How much in the wrong am I for raising my voice at someone at work, who was also preventing me from working?
June 27,2022 at 5:45PM UTC
I had been working with a PM who from Day 1 had been gaslighting, controlling, manipulating my role and assignments. Partly so she could have full control over the design of the project, and partly to prevent me from taking a lead in my role.
I work in architecture, as an interior designer. For those who don't know the industry, there is a constant struggle between architects and interior designers, and in worst cases, architects have been known to prevent interior designers from owning their part of the project, and limiting them to "decorative" assignments like picking furniture and colors.
At my current job, I am a senior level designer, but I wasn't given the title of senior designer, and it's to control interior designers from taking over. Returning to my question, during a meeting that I organized, I wanted the PM to talk to everyone about what needed to be done for our next deadline, given she was also leaving. I stated the documents that needed to be provided to represent interiors scope of work and design - and her response was that it wasn't necessary. I responded on why it was necessary and she gave a goading response that basically said "F*you, go do that yourself". That's when I couldn't deal with her misdirections anymore. The documents to be completed are for pricing and budgeting for construction. To omit any information relating to the design would be limiting the budget for interiors scope and affecting not only the design but essentially throwing out the work that had been done (which was also a cycle of drama and fire drills).
I raised my voice and pointed out all the reasons why these had to be included. Someone responded that I was right - but I'm partly annoyed that I had to yell to finally be heard. Considering how this PM was, I'm sure she had reported my behavior to managers. So how bad was my reaction given the amount of stress and disrespect she put on me and the team?
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A hostile environment that makes you dread going to work.
I work in a very hostile environment. I am a Line Cook in an long time established restaurant. Recently, a new kitchen manager was hired. This girl is the absolute worst toxic, raciest, micro"manager" I have ever had the misfortune to work under.
First, she is still in college for business management. I am starting to wonder what is actually taught in those classes. I am a 10+ year experienced manager of multi-million dollar companies. However; my experience comes from moving up the ranks through work experience. I learned the legal aspects through other managers that I worked closely with.
Second, the restaurant is privately owned. She somehow thinks that the business laws do not apply to that type of company.
Ever work for someone who told you how to do your job, but never does it themselves? Yeah, that is the third issue we are having.
Next, she thinks she knows that "best way" to do things and if they aren't done "her" way, it is wrong. We won't discuss that the restaurant has been open and serving for 40 years before she came into the picture.
She hired her wife and promoted her over people who have been waiting for a promotion for years!
She took away everyone's overtime, now only her and her wife have overtime.
She has fired everyone who doesn't agree with her.
She runs with double standards, misinformation, disinformation, or NO communication at all.
She has favorites that will do special favors for her and they do not have to adhere to the "rules of her kitchen".
I went from 40+ hours a week to less than 25 and there is nothing I can do about it because ARIZONA is a "Right to Work" state? THAT is how a hostile environment is created and sustained.
I have to move to find descent work. This right to work crap is just another way to get away with bad business, and there is A LOT of bad business in AZ.
I am filing a discrimination claim, but I don't know what else to do.
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How do you tactfully ask for more money?
Nobody said anything about the amount of my raise. I just saw the difference in my paycheck. Yes, it fell in their corporate standard 3-5% but I expected more.
Since August additional responsibilities have been added not directly related to the job I was hired to do. My role is sort of a combination of customer service and account manager, processing orders and customer communications, being their advocate.
The first area added was compliance. This is handling reporting of things like conflict minerals, REACH, RoHS, PFAS, NIST, etc. The person who handled this before was terminated so I had no training. To do this I've been taking the historical records and making the rest of the process up as each request comes along. There's nobody else that can do the whole thing.
I did get trained on the second area, creating and closing jobs, before the previous person retired. The Master Scheduler drops the details into the log and I create the job, printing all the associated paperwork for the floor. (He handles some job creating himself as well.) When the jobs are completed, the paperwork is returned to me. I verify everything has been filled out and chase people down to complete it if it hasn't.
There are other responsibilities that I now have as well but they don't really take up much time to complete. The compliance and job processing duties combined are probably a half a person amount of work. I rarely take a lunch break anymore (I eat but continue working). I wasn't expecting my salary to double or anything like that (a dream) but I still expected more.
How would you approach your manager in this situation?
PS I also have to ask where my back pay is since the raise was supposed to happen in December. They pushed the process to February so all salaried employees are done at the same time.
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Several websites for job searching will only let you view to a certain point without asking for you to review your previous and/or current employers.
How do you do this honestly without burning bridges?
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When the culture of a company systemically negatively impacts the mental health of the people who work there, that’s a toxic work environment.
Even if upper management itself isn’t malicious, if the culture they’ve created allows bullies/narcissists to make everyone around them miserable because upper management looks the other way, that’s a systemic issue.
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I was employed while job hunting.
I have completed the interview process at one company and am waiting on an offer (or not, however it goes). Since completing the interview process this past Tuesday, I was let go from my current job. I know it’s going to come up in the background check, so what should I say to the recruiter if they call with an offer? I was thinking: “I can start on Monday March 11, as, due to unforeseen circumstances, I was laid off on March 1.”