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I have a relatively new employee the is a young man in his mid to late 20’s.

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I have a relatively new employee the is a young man in his mid to late 20’s. We had a vendor in town this week that took the team out to dinner. It was not a fancy restaurant, I would describe it as business casual. Here is the issue, he sat at the table with his baseball cap, his order was a little on the high side, not horrible but the eating is where it became troubling. He has some diet he described mid dinner that he said he uses that he is trying to bulk up and says that includes eating as much as he can in 5 minutes. It is disgusting, shoveling in food as fast as he can lowering his mouth over his plate with a mouth so full he looks like a chipmunk storing for winter. Then he tries to talk to one of the vendors next to him as he talks and chews. I know I need to address it but looking for some ideas around best ways to handle. Any suggestions?

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  1. Anonymous

    My immediate question is how did this vendor react? I would’ve had similar feelings to you, but can totally see another dude finding it funny or even endearing- like an older gentleman remembering those days of being a goofy 20 year old. Secondly, if this is the first occurrence of his weird chipmunk eating, hopefully he’ll move on from the phase before your next outing. If it happens again, I’d talk to a man on your team and ask him to give the young fella some tips on etiquette. It would be hard not to offend him in your position but possibly less hurtful hearing it from a third party.

  2. Anonymous

    He's a newbie and doesn't know how to handle himself. He'll figure it out.

    In the meantime don't invite him next time. If he asks why you can say his diet activities don't quit fit a business dinner. Then point him yo resources so he can learn.

  3. Anonymous

    Invite someone into your office that can provide an etiquette presentation. We do this where I work, and it helps many who have never been exposed to the proper etiquette to learn it. It's not okay to talk with your mouth full as most of us were taught this at a young age. If these types of events will be ongoing, then get together a presentation, and teach your staff proper manners for engaging over a meal. I've learned that if I am being treated for a meal out, to order after the host (if possible) and to never order a fancier meal. Or to only order something small like a salad. On another note, and something to think about, is that many people have food insecurities and we just don't know it. That could also have played into the behavior. Overall, having a conversation with the team, individually first, then bring in an expert in the field of etiquette over meals and teach them. Most enjoy this experience. One thing to teach is to remind people especially in business is this, it's about the experience, not the food. Keep us posted!

  4. Anonymous

    I think this is the only good suggestion here (no offense everyone)

  5. Anonymous

    Thank you! There are etiquette professionals that would be happy to do this over a real meal.

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