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Just got turned down for a job I interviewed for.

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Just got turned down for a job I interviewed for. I'm not gonna lie and say that I don't feel a little defeated because I do. You just never know with interviews. I know that I have to stay at the drawing board until I get that yes, but I also want to be saying yes to a good company that truely values its employees in all aspects. I want a good salary and to feel as if I belong there. I want to help the company grow just as I am growing. I don't just want a job but the job for me. I don't want a job that I will be miserable on or one that negatively impacts my mental health. I had to take a break from staring at the computer for job leads all day or incessantly checking my email. I am processing this most recent denial and then I have to get back at it. I just needed to vent if that is okay. For anyone that is job searching, hang in there and don't be hard on yourself. The right job will hopefully find you soon because just as much as you are looking for it, it is looking for you. Patting myself on the back also because even though I am sulking some today, I didn't go down a couple chocolate cupcakes from a favorite local bakery. I got a lemonade instead. When life gives you lemons....let the bitternesss help you to adjust your attitude in response to life. If you read this, thanks.

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  1. Lara Ivey Kauchak

    You will find a good fit. Hang in there!

  2. Anonymous

    Thank you.

  3. Anonymous

    Thank you.

  4. Anonymous

    Sometimes you just have to vent.

    Job hunting usually has lots of set backs along the path to the right position. Good luck!

  5. Anonymous

    Thank you.

  6. Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition Specialist

    Vent away!

  7. Taryn N

    Hang in there! Nothing is forever so chin up.

  8. Anonymous

    Thank you.

  9. Sabrina Cortes

    Getting things out always helps! Sending you good vibes.

  10. Anonymous

    Thank you.

  11. Sabrina Cortes

    You're welcome!

  12. Anonymous

    I get it! We all want these things.

  13. Anonymous

    I feel the exact same way. I’ve had bad managers to such a degree that it affected my health pretty severely, so I get it. I’m in the same boat as you are. But I have to stick to my guns and find the right company that values its employees and that especially values a hard working, very creative employee. Stick to your plan.

    Did you get the feeling this company would have been that company that truly values its employees? I’ve been trusting my gut now, for real. I did not do that with my last job, and I regret it.

  14. Anonymous

    The interview process started in July and then they told me it would be weeks before making a decision. Then they had HR to call me to see if I was still interested almost a month later. Then some days later and over a month later they set up a second interview with people outside of the agency that I would be working with. They could see that I have experience but I don't think they vibed with me. A day or so after the interview something felt off to me about it and then a day later I got the denial. I can say this though, they were not organized with the position themselves and still learning it. Maybe I did dodge some caos by not getting the offer. Thanks for your input. You hang in there as well.

  15. Anonymous

    I wish you the best of luck. I have been looking for a job for the last 6 months and it's been frustrating and depressing. At least for me, there really isn't anything anyone can say to make me feel better. I am hoping and wishing you get what you are looking for and thank you for sharing and venting. It is important because job searching and rejections can take a toll on anyone's mental health. Sending good vibes your way!

  16. Anonymous

    I hope you feel better soon. I also hope that you land a good job soon also. Don't give up.

    Yesterday I found myself reading "Oh The Places You'll Go!" by Dr. Suess. I couldnt believe that I had never read it before.. but it was truely inspirational as I needed some encouragement yesterday. You make sure to find things that encourage you also. Good Mental Health is Wealth.

  17. Lesa Edwards, Career Coach & Master Resume Writer

    Mindset is SO important in the job search...the rejections and non-responses (crickets, as I call them) aren't about YOU. They simply found another candidate that they felt fit the role better. No reason to beat yourself up, because the perfect job for you is on its way.

    It is also important to have a daily job search schedule so you can reward yourself for doing that day's job search tasks. You may not get an interview that day, and you probably won't get a job offer that day...so if these are the only metrics for success, you are setting yourself up for failure.

    Finally (and then I'll get off my job search coach soapbox): If all you are doing to look for a job is looking at job boards, you have created the perfect petri dish for job search failure. Get out there and NETWORK.

  18. Anonymous

    Thanks for this advice!

  19. Prescilla Gines

    I'm in the same boat. My faith in this job search fluctuates but I'm holding onto that small ounce of faith I still have because I need to pay a mortgage and don't want this to also setback my career. I'll be praying for you and all of our fellow female bosses searching for that right role. Good luck!

  20. Anonymous

    Thank you so Prescilla. I've had a couple of down days here this week and I am trying to not lose all motivation but it's been fluctuating. Keep that mortgage paid for sure. The right opportunity will come along for you in due time. Thanks for the encouragement.

  21. SMH

    Sorry to hear. Job searching is the worst. I wish there was a guide to figuring out the ground rules of any given interview process - all interview books I've read make poor assumptions like:

    a) the interviewer has any idea what they're doing

    b) the interviewer has any say in what happens

    c) the interviewer is realistic or knows what they want

    d) the entire process is legitimate and not for show

    e) you are told the actual hiring criteria

  22. Anonymous

    I wish we could just be honest in the process.
    Sometimes what they say they are looking for in the process isn't what they ask about in the interview. I also wish we could be honest about why previous jobs didn't work out. I try not to overdue it with videos and reading. It seems the times that I have prepped for interviews they ask me none of the stuff I prepped for lol but at least I try to prepare.

  23. Anonymous

    Thank you so much! I have been searching and haven't found the right fit - either there were red flags with an offer or I wasn't given an offer. I have been looking off and on for about 9 months and it has worn me down a bit. I am lucky to be employed while looking and am trying to make it work with my current employer but dang, some days it is so hard.

  24. Anonymous

    Do something nice for yourself today. Hang in there. You will find your right place.

  25. Maegan, Nike Sales Rep & Career Coach

    Keep going ! It sounds like you have some excellent standards and the right mindset and approach. Dont settle :)

    If you're looking to work with a coach, here's my link https://maeganmillercoaching.as.me/consultcall !

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