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taking time away

I started a new job a few months ago, and to describe it as horrible is an understatement. I’ve tried looking for a new job, but the hiring managers are critical of me because I’m looking for a new job so quickly after starting. At lease, it feels that way. It has been very disappointing.

I have been vocal about my frustrations with other team members, who all agreed the job is not ideal. It is scary that so many people are as upset but willing to tough it out. It made me wonder if there was something wrong with me.

I’m not the type to give up and walk away. I focused on doing my best, and without the help of management, I found a mentor within the organization who has been helpful and supportive.

Currently, I’m physically and mentally beat. After working 10+ hours daily, I want to come home, sit on my patio and enjoy my backyard. It made me realize that I’m not in the right frame of mind to be presenting myself to new employers. I’ve decided to step away for a few months. Enjoy the summer, gain more skills, and see where it leads me.

There are things I want to achieve, and waiting until I have the “right” job isn’t the solution. Maybe it will come to me, or perhaps it won’t, but in the meantime, I will enjoy my patio, my books, and this little bit of free time I’ve allotted myself.

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  1. Anonymous

    stay strong!

  2. Cindy Glover

    When looking for a job / it just flat out sucks - sometimes people are just not a good fit yet it’s the potential employee that seems to get the flag of being a handful of an employee / never the employer, or even the HR Manager- it’s not fair - you should be able to be honest with your potential employer because if you don’t have that - it could set the tone of deceit - I’ve always been honest to a fault but I follow it up by saying exactly why things didn’t work out and it’s too bad and now I wished things would have been different as I did very well at such and such responsibility etc…

    ( a bit more professional but honest) and face to face

  3. Anonymous

    If you haven't been there very long, maybe leave them off your resume?

  4. Erica Nicholas

    I'm so jealous you can do that! Enjoy a wonderful summer!

  5. Anonymous

    So you think your next job will be the dream job?

    what makes your current job so toxic?

    are you resilient?

    ask yourself some tough self examining questions

    enjoy your summer!

  6. Anonymous

    OP:

    1) I never said my next job would be my dream job.

    2) that is what I plan on doing.

    3) and if you want to know how toxic the job is, my manager admitted to lying about the role because she needed solid strong people to fix the problems.

    4) so yes I am. but there comes a point where one cannot anyone. I haven’t fully reach it but it is inching close.

  7. Anonymous

    I feel your pain. I took a job just to pay the bills while I continue on my search for a job that aligns with my career goals. I hate my job and it is exhausting to search and interview while working 9 hour shifts. I too am finding that hiring managers/recruiters are focusing on my recent short term employment and questioning why I want to leave my current job so soon. I do not have it on my resume, but it has come up because it is difficult finding time to interview. I'm at the point that I'm wondering if I need to stay at this job, just to look more stable, even if it does nothing for my career growth.

  8. Anonymous

    I am in a similar situation. I view looking for a job as a job in itself, so I'm taking time off (as many months as I can) for myself. I realize it may not be quite as easy getting a job after a long break, but the pros far outweigh the cons and the corporate culture I want to find would appreciate mental health as a priority. If a potential employer does not understand or is 'critical of you' as you state, then you do not want to be a part of that culture anyway and better to learn that during the interview process than after you join. In summary: Great move on taking the break!

  9. Maggie Soldano

    Congrats on knowing what you need and having the courage to pursue it on your own time and in your own way. Bravo.

  10. Andre Jones
    Hey there! I totally get the grind you’re talking about because I’ve been through that nonstop hustle where the job just drains every bit of energy, and at some point, you realize you need a breather to even think straight, so taking a step back is actually a smart move; I started dabbling in Plinko casino during my downtime, just a few spins here and there, and it became this little escape that let me reset without overthinking, and what’s cool is how it keeps me engaged without stress, almost like practicing patience and strategy in a low-stakes way, so my tip would be to give yourself permission to chill, find tiny pockets of fun or learning, and not feel guilty about slowing down because sometimes that pause is exactly what preps you for the next move in your career or personal goals.

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