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May 5,2022 at 3:06PM UTC

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Hello there. I have been a recruiter/CWM for several years. My husband travels for work so taking contracts for 4-12 months at a time has afforded me the opportunity to travel with him. Well now, I am ready and wanting to work and grow with a company. I am somewhat of a work a holic and want to be part of a team. I want to 100% focus on CWM and am taking my certification test in a couple weeks. I am getting interviews (2nd, 3rd and even a 6th) and the list goes one. I have dropped my salary requirements and the interviews have ended on a very positive note. After the 3rd (panal) interview with one company I was told by the leader of the division, "you are awesome and would be a great team member in the role". I sent a thank you, connected on linked in (and she accepted)..............then ghosted.

I am 55 years old have awesome references from clients/candidates and contingent workforce. I sincerely am at a loss. I don't want to believe that it is my age, but no one will give me feedback. Help!

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Amy HolmesMay 5,2022 at 5:49PM UTC
I just read a great article about ageism that described exactly that scenario that older people experience over and over again.
Ageism is illegal, but happens far too often.
I would emphasize the wide range of applicants you have been able to recruit of all ages and other relevant groups, that you make connections easily among generations and that is a strength for you. Other things you might mention are how efficiently you work, that you are a workaholoic, and that you enjoy most working in a team of people of different ages. If you have an example of nurturing a younger worker in that career that's a bonus. You might also mention that you are looking for stability in a company/position since you're planning to stay a long time. What does success look like in that position? Ask the question yourself ("I've been thinking about what success looks like in this position and...) and answer it with what you look like when you're successful in that position. I hate to say, but if you're getting gray consider dying your hair. It's silly, but older women lose credibility .
while older men gain credibility.
AnonymousMay 5,2022 at 7:15PM UTC
Thank you for your reply. I am told that I don't look near my age, so maybe I should only put the last 10 years on my resume. The problem with that is prior to my contracting roles I have amazing experience and longevity. UGH
shaz1972May 5,2022 at 6:00PM UTC
I cannot even tell you how many times I have been ghosted as well. I went through 6 interviews with a very well known company,,,, then crickets! Just today I emailed a recruiter 3 times in the past 2 weeks for any response. If they decided on another candidate etc. to just please let me know. No reply. How do recruiters get away with this? Honestly, it makes me question the company entirely. And to seriously reconsider even wanting the job after a month of waiting to hear something! This seems to be the new norm. Unfortunately.
AnonymousMay 5,2022 at 7:28PM UTC
That is exactly how I feel. They may be great companies but I would love the opportunity to coach them on interview/hire practices.
Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition SpecialistMay 5,2022 at 6:52PM UTC
Ageism is a for-real thing but it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with you getting ghosted.
You can read on here and lots of other places about candidates of all ages getting ghosted. It's the number one complaint of jobseekers.