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I hate my job. I go to bed at night sometimes hoping I don't wake up so I don't have to do my job.

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I hate my job. I go to bed at night sometimes hoping I don't wake up so I don't have to do my job. It's sucking the life out of me and I've realized I can't keep doing this, I need to leave--not just the company, but the industry as a whole. I'm not a technical gal, I have soft skills and a lot of work experience, and a can-do attitude, I'm motivated and eager to work hard and ready to start loving work again and thriving in my career. The problem is that I'm afraid I will be "starting over" if I leave the industry, and I just can't take ten steps backwards and look for or take an entry level position--both financially and realistically it would not work.

I've spent a few months looking inward, looking at job listings, and figuring out how to articulate what kind of jobs I DO want, and ones that I believe I would love and be good at...the problem is that they are all positions that mostly require 8-10 years of related experience, and I don't have that. How do I get a hiring manager to give me an interview if my resume reads like I don't know what I'm doing in my career (because for many years I didn't).

In my current role I'm a Technology Designer at an engineering firm, and as you can imagine, it's VERY technical and I truly hate it. My ideal job is something more relational, something in the realm of Manager of Partnerships or Strategic Partnerships, something more in line with Business Development, but not strictly BD. How do I pivot without having to start back at the very beginning (which for me was about 15 years ago)?! Has anyone else faced something similar? How did you handle it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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  1. Anonymous

    I understand. I have three boys to care for and have as a single parent for 13 yrs. I was married young (age 18) for 11 yrs. I didn't pick my career, I got into it by necessity, and it eventually blossomed into me going into health care operations and compliance consulting. Ethically, I don't agree with all the muck and more of this disease management system that makes up 4 trillion in our US GDP..I'm in school for my graduate degree and hope to make some changes in my sector and beyond as AI is rolling out. I've had to fight tooth and nail financially to get where I am. I like my firm, but it can be gruling. My retirement plan is to do something more creative and aligned with living in the mountains , traveling starting my nonprofits and writing. I'm doing some pops of those things here and there, and hope to transition out of consulting fully as my sons become more independent. The things that give me hope are what I do daily, by staying fit, by writing when I feel so inclined, and by continuing on this path of graduate school to help give me hope. I'm hoping that you're able to find the same where you can look into.Maybe a part time gig to see where your interest lie and how lucrative it might be for you to pivot.

  2. Stephanie Myers

    Hi, first, stop praying that you do not wake up each morning. I know you hate your job, but not waking up is a permanent situation and finding a job you "can do and really like" is a real possibility. I don't know your current job or if it is in high demand, but what can you do to further advance your skillset and make yourself more marketable? This is especially true for a position you want and think that you will like. If you stay within your industry, pick up and extra skill or two. This keeps you from starting over. If you decide to leave, what skills do you need to have (that you currently don't), so you can get the job you like and love?

  3. Barbara M.

    Many people pivot laterally, not backward, by targeting roles that value soft skills (these are transferable) over technical depth, things like client success, operations, project coordination, training, vendor management, compliance support, or internal communications. How you word things on your resume matters, for example instead of "soft skills" you may want to consider elaborating on the value they demonstrate. For example - Known for clear communication, follow-through, and ability to keep projects and clients on track in fast-paced environments. There are many Events offered by Fairygodboss that give great advice on pivoting to a new career by promoting the experience you have to offer. Watch for those and sign up to attend. It's worth it.

  4. Anonymous

    Thank you so much for this thoughtful and helpful response!

  5. Crystal Howell

    Get a recruiter that can analyze and transfer skill set to a different industry. Career changes happen all the time,it's a new year,reinvent yourself. Good luck.

  6. Anonymous

    Thank you, Crystal!

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