Good morning ladies! I am just wanting feedback…

26 Comments

1. AnonymousJuly 24,2024 at 2:46PM UTC

   The new job is only one piece of your life change. Try to mentally picture the whole new experience: new budget, new home, new commute, new job, etc. Then see how comfortable it feels. That might help you better identify the source of your ambivalence.

2. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 30,2024 at 5:49AM UTC

   Thanks! I have decided that the salary is too low so will stay till I get the offer.,

3. AnonymousJuly 24,2024 at 3:43PM UTC

   Just do it. There's no shame in accepting a better offer. $40k is a lot of money.

4. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 30,2024 at 5:49AM UTC

   Yes, it is.

5. maria roseJuly 24,2024 at 4:14PM UTC

   It’s not your fault that getting hired for the government job at the DoD took so long because of the bureaucracy. Eventually in that type of government job you would gain permanency which you won’t have in the same position in the private sector but that choice is yours to make. Choose by your preferences and don’t feel guilty.

6. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 30,2024 at 5:48AM UTC

   I have made my choice and will stay till I get the offer.

7. AnonymousJuly 26,2024 at 12:11PM UTC

   Have you asked for a higher starting salary? I am not sure if you’ve signed all the paperwork yet. I asked and received a higher starting step within my grade. You would have to provide proof of your current pay and an explanation of why they should increase you. It doesn’t always work, but it never hurts to ask.

8. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 30,2024 at 5:47AM UTC

   I actually did before signing the offer letter. I provided proof of current pay and an explanation. It did not work.

9. Pea WriteJuly 26,2024 at 2:21PM UTC

   Do what’s best for you. These companies have no loyalty to you and it’s not like they’re paying your bills go for it.

10. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 30,2024 at 5:46AM UTC

    Thanks! I plan to move forward and hopefully the other job offer comes soon.

11. AnonymousJuly 26,2024 at 2:35PM UTC

    My thoughts are DO NOT feel bad. They will replace you so fast. You do what you need to do be closer to your mom.

12. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 30,2024 at 5:45AM UTC

    Yes, this is true. I am grateful for the opportunities but the salary will not work in the long run for me.

13. AnonymousJuly 27,2024 at 12:32PM UTC

    Please dont feel bad. Employers these days don't give a crap about its people so please prioritize your life and do what's best for YOU.

14. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 30,2024 at 5:43AM UTC

    Yes, I plan to move forward with this plan. I’ve come too far to turn back now.

15. LaDonna CollinsJuly 27,2024 at 12:39PM UTC

    Sale your home to Open Door. We used them to sell quickly when we needed to move to another state. They paid us $130k move than we paid for our home and closed in two weeks.

16. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 28,2024 at 4:07PM UTC

    We tried selling to Open Door and they were trying to low ball us and the offer would not have even paid off the mortgage. This house was built in May 2022 so it’s a newer home. I had to decline. We are working with another agent and the issue is a new community is being built and they are selling the new builds $30k lower than market value and giving $20k in closing costs.

17. AnonymousJuly 27,2024 at 1:11PM UTC

    This may not apply, but I had applied for two position actually at the same employer. The second interview had come and I was given an offer for the first position. I contacted HR to explain I would like the opportunity to interview for the second position. If you are expecting an offer for the second position, see what the time frame is for the first position to see if you can extend the time out before making the offer.

18. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 28,2024 at 4:03PM UTC

    These positions are with two different organizations. One is Federal Government and the other is Bank. I start the Federal position tomorrow and I have completed all interviews for the Bank position but they are so business there is a delay in moving into the offer stage about two weeks.

19. Patricia ManroeJuly 28,2024 at 1:30PM UTC

    Choosing the right position when you have more is a dilemma. I feel you for wanting to be near your mother. So is the position with the better pay the one you may not stay with?

    I am from Florida too. My mother has already died, but I have 2 sisters in Atlanta. I'm somewhat considering moving up there to be closer. But my only transportation right now is a motorcycle, so the Florida weather is on my side.

20. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 30,2024 at 5:41AM UTC

    I am waiting on the position with the better pay and both jobs are in Atlanta.

21. Stephanie ButlerJuly 28,2024 at 2:30PM UTC

    What I’ve learned in my years of experience is that we are more loyal to organizations than they are to us. It’s ok to start something and then when something better comes along, to pivot; even if it impacts the organization in a way that they weren’t expecting. If your intentions are pure and you’re not doing it out of spite, you’ll be fine. Nobody has your back like you do so you have to do what you have to do for YOU. Start the position and if you need to quickly resign once the other one comes through then do that. It’s not always easy, trust me I know, but sometimes it’s worth it.

22. Clarissa McMickens-ThomasJuly 28,2024 at 3:59PM UTC

    Thank you! I am going to move forward with the plan as this job was to get me back home near my mother. The salary just will not allow me to live the life I have built for myself.

23. Jen FrischenJuly 29,2024 at 10:08PM UTC

    Truth. No company is as loyal to us as we are to them. I am finding that true as I go through my own situation right now.

24. AnonymousJuly 28,2024 at 10:21PM UTC

    Whether or not you started the DOD job, feel free to resign it if you receive the offer paying $40,000 more.

    You need to act in your own best interest and $40,000 is a tremendous pay differential.

    DOD will understand.

25. Jen FrischenJuly 29,2024 at 10:07PM UTC

    There is no way anyone would find it unreasonable that you would take a job that would pay you $40k more a year. That's a huge difference. Maybe the cost of living is far different in Georgia, but $40k is $40k.

26. AnonymousJuly 29,2024 at 1:16PM UTC

    Any business/Company would not hesitate to do what is best for them so pleeeeease do what is best for you!