I landed my dream job about 3 months ago… not the company I wanted, but the position/title and a pay boost.

Anonymous

September 22,2021 at 1:50AM UTC

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I landed my dream job about 3 months ago… not the company I wanted, but the position/title and a pay boost. Yay. Fast forward… my work place is Chernobyl-level toxic. My boss has some serious mental health issues that impact her leadership style. This is not to say folks with mental illness make poor leaders. She externalizes any mistakes she makes, is abusive, and punishes people harshly. She claims to have an evil twin. This “evil twin” is a screamer. It’s awful. She HATES and disrespects her supervisor and is very vocal about that. Her supervisor is too busy to handle her seriously. My company currently has no HR department. Everybody in HR, diversity, and payroll have all quit recently. What should I do?

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AnonymousSeptember 22,2021 at 2:09AM UTC
If you can't get some distance from her and stay out of her line of sight you should join your former coworkers.
AnonymousSeptember 22,2021 at 2:42AM UTC
How can you consider staying in this environment? I'd be out by now
Crystal ThirionSeptember 22,2021 at 3:20AM UTC
Sounds like you are working in tv news ?. I literally just took a new job today because of the toxic work environment. If the higher ups are bailing then you should think about it too. My station was bought by an investment firm and everyone started jumping ship and they were the smart ones. Life is way to short to be miserable at a job honey. Stay there while you look for something else. Something better will come along.
KatSeptember 22,2021 at 4:35AM UTC
It can't be your "dream job" - even if you like the title & pay-when you have to put up with this. It's not worth it. Since no one is willing to do anything about this person, you only choice is to leave. Start looking now, as there's no way to salvage this situation.
Jackie GhedineSeptember 22,2021 at 10:21AM UTC
Unfortunately, if the organization isn't going to step in and take the lead on managing her it really limits what your options are in this scenario.
We can't control other people but we can control how we respond to them. Is there a way for you to navigate your own reactions to her and allow them to roll off of you? Sometimes people can compartmentalize and focus on all that is working for them at an organization.
If this isn't possible it may be time for you to start looking for a new position.
It really depends on what works for you as an individual,.
Good luck.