you? Let me know your thoughts.

11. Gina Maria VegasDecember 23,2022 at 8:05AM UTC

    Don't get yourself down, you gossiping is part of your personality and you are probably funny! Stirring the pot at work Naughty! Lol it's fine with me