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Unmotivated but where to start

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Unmotivated but where to start

I have been a high performer my entire career but the past year I dread everyday. I’ve been on a high profile, intense project for the past 3 years that never seems to end and the next iteration is about to kick off and I just want no part of it. I’ve told my boss as much but he said this round should be better but I don’t see it. I’ve worked with my manager in the past and he helped with this role to leave a very toxic environment at my previous company. I’m starting to look for new roles but I feel guilty potentially leaving my manager that helped me get this role 3 years ago. He knows I’m struggling, reminds me work from home benefit beats all. We are fairly paid even though we’ve had no raises in past 2 years. Suggestions on motivation or courage to be more transparent with manager?

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  1. Anonymous

    My suggestions are (1) Think about some possible goals or a dream that you want to obtain. (2) Research the goal and come up with a game plan. The current job can be a stepping stone or supply funds for the effort. (3) Follow through with your plan. Note that you also want to create blocks of YOU time in your schedule to recharge yourself and pursue the goals/dreams. Hope this helps.

  2. Anonymous

    Definitely don't feel guilty here, you have been a contributor, three years is a long time to be in this situation. You have communicated to your boss your feelings, it shouldnt be a surprise you will be looking for other opportunities. (They probably are too) Its time to look out for you. You shouldn't have to dread whats coming that is definitely not the right motivation to be happy and fulfilled.

  3. Anonymous

    Burnout is real. Don't feel guilty. Do what you have to do.

    You can also ask for/ demand help. (e.g. split some duties, someone take a lead on a call, etc.) Lessen your burden. If your boss really understands and/or believes it'll be better, let the boss prove it.

    I don't know if you need to be transparent per se. Establish boundaries.

  4. Anonymous

    Ask yourself is it worth how you are feeling emotionally? If you can find a way to balance the work load with some PTO interspersed with his help then do so. It sounds like you have a supportive manager who is willing to work with you and doesn't want to lose you as a resource. Use that to your advantage by negotiating some extended time for just you during each week uninterrupted to do something just for you.

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