Just my humble opinion but, being a female is hard period. This said, the fact is that in the United States Caucasian women are generally chosen before any other race of women for just about everything by Caucasian men in powerful positions. Because of this, Caucasian women also have the opportunity to fight more for women of other ethnic backgrounds as well. When we are in the position to lift up other women, even though we're not at the very top of the hierarchy chain as women in general, if we just stuck together and lifted eachother up in solidarity instead of competing with one another, I think we would be alot stronger as a whole. Caucasian men have done this with men of color.
One thing Caucasian men have done successfully is to make us believe we need to compete with each other for everything from beauty to skill and there are women so desperate to be noticed by powerful men that they've snubbed their noses at women who struggle no matter what race. They will step on every other woman to get to the top of the ladder. This is why women generally have a hard time and are seen as "less deserving than men." Men can be competitive but also more forgiving between eachother as we now see happening within our politics. Men who once claimed to have a negative view of certain other men are now suddenly protective of and side with those same men for a larger purpose. They got together and planned out a strategy to overthrow democracy and get more money. If every woman in power did the same and started a chain of solidarity to help other women move up the ladder in life (which I know some but few are already trying to do), I think we would be in such a better place as women in general.
All of this said, women are complex no matter what race however, I think out of the reasons we're having a hard time in the job market, is our independence from expectation. The expectation that we should be housewives having children. That we should all be a certain size. We feel very much under pressure by men and eachother. I have seen other women try and convince other women to find a man and have more children. This unfortunately keeps us in lower positions at the mercy of men who have these very same beliefs. I think the only way we can get ahead is by putting a stop to it. Stop depending on men and choosing them over ourselves. Stop thinking we exist to please them and start choosing ourselves. Stop choosing marriage and kids before career and livelihood. I'm not saying there is anything inherently wrong with wanting those things. Just saying that we have given our power away by choosing those options before ourselves for whatever reason we've been led to believe. Now we find ourselves in a predicament we have to work hard to change. Some women are holding all of us as a whole back and have inadvertently controlled the perception of what we "should" be because they have fallen into the trap of male dominated perception themselves.
Now men in power have a reason not to trust our judgement. We give in to them too easily for different reasons. We have children they don't want to help raise choosing their careers and money over their families. Most of us mothers understand how that makes our lives harder. Without the autonomy to make things happen for ourselves, the less power to do other things.
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