I am torn about the position I am in...

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June 8,2022 at 11:29AM UTC

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I am torn about the position I am in...

I am currently 16 weeks pregnant and have not shared the news with anyone at work except a close co worker. Last week a recruiter from a company that is my current company's direct competitor reached out to me for a job that I have always wanted to pursue sometime in my career. I do not have the best working relationship with my current boss. I don't feel supported or empowered by her. Also, most of what I do is brand management and then the other half is basically what I really enjoy and so happens to be the new job I am interested in. That all being said, I am torn because 1) I am 16 weeks pregnant and 2) Is it worth jumping into a new job knowing that after I have my baby my brain might not be quite settled with a new job. I did respond to the recruiter for an initial call as I figured that wouldn't hurt, but I want to think ahead of what is reasonable but would bring my longterm happiness too. Has anyone been in this position? Or have any advice? I would really appreciate any insight, thank you!

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AnonymousJune 8,2022 at 11:54AM UTC
I know that I made a priority of enjoying my pregnancy and instinctively knew I wanted to really focus on my time with nesting and welcoming my baby into the world. For me that meant no stress, no overtime (I actually cut way back) and taking time to lean into my pregnancy, birth and first year.
Not everyone shares my attitude and many work just as hard during theur pregnancy so I'm just sharing my attitude and experience. My nesting instincts were in overdrive.
I had such a nice time focused on me, the baby and my husband. I don't think a new dream job could have swayed me one bit.
I was able to come back to work with a renewed sense of career/life balance and eventually left that job for a fully remote opportunity that pays me well and provides me more of what I now need.
Life changes, so whatever works for you is what you need to do.
AnonymousJune 8,2022 at 11:54AM UTC
First - Congratulations! I would say this is a totally personal decision on your part. If I were in your shoes, I would talk to the recruiter and ask some great questions about the role, company and team, that way I could determine if my perception lives up to the reality. If not, nothing lost. If so, you can approach it one of two ways - you can pursue the role and disclose your time off needs when you are offered/accepted the role OR you can be upfront and let them know your situation prior to moving forward and ask if you can contact them again when you are ready to begin a new role. Bottom line is that you have to do what's right for you and your family at this time.
AnonymousJune 9,2022 at 1:12AM UTC
Too much upside here not to explore the new job, plus they reached out to you.
Go through the interview process and, if they make you an offer, discuss the pregnancy.
Or, if you feel that the pregnancy would be obvious, go through the interview process and be candid that you are expected.
Best of luck and congratulations on your pregnancy!
JJJune 10,2022 at 6:57PM UTC
Some companies really support parents and that type of company will be flexible.