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Help… I left a decent paying job that I was miserable at for a job that was or so I was lead to believe… a job that was a much better fit.

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Help… I left a decent paying job that I was miserable at for a job that was or so I was lead to believe… a job that was a much better fit. I was told there were health benefits, 401k, yearly bonuses, etc. I was also told they needed help getting their bookkeeping in order and more automated. What I wasn't told was that none of these things are actual fact. None of these things are in place. That they want me to do it all. I was not told that we’re expected to use our personal cell phones for work calls and that they do not reimburse you. That there is travel from two locations on a daily basis no reimbursement. I was told it would be on occasion. The books are a mess no one for nearly a year has been working in them except a self taught admin. They lied to me about the last lady leaving they said it was medical when she in fact up and quit. The books are a mess. I’m working backwards and it just gets worse daily because I have no help and stuff keeps piling up as I try to fix the previous debacle. Not only that she has numerous companies that she wants to add and I can’t even get the first one fixed. The expectations are unreal. I also took less money because they lied I was too have less responsibility yet I have much much more. I’m certainly not making what I should for the scope of work or for all the extras that a coming out of my pocket. I love to work, I love a challenge. But I feel like I was completely duped. I would have never accepted the job if I had any idea what was behind the curtain. I’m so upset with myself. They had all the right answers. I believed them just like with my prior position. I need to leave but I’m not even sure how to interview or trust my own judgement anymore. I feel so jaded!!

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  1. Ann Marie Shrader

    How important is the job and is your health work staying there? I just took a leave of absence, stating mental health as well as physical demands. They tell me (not a single piece of paper in their hands) that there is no basis for workers compensation.

    Companies lie all the time to get the best workers. That is why we are here. Good thoughts to you!

  2. Anonymous

    I’m leaving period. The lies just adding up. I cant work for a company I don’t trust! I wish you the best stay well.

  3. Anonymous

    Did you accept a written offer that didn't contain any if these details?

  4. Anonymous

    I kept asking for an offer letter they said they would have some thing for me and I had to give my notice so the other company could find someone asap it was only fair. I was way to trusting obviously and they took advantage.

  5. Anonymous

    Happens and I am in a similar boat, what I interviewed for as a fit was not the actual situation on ground... and looks like it won't be for a very long while...

    So am looking out again, and not every manager wants to get someone by duping them..

  6. Anonymous

    It sucks frankly. Sorry you’re going through this as well. I understand not everyone is like this place I’m more worried about my own radar. I thought I read these people pretty well and I was way off base!

  7. Kat

    Reach out to your network and tell them you're looking. It's a good place to start because they'll be able to tell you what it's like working for their own companies before you apply. Lots of companies misrepresent things to get you hired, so don't be too mad at yourself for that. You know what you did wrong, so learn from your mistakes. Do more research, read reviews, and don't believe everything they tell you next time. Good luck with the job search.

  8. Anonymous

    If they are not willing to provide temporary resources to help get the books in order, I would leave. Good luck!

  9. DeBorah Walker

    Wow...you were lied to outrageously. I would prepare to leave; however have a conversation with your immediate current boss and let him/her know that you can handle one project at a time, and demand that you are reimbursed for your travelling expenses. The phone might be difficult, because most people have all inclusive sophisticated phone plans now.

    You are in the drivers seat, so lead as best as you can, and plan on leaving. Do not be afraid to make some demands...(pick them wisely) and make them need you desperately, like they deceived you, because they needed you desperately.

    Good luck!

  10. Anonymous

    This also happened to me. I left a high-paying toxic work place job for a lower level, lower paying one because they promised support staff and work life balance. After two months it was clear that was not the case. The hours are long and I am salaried. I can’t catch up on my work during the week and my boss asked my to work weekends to catch up. My assistant has numerous personal problems and I have had to issue a written warning already. After two months I resigned, my boss asked me to stay and reduced some of the work load. I stayed because I didn’t have another job. After four months there have been minor improvements but I am still seeking another job. I would first talk to them and see if any adjustments can be made. It sounds like you know you are leaving, but see if you can wait it out until a new position comes along. If no adjustments can be made, figure out how you can best leave without having to suffer unemployment. Make a plan, I apply for three jobs a day and I think I am close to getting a new one. Stay strong this situation is very hard. I wish you the best.

  11. GirlBossanova934974

    As a former CPA myself, I can understand the issues here. It is quite possible that the owner of this company has no idea of the shape of the books. If it were me, I would be very candid with the business owner. This is going to cost you more money to fix these issues. I would put together a full cost breakdown and provide it. This will result in a one time payment of X plus so much more per hour. I would present the challenges and accounting discrepancies at 10,000 foot level. It is going to take Y number of months to fix.....Done! If the business owner says NO to all of it, I would be quickly out the door. It is quite possible that some negotiation will be in order. Best of Luck.

  12. Kat

    I do like your approach, provided the boss is aware of the situation and is willing to put in the time, money and effort to fix it. This seems like too big of a job for one person though, since OP is constantly falling behind. Sounds like they would need to add at least one extra person (if not a whole team, depending on company size/project complexity) to help OP out. If the boss says no, that's all the incentive you need to get out as fast as you can.

  13. Jennifer George

    same thing happened to me last year.

  14. Anonymous

    In California a company must reimburse you for the use of your personal phone. It is the law. Any work related expenses are also reimbursable. Contact the EEOC and file a formal complaint and start looking for a new job immediately. Do not blame yourself.

  15. Julie E

    A similar thing happened to one of my friends and she quit, which she was lucky to be able to do. I ask in interviews what the biggest challenges are and what they want me to accomplish in the first few months. A lot of times you can tell by their answers if they’re disorganized. Also if they mention anything about turnover run! I actually was in a final interview where one of the panel let it slip that no one sticks around. If I sense any chaos in the interview I keep looking elsewhere

  16. mcasterlloyd

    Make an escape plan! This could happen to any of us. Get the benefits in writing before you accept the next offer.

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