Never have I ever been treated so poorly by a manager

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November 1,2022 at 10:52PM UTC

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Never have I ever been treated so poorly by a manager

Never have I ever been treated so poorly by a manager. A few months ago, during my 90-day check-in with my supervisor, I inquired about opportunities for visibility with executive leadership since I am in a senior leadership role. In the past, I have always had leaders who either provided those opportunities or appreciated my initiative. However, that must have trigged my supervisor as they yelled at me over video and told me that I would never be an executive at the organization and that it would never happen. My attempt to request visibility was to demonstrate my skills and perceived value, as this was a new role in the organization. I wanted to ensure my survival while they (the org) looked at roles to carry over into the next fiscal year. I hoped to contribute to the gaps I have already identified, where I would be an asset. I have been holding that in for the last five months, and on some days, I feel discouraged and often get discredited for the experience and skill sets I bring.

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PatriciaNovember 2,2022 at 12:07AM UTC
I am sorry to hear that. Often, these outbursts are caused by the amount of pressure on the manager. Regardless, leaders should refrain from taking anger out on employees. Emotional regulation is a part of professionalism.
Take a look at this article, it provides some great insight: https://hbr.org/2016/11/how-to-deal-with-a-boss-who-behaves-unpredictably
AnonymousNovember 2,2022 at 2:28PM UTC
I am so sorry to hear you're going through this! It is absolutely not okay.
AnonymousNovember 2,2022 at 7:35PM UTC
Agree that's totally not ok.
Your supervisor did not find ways to get you executive visibility like any fine supervisor should want for you. You had to ask and in return you were yelled at and demeaned by your supervisor. Document the conversation, including how you felt, and document anything else that happens. Start looking for other jobs if you aren't already. No supervisor should be yelling at or demeaning an employee, period. No executive should tolerate a peevy little tyrant supervisor in their building, period - you probably can skip these execs, their leadership skills are obviously bad if they tolerate this "supervisor" in their building. I wish you so much good luck finding a great new company where you and your skills are valued. I believe in you!
AnonymousNovember 3,2022 at 3:40PM UTC
Thank you.
Jennifer TaylorNovember 8,2022 at 5:22PM UTC
Skip over your supervisor and schedule time with other senior leaders. If you are a senior leader, you shouldn't need permission.