Starting a new job and I am really anxious

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September 4,2022 at 7:12PM UTC

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Starting a new job and I am really anxious

I had a particularly toxic experience with my last employer, but now starting with a new company. I am very fortunate, but I find I am so overwhelmed with anxiety in starting new again.

Any advice on how I can get my mind in the right place would be appreciated!

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AnonymousSeptember 4,2022 at 7:44PM UTC
You need to breathe. Truly that's the best way to calm yourself, stay in the moment and to stop your fear you are projecting.
Anxiety is fear based. You are taking your prior experience and projecting it onto your brand new opportunity. That can sabotage you.
So do some deep breathing to keep yourself centered and calm those fears. Like you said you are fortunate for the opportunity and will succeed beautifully. Don't rob yourself of your ability to make the most of your new role. Remember they chose you.
If you don't know how to do breath work, Google some videos.
If you can't get through this, perhaps some therapy to address ptsd. It may be worse than you are aware.
AnonymousSeptember 4,2022 at 9:56PM UTC
I experienced this when I left my last job. I ended up making a list of all the things I liked about my new job, which helped me focus on now instead of on the past. Eventually, most the memories I held onto with my last job were the happy memories, before things changed.
Erica MitchellSeptember 5,2022 at 12:48PM UTC
Make a list of all the reasons your perfect for this role for a confidence boost.
Crystal HowellSeptember 5,2022 at 1:25PM UTC
You have to detox, focus on making friends with co workers, go to lunch, take walks in parks, don't down the last company, they don't know what happened, just say, it wasn't a good fit. No more, buy a new dress, reinvent yourself. Hang out with girlfriends not from the last job, mind over matter focus on positive vibes. Music in the car, soon it will be a small dot in the rear view mirror. You can always deep breath, bite your tongue, and breathe out slowly in rest room. Soon you will be back, exercise in morning, slight push up. good Luck!
AnonymousSeptember 6,2022 at 7:01AM UTC
i’ve been there
realize the gift of a clean slate
this is yours to make and yours to break
do all of the things you wish you could have at this new job
Danna Furnace-GrimesSeptember 12,2022 at 3:34PM UTC
I found myself in a similar position recently. I worried for months, lost sleep, etc. Finally, I sat down with my new boss and I asked them a few things. 1. If you are dissatisfied with my performance, what does that look like? 2. If you are pleased with my performance, what does that look like? 3. Am I meeting your expectations at this time? If not, what changes do you want to see?
If nothing else, it gave me peace of mind and let them know I wanted to do a good job and that I need feedback.
Good luck to you! Coming out of a situation like that is extremely hard to overcome. Be sure to give yourself grace, you deserve it.