Feeling so down after yesterday's interview.

Anonymous

September 28,2022 at 4:47PM UTC

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Feeling so down after yesterday's interview. It was for the fifth round with the company and everyone said she was such a great person that I was excited about the interview especially based on past interactions.

The interviewer was late and jumped right in and it was question and answer without any brevity between the correspondence. Due to the lack of any connection, I felt myself becoming flustered.

While prepared, I didn't do my best and I'm kicking myself as it's been months of time interviewing with this company only to flat line like this crashing end. The only thing this spared me from is the final interview but why do people have to act like this when it's an already stressful situation!

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AnonymousSeptember 28,2022 at 5:17PM UTC
So sorry this happened. You may still be in the running. Everyone on the team loved you. Maybe they can balance out the impression on this particular round.
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AnonymousSeptember 28,2022 at 5:36PM UTC
Thank you so much for your kind words! Going into the interview I felt prepared and even excited to showcase what I could offer the company. I was feeling discouraged that I deliver my best. You've reminded me that it's not over until hearing back and I appreciate your positivity. I have an interview with another company on Friday and I'll turn my attention to the new opportunity while trying to remain hopeful about yesterday's.
AnonymousSeptember 28,2022 at 6:09PM UTC
I think everyone has had interviews where you felt confident and prepared just to be turned around by the interaction. I bet you were not at all as flustered as you think you were. Was the final interview with the hiring manager or someone else? I have had interviews where the interviewer was rapid fire questions, no rapport and knew I didn't do my best but was still offered the job because the hiring manager wanted me. It literally just happened to me, and I'm starting a new job in Oct. I am sending you positive vibes and luck!
Jessica MinterSeptember 28,2022 at 6:57PM UTC
Yikes - that's a bummer and I can empathize with you starting to loose confidence based on the interviewers demeanor. However, being on the 5th interview means volumes - so you have been doing an excellent job! Hopefully, the others on the interview panel can vouch for you and may be able to 'override' any potential negatives from this individual. Either way, you never know. Stay positive and send a stellar thank you note that can hit on some of the things you wished you would've honed in on during the interview (if you haven't already)!
AnonymousSeptember 28,2022 at 11:10PM UTC
Thank you, ,Jessica. I followed up this afternoon and conveyed my appreciation as well as included a short pitch regarding what I could do for the company. I was ready to throw in the towel so I appreciated everyone's advice.
Shelly EdwardsSeptember 28,2022 at 7:12PM UTC
We've all been there. Sometimes they do it because of a bad situation, like running late and trying to finish on time, and other times they do it to see how you handle a more stressful situation. I would send the interviewer a follow up email, highlighting the qualifications you would have wanted to present in a stronger way and saying you are looking forward to the next steps. Good luck!
AnonymousSeptember 28,2022 at 11:08PM UTC
Great idea, Shelly. I appreciate the advice and I'll do so.
AnonymousSeptember 28,2022 at 9:23PM UTC
No more than three rounds are acceptable in today's job market. Any recruiter will tell you that. More than three are red flags for working at the company.
AnonymousSeptember 28,2022 at 11:07PM UTC
I didn't know that and thank you for the heads up. I'll keep that in mind for future interviews.
Lesa Edwards, Career Coach & Master Resume WriterSeptember 29,2022 at 3:36PM UTC
Your opinion is that you didn't do well...unless someone told you you bombed it. Learn from the experience, but there is absolutely no upside in beating yourself up. If this position is meant for you, you will get it. If not, something even better is on its way to you...believe it.
AnonymousSeptember 29,2022 at 10:44PM UTC
Thank you, Lesa! I'll try to remain hopeful but the interview ended with they'll be in touch shortly in order not to waste my time. That doesn't sound promising. I'm concentrating on other opportunities but I was really excited about this role.