For anyone who had dreams and then "life happened," don't give up.

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October 25,2021 at 2:10PM UTC

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For anyone who had dreams and then "life happened," don't give up. For me, it was the long road and not the quickstep. I lived through layoffs, the 2008 housing bubble, raising children, and sick parents along with a money-grubbing ex-spouse. But be encouraged. Life makes a circle. I am now armed with higher education, lower debt, and a nest egg ready for the buyers' housing market (coming soon). Words to the younger me would be, "Life makes a circle. Pick the right life partner. Be patient—practice networking. Choose your friends wisely, and forgive those who are unkind." If any of my words helped you, please comment below.

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Lanai IsbellOctober 25,2021 at 2:56PM UTC
I have to agree with you! In the thick of it, it seems like it will never get better. But persistence pays off, as it seems to have done for you! Congratulations!
AnonymousOctober 26,2021 at 12:00AM UTC
Thank you, I refused to quit. I had lots of reasons to retreat but never did.
Nancy CincottaOctober 25,2021 at 3:18PM UTC
I needed to read this today. TFS!
AnonymousOctober 25,2021 at 11:56PM UTC
You are welcome. It's like the stars are suddenly aligning in every direction. I am grateful.
Lesa Edwards, Career Coach & Master Resume WriterOctober 25,2021 at 3:46PM UTC
Here's the thing: we think life is going to be all sunshine and puppies...but life is 50/50. How you handle the not-so-great 50% of your life is dependent on what you think about it. If you think something has gone horribly wrong, then you'll fight against it and hate one someone or something (possibly yourself).
If, on the other hand, you decide everything is happening exactly as it is supposed to, you can expect the crappy 50% and learn/grow from it.
AnonymousOctober 25,2021 at 3:57PM UTC
Thanks for the encouragement!
AnonymousOctober 25,2021 at 4:13PM UTC
Thank you for sharing! I completely agree that patience is important and there are ups and downs in life.
It's important not to get carried away by either of them b/c there is a lot of things that happen that may not have a good, clear "why" but it's important to realize that it's ok to only focus on what you can control -- which is your own behavior and how to react to all of it.
Amy and Nancy HarringtonOctober 25,2021 at 4:58PM UTC
We absolutely love this post. As women who gave us high-profile careers to follow our passions, we too can attest to the fact that you can pursue your dreams at any age. Good luck when you start house hunting!
Vandana KhannaOctober 25,2021 at 5:01PM UTC
oh absolutely! There is nothing called "perfectly laid out plans". There are more roadblocks than anyone can count on, but keep at it and dreams do come true.
ChristineOctober 25,2021 at 6:48PM UTC
I appreciate your wisdom! I am currently in the working full-time, raising small children and tending to sick parents (in-laws) place now. Thank you!
AnonymousOctober 25,2021 at 11:53PM UTC
Bow your head. Ask for wisdom. Many of us have journeys that are not quick. But it will happen. Stay alert and watchful for those life changing moments.
Georgene HuangOctober 26,2021 at 11:21PM UTC
So impressed by you! Thank you for sharing this, Christine. I know this makes others feel less alone with their juggles (me, for starters).