I am making plans to leave my job by late spring/early summer, as in career change.

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November 17,2022 at 6:08PM UTC

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I am making plans to leave my job by late spring/early summer, as in career change. I am doing my best to stay afloat and bide my time for now, but I am to the point I can’t stand a lot of people who have returned to the office. A lot of them are frankly assholes and they are favored by management. Thankfully I don’t work on projects with any of these people, but I have quietly pulled back and don’t attend company events anymore because I don’t want to be around these particular people. Most of the people I was friends with left the company, so I am alone. How do I tolerate being at my current company without losing it on these jerks? I don’t want to let these jerks push me away before my planned time to leave. I am working on a certification to change careers, so I know this is temporary. I get along with my manager and some people I am cordial with, but they are also friends with these assholes in the office. Most days I can tune them out, but some days like this week have been more challenging.

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AnonymousNovember 17,2022 at 6:38PM UTC
Why on earth would you ever risk your plan on people you do not like? I would use self control and keep my eye on the prize of leaving on my terms and on my time table.
AnonymousNovember 17,2022 at 7:46PM UTC
You could dial it down a bit. No one would risk their plan on people they don’t like-people have been pushed out over jerks because nothing is done about it. I hope you never had that happen to you. I have seen it happen to others.
AnonymousNovember 17,2022 at 7:19PM UTC
Been in that situation where my pleasant long term employees left the organization, leaving several incompetent, unkind, selfish and loud employees in their place. I only attended specific company events and counted the days til I could exit gracefully. Never want to burn bridges, as we never know who will turn up in your future.
AnonymousNovember 17,2022 at 9:25PM UTC
I hear you. What is your office situation like? Do you have a private office? How much flexibility do you have? Some of the tools I use to handle "no longer wanting to be around the people I work with" are listening to music during my work day, making my office feel really cozy (at the temperature I need, low lighting, smells good), and getting up and going for walks on my breaks so I'm outside and away from people. I'm not allowed to work remotely, but it might be worth it to see if you can work a hybrid schedule. Then at least you wouldn't be stuck with people or in a place you don't really want to be.
AnonymousNovember 18,2022 at 5:05PM UTC
This is a hard one, the best advice I can give is put your head down and grind it out. Unless you can afford to quit before you have your certification, you need this job. The advice to get headphones and listen to music, is great, I do this all the time.
To keep from getting sucked into a completely negative mindset, see if you can find 1-2 things you are grateful for about your job each day. Try to change it up so it's not just that it pays the bills or that you like your manager.
Also, try to give yourself something to look forward to at lunch and/or the end of the day. My last job was really toxic, but I had a long lunch. I used it to go take an exercise class and it was great; it got me out of the office and gave me energy to get thru the rest of the day. If that isn't your thing, see if friends outside of work can meet with you at lunch. They can give you that social boost in the middle of the day, that will get you thru the rest of the day.
The most important thing to remember is that you have a plan, you will get out. When you feel like you just can't take it any more, lean into that. It will give you the strength to keep going.
Good luck! :)
frankieNovember 19,2022 at 7:52AM UTC
Such an excellent response! Agree agree agree!