Need opinion please.

Anonymous

May 16,2022 at 1:29AM UTC

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Need opinion please. My supervisor constantly dismisses my request to invite or include me in meetings involving my job even after I express the importance of wanting to be. He agrees and says ok, but never follow through. It’s like he forgets and always seems surprised when I confront him about it. This has happened numerous times and I get so upset and I confront him asking why? His comments are such as the meeting was nothing, it’s no big deal, let it go. When I tell him it hurt me as he deliberately ignored me, he has said things like whatever floats your boat, don’t get your blood pressure up, or he can’t help that. What type of manager does this to an employee? Is this normal responses I just have to accept from him? I’m furious and feel this is ostracism in the workplace and need some advice on what if anything I can do about it. I just don’t understand.

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AnonymousMay 16,2022 at 1:35AM UTC
Nope had the same thing happened to me and it got worse put in a lateral bids and promotion.
He will not change. Don’t try to talk sense to him
AnonymousMay 16,2022 at 1:42AM UTC
Thanks I figured I was wasting my time too.
JJMay 16,2022 at 2:32AM UTC
The kind of person who does that is a psychopath or a sociopath, but that’s neither here nor there—you have a bad boss. Even mediocre bosses are more helpful than this. You can go over his head, get other managers to support you, start showing up at his meetings, or start looking for another job.
Lesa Edwards, Career Coach & Master Resume WriterMay 16,2022 at 2:20PM UTC
Clearly your comments to your boss aren't moving the needle, so it is time to either go over his head or get out. Decide what you really want - what is the best-case scenario for you? Then pursue without doubting or second-guessing yourself.
AnonymousMay 16,2022 at 3:36PM UTC
It's called passive-aggressive behavior and it's used to avoid conflict while manipulating the situation for his benefit. It's a control mechanism.
AnonymousMay 16,2022 at 4:51PM UTC
Wow. I didn’t think of that one. I just know it’s strange he purposely does it.
AnonymousMay 16,2022 at 6:57PM UTC
Yes he does. He knows exactly what he's doing. And it is with purpose.
AnonymousMay 17,2022 at 8:06PM UTC
This reminds me of my manager. She annoyed me one last time and I started looking. I found a 100% remote job at a higher level. Now I will be a manager to 7 other people. Since I am leaving I let upper management know what was happening because I am pretty sure that whomever they replace me with will not stay unless they are hard up.