Kudos to your boss for investing in your professional development and so generously offering to meet with you every week! What is the goal these meetings are working toward?
Is this a promotion that they are grooming you for, or your personal development?
if these development meetings are only to YOUR benefit, and you think there is a reason that your peers should not know about your 1:1s then PROCEED WITH CAUTION BECAUSE IT SOUNDS VERY MUCH AS IF YOUR BOSS IS ABSOLUTELY PROVIDING YOU WITH SPECIAL TREATMENT!
If they are not offering this same opportunity to the other team members ...This does not position you very well with the rest of your peers if they perceive you to have special privileges, or that the rules that apply to them do not apply to you.
What your boss is doing, is great, if it is offered to everyone. If not, it is incredibly poor management and blatant favoritism.
If the boss is providing you with these one on ones on your request, to help you achieve your professional goals, then you need to recognize what you are asking is outside of the already defined times reserved by the company guidelines (such as quarterly or yearly reviews) so you need to be respectful of the perception of the team which would certainly be affected by the boss providing you with additional developmental attention.
If you are growth oriented, you should recognize this is way overboard, and be prepared to have a very clear agenda to cover, at ONE meeting, and then schedule a follow up at a reasonable period in the future after you have had enough time to execute any plans and achieve the goal set at the first meeting.
Unless these meetings are to train you for a role they are grooming you to step into, You shouldn't need your hand held with weekly 1;1 meetings... And even in that situation, your weekly development would more likely be with a variety of players not just a boss talking about you reaching your dreams, smh.
ANY leadership role will require independent decision making and task management skills that would be stunted from developing properly if meeting weekly with leadership to dissect your every move and discussions about how your assignments align with your goals(?) Huh? I am seeing red flags here
If your boss isn't recognizing this, you should.
Don't do weekly development meetings unless you are willing to deal with the fallout.
Because the boss will not be the one taking that heat
You will.
You will lose the support of your co workers and quickly find yourself with a target on your back.
Fairness is so valuable to a team culture, if your boss is not offering everyone the same 1:1 time, then there is likely very little team mentality already, and pettiness, finger pointing, and defensive self preservation will be in play quickly in the vacuum created where team work should operate.
This is NOT conducive to healthy career growth. Think less about how to title your meetings and more about what it means if you are being treated differently, and if you truly want to become a future leader..
Don't wait for a title change do be one. Your role doesn't make you a leader, the example you set for your peers with your actions, work ethic, teamwork and ethics makes you one.
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