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I’ve been in my role 6 months now and feel like I got catfished by this company.

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I’ve been in my role 6 months now and feel like I got catfished by this company. It is a nightmare but I’ve been trying to tough it out in hopes it would get better but is becoming g glaringly apparent that it’s not a good fit.

In the meantime I’ve also been interviewing and have a job offer that I accepted and I’ve been sitting on. I’m supposed to start on Monday and am excited about it. I still was hoping there would be a sign that my current role would get better but I’m afraid not. How terrible is it to quit with no notice?

Background-I’m a mid-level manager with 15 years in my line of work. I think I’ve been sticking it out because of how a short stint may look in my resume and professional reputation. Any advice or encouragement?

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  1. Paulla Fetzek, MSEd

    It's a difficult call. On one side, you don't want to burn any proverbial "bridges". On the other side, you have a new opportunity and it's time to get started!

    If your professional career is going to be in the same field as this job you're currently in, quitting without notice could be a bad idea. It most likely will leave you ineligible to ever be rehired (which doesn't appear to be an issue), but it may also get word to other companies within the industry out that you quit without notice.

    If you're moving your career to a different field, or at least more outside of where you are, It will be your call. But keep in mind something...

    Your new job may silently think to themselves, "If a person's willing to just up and leave their current job, what's stopping them from doing this to us?" Or, they may not care.

    Either way, I wish you nothing but the best.

  2. Marcia Smith

    Do what you have to - to protect your sanity and self-esteem. If you quit without notice, I would not put this job on your resume. If you are ok with that - go for it.

    They don't deserve you!

  3. Anonymous

    If you've already accepted and you're meant to start Monday, all you have to decide now is whether it's worse to quit with no notice or not show up to an offer you've accepted.

  4. Anonymous

    I think you've already gotten over the hurdle of being with the job for a short timeframe since you already have a new role. Go with your gut and do it with confidence. If it is every questioned by honest - it wasn't a good fit.

  5. Anonymous

    I'm curious why you didn't give a 2 week notice. Don't worry about being at the current company for 6 months. It's not a good fit and clearly you have another offer so the point is mute. What matters is how you want your footprint to be left within your professional career. I would put off the new company to give your current employer 2 weeks notice. Walking out of a job into a current one with no notice doesn't brand you well. Especially if you are in a niche industry in your town. But on the other hand, congrats for getting out of a bad fit role.

  6. rgstaffing@bellsouth.net

    I agree. Most all companies always honor a 2 week notice as they would never want you to walk off the job with them.

  7. Anonymous

    You don't need to worry about how the short stint will look if you already have an accepted offer. You have only been in the role for 6 months, the 1 week notice is fine. Have you passed background checks ect? That's when I would typically give notice, but its been a terrible experience you owe them nothing. Good workers take on the guilt of leaving but they could fire and replace you tomorrow without warning. Be free- be happy!

  8. Anonymous

    Honestly a job under 1 year doesn't warrant a 2 week notice.

  9. rgstaffing@bellsouth.net

    Really?? says who?

  10. Tina Moreno

    You’re so not alone. So many of us have taken roles that ended up being drastically different from what was presented, and it’s disorienting, frustrating, and exhausting. The fact that you’ve lasted six months while still showing up and doing your best says a lot about your resilience and work ethic.

    It’s completely valid to want to move on, especially if you’ve already secured a new opportunity that excites you. That said, I do believe how we leave matters just as much as how we arrive. As a recruiter and HR professional, I always advise people to leave on the best terms possible, if only to protect their long-term professional reputation. Even in a toxic or disappointing environment, offering a standard two weeks' notice shows integrity—and that reflects on you, not them.

    I’d also encourage you to think about the flip side: if your company were letting you go, would you appreciate at least some notice? Probably yes. It’s not about giving them grace they didn’t give you—it’s about walking away proud of how you handled it.

    And to your point about wanting a sign things might get better—unless you’ve had an open, honest conversation with leadership about the misalignment between what was promised and the current reality, it’s unlikely anything will shift. But even if you have had that talk and still feel stuck, you’ve given it your best. Sometimes organizations aren’t willing to change, and strong employees move on because of it. That’s not quitting—that’s growth.

    You’ve already done the hard work of securing your next chapter. Now you get to decide how you close this one. You’re steering this ship. Just make sure that the way you exit honors the professional you are and the leader you want to continue to be. Wishing you all the best as you step into your next opportunity—you deserve it!

  11. rgstaffing@bellsouth.net

    I totally agree with this. Many of the respondents here don't seem to understand this. As a recruiter of many years, I blame poor parenting. It will matter when we move into a recession and there are plenty of candidates on the market whose references will confirm that they gave a notice when leaving. I will not work with a candidates who walks off the job.

  12. Tina Moreno

    I couldn’t help but smile at your comment—it’s bold and honestly not entirely off base, though I’d hesitate to chalk it all up to “poor parenting.” ? Sometimes, the reality is that not everyone had the kind of upbringing that taught them how to navigate workplace norms or tough professional situations. Some people were surviving, not learning polished exit strategies.

    That said, I completely agree with the heart of your point: how you leave matters. It’s not just about reputation—it’s about integrity. The professional world is smaller than we think, and those bridges we build (or burn) often come back around when we least expect it. The manager you ghosted today might be the VP or CEO at your dream company in five years, and people do remember.

    As someone who tries to take a growth-minded approach, I always encourage folks to focus on what they can control: how they show up, how they communicate, and the legacy they leave behind—even when they’re exiting a role. There are always two sides to every story, and while I love playing devil’s advocate from time to time (can’t help it!), I find it’s always best to ground advice in self-awareness, accountability, and forward-thinking.

    Appreciate your perspective—especially in a market like this, it’s a good reminder that professionalism still counts, even when things feel uncertain.

  13. Anonymous

    I was a recruiter for 22 years.

    In today’s economy, recruiters are much more forgiving for short stints.

    You already have a job offer so obviously it’s not a problem for them.

    If you have to look in the future and you have a gap of even 18 months recruiters know that the economy has been challenging since Jan 2023 so they are not going to hold it against you.

    I saw a former coworker on LinkedIn, who has spent an average of one year at every job that he’s had for the past 10 years. Yet, companies keep hiring him.

  14. Rosemary

    Yes I frequently see several 1 year positions in a row for directors and VPs!

  15. Colleen Hanson

    I think many of us have fallen victim to at least one company that misled us during the hiring process. It's frustrating because there are absolutely no repercussions for companies dishonest hiring practices, other than high employee turnover.

    That being said, many companies now days will immediately ask an employee to gather their things and leave once they give notice, so I would not worry too much about it. This company deceived you and you have a new, and hopefully much better, opportunity awaiting you so I would just run with it!

    Best of luck in your new role!

  16. Anonymous

    You were only there six months, and it won't even end up on your resume. You're good.

  17. C. Garrabrant

    A company wouldn't give you any notice if they let you go, so for a job you've only been at 6 months, a 2-week notice won't matter. You have to do what is good for your mental health.

  18. Anonymous

    A six-month stint is only a red flag if it occurs repeatedly on your resume and without explanation. Unless it is relevant to a new role you are seeking, it's not even necessary to include it.

    Resigning without notice is probably less of a problem than asking for a starting extension at the new company, so if I were you, I would opt for the lesser of two unfortunate choices. Turn in your keys, badge, and other credentials with your immediate resignation notice, thank them for the opportunity, and wish them all the best.

  19. Anonymous

    6 months catfish really sounds like a trap if you don't know which company you work, nothing clearly show on your paystub like location, pay scale, benefit, tax deduction: best suggestion move on immediately

  20. Anonymous

    Unless u intend on returning i wouldn't worry about no notice. In fact since it was 6 mo the id leave it of ur resume entirely. List roles by year and leave months out of it.

    I realize it's harder to hide that on job applications that require a month but that's the safest bet to go imo (and my OWN experience)!

  21. Anonymous

    If im ever asked if just tell them the role isn't relevant to what I am currently applying for so I felt no need to disclose.

  22. rgstaffing@bellsouth.net

    My question is why have you been sitting on this offer? It is never great to quit without a notice but not illegal. It may affect a reference but how long have you been there and do you have anyone you can use as a reference if need be?

  23. Janet Parkhurst

    Dear rgstaffing,

    She said 6 months--it's right in the headline! ??? As for the no notice thing? I've always been frustrated that when a company is done with YOU, they give you zero notice. But employees are supposed to give at least 2 weeks' notice. I say, if you have been treated disrespectfully, harassed or have had to put up with obvious lack of appreciation, take that new offer with both hands and just get the hell out of there. The funny thing is... there is no guarantee they'd give the poster a decent reference--even if she stayed the two weeks. We women have to put ourselves, first. A man would.

  24. rgstaffing@bellsouth.net

    You sound so angry.

  25. Anonymous

    Take the offer- focus on your future! I am in a similar position but no job offer- don’t wait , jobs are few and far between thee days!

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