Hello, I’m planning to resign from my position and rumor has it so is the person I report to. Should I tell him I’m planning to leave if/when he officially gives his notice to his direct reports individually, or should I just submit my resignation later without saying anything to him? I’m trying to stay in my current position at least through the busy summer season before I give notice. Thank you in advance for any thoughtful, constructive suggestions.

4 Comments

1. AnonymousJune 15,2024 at 9:53PM UTC

   Your plans have nothing to do with anyone else. Keep your business to yourself until it is convenient for you. Many things can happen during a busy summer. Don't worry about anyone but you.

2. AnonymousJune 17,2024 at 6:53PM UTC

   Do not communicate your plans with that person.

   Only resign when you are ready and it's a done deal - either within the 2 weeks' time (or whatever your company notice period is). Be prepared to be sent out the door the day you make the announcement. Never say, "I plan to " or "I'm going to..."

   While we have a tendency to want to be "human/ compassionate" in these instances, the reality is much harsher on the employee. Colleagues aren't friends.

   I'm not sure if you're resigning for a new job or just to leave.

   Take a few things into consideration

   There are lots of great tips and checklists online on how to plan to resign. Things like these, though there are so many:

   https://www.thecut.com/article/resignation-checklist-what-to-do-before-quitting.html

   https://www.bitchesgetriches.com/resignation-checklist/

   Keep in mind if the person you report to resigns soon, work may be shifted to you- they may even talk to you about a potential promotion/title or pay bump. Have you considered that? If you don't care, don't worry. If it's something you may want, take the promotion, consider whether you want to take the promotion (and either stay or leave shortly after at the higher title and pay rate).

   If you're ready to resign right after the other person, you can share your announcement. If you need more time for your decision, try not to take on any more work. Do what works for you. a little quiet quitting and not taking on tasks or just saying you're really full and say a blanket statement like "I'll do what I can." If pushed, take the tasks, but try not to do them.

   Have a wonderful summer. I hope it's happy, healthy, easy, and wide open with opportunity.

3. AnonymousJune 17,2024 at 9:05PM UTC

   No, you do not need to as this is hearsay and your manager has not shared it with you directly. If you are going to resign, then you give it through the chain of command. If your current supervisor is not there when you are resigning, you give it to the next person in line or HR.

4. AnonymousJune 18,2024 at 12:15PM UTC

   Of course you don't share your personal plans. Rumors can very often be very wrong and a lot can change. Don't try to predict the future