What is the best way to handle situation when your manager doesn't like you? My job is easy for me and I try my best to do a good job but she is always making digs at me. I am trying to not share personal information but even the slightest letting down of my guard opens the door for her to insult me. Any advice is appreciated to help make it through this job as I search for a new job.

8 Comments

1. AnonymousMay 30,2024 at 3:28AM UTC

   Try to move to another department. Talk with others to see if it is just you or she is like that with everyone. If the latter, just ignore her mentally. Mock her in your head.

2. AnonymousMay 30,2024 at 4:28AM UTC

   Keep your distance. Do not let your guard down in the slightest. This is more a result of her issues than yours but you must mind your boundaries. There is no magic answer. No special advice. Keep your distance as much as possible. Don't say anything that is not an answer to her questions or just good morning and good night. She looks for an in. Don't give it to her. ..

3. AnonymousMay 30,2024 at 3:08PM UTC

   I had this situation on a couple of occasions. In both cases, it was a woman and one was threatened by me and took every opportunity to insult me, harass me, etc. I tried to avoid her, however the fix was in and I was forced to resign.

   The other instance was a VIP, and will never for the life of me understand what was the problem she had with me. I tried to avoid her as best I could.

4. AnonymousMay 30,2024 at 5:02PM UTC

   This happened to me, my boss called me stupid when I was 1 month into the role over something that I would have never have known unless she properly coached me / onboarded me. I hung in there for a little over a year, lost a lot of hair due to the stress, got physically sick and froze because that’s what I do when I’m scared. My biggest regret is not taking charge of my own fate and getting out of there on my own terms. She belittled me, and just a few months ago they”eliminated my role” - which wasn’t true, she just wanted me gone. Please follow your intuition and do your best to apply internally or externally as soon as possible. Best of luck

5. AnonymousMay 31,2024 at 12:33PM UTC

   Hi OP, can you say more about the digs and the comments? I'm asking because, depending on what's being said, this may be an HR issue—as in, is this person creating a hostile work environment, possibly engaging in sexist, racist, or other discriminatory behavior?

6. AnonymousMay 31,2024 at 2:23PM UTC

   Threatening to withhold approval of PTO (provided that it has been accused) is an HR issue. Your PTO is part of your compensation package.

7. AnonymousMay 31,2024 at 3:17PM UTC

   Stop sharing personal information. PERIOD. Keep it purely professional and on task and DO NOT let your emotions get the best of you. Don’t take her childish behavior personally. She has issues of her OWN that has nothing to do with you. Don’t even react or acknowledge her comments. She WANTS you to react so don’t give her that satisfaction! After a few times with no response or reaction, it should stop. Depending on what these slights are, it may be an HR issue (racist/sexist etc.) We don’t go to work to be best buddies with everyone we work with and same goes for your boss. You can’t expect everyone to like you but you should be able to have a working relationship regardless.

8. AnonymousJune 1,2024 at 2:20PM UTC

   Wow.Nothing is worse than an insecure boss. Share zero personal information, keep it strictly professional, dont take things personally. Behind the scenes work your connections to get a new job opportunity elsewhere or under someone else in the company. Don’t be your own worst enemy by staying in your feels about someone who is obviously insecure and threatened by you.