Interviewed for a job and it might lead to an offer based on the hiring manager's comments.

Anonymous

November 2,2022 at 2:47PM UTC

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Interviewed for a job and it might lead to an offer based on the hiring manager's comments. My worry is that they weren't clear when an offer would be extended as they still had to complete scheduled interviews. Flash forward, I interviewed with company before that one that I would normally chase but I'm holding back until knowing what will happen with the aforementioned position.

To put into context, both jobs require traveling to locations more than 8 hours away or I would follow up now. While I want to revisit conversations with the second option, money is a factor.

I have a feeling that if I follow up, I would get the final interview but that requires traveling again and spending a lot of extra money and I have dwindling savings. Company 2, I interviewed with previously and due to the executive director's schedule, we needed to hold off until this week to schedule an all-day meeting on the West Coast. While waiting, the East Coast interviews I referenced occurred.

If I end up getting the EC job, I need to relocate. I already spent half my savings going for the first job's three rounds so I'm leery to wipe out the rest for a chance that might not lead to anything as I'm not working. The WC's final round needs to be in person as they want me to meet with teams and visit venues so I'm not sure what to do. Thank you and I'd appreciate your advice!

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AnonymousNovember 2,2022 at 3:09PM UTC
I wouldn't interview for a job across the country that required relocation an in-person interviews if they weren't reimbursing me for those. Has that been part of your conversation?
AnonymousNovember 2,2022 at 4:18PM UTC
May I ask why you're paying for all the travel, normally the company would pay this expense.
Tracey MorrisNovember 2,2022 at 4:56PM UTC
I have never asked a candidate to travel to our location at their expense. We always reimburse or pay for travel on their behalf. I would be questioning that for sure!
AnonymousNovember 2,2022 at 5:16PM UTC
OP: To clarify, early in my job searching, I disclosed during interviews that I would relocate for a role at my own expense. That stopped conversations as recruiters were told to hire local especially for the cities where I'm applying.
Through my own actions, I've convinced companies that I'm local which created more interviews and advancement to final rounds. It's not their fault but something I've needed to do in order to job search in other locations that match my background.
I have tried applying for remote roles but I'm finding that my field requires at least hybrid due to managing events and partnerships. While I don't want to lie, I've found that I needed to use friends addresses in both locations in order to advance. I saved money before attempting this plan but the long process and needing to be in-person for final round (s) is daunting. I'm caught in a no-win situation where if I'm honest, I don't proceed and if I do, need to accrue the expense for each interview.
Heather CutlerNovember 2,2022 at 6:00PM UTC
This additional context is helpful. Geographical moves to take a new job are challenging, and for exactly the reasons you mention. You need to have a local address, recruiters want people from the area, etc. Unfortunately, the omission about your actual location is now becoming very costly. And it was high-risk, especially if neither organization makes a job offer.
If at all possible, please try to untangle this web. I'd hate the thought of an unintentional slip about cross-country move. A fib like this to a new employer will be hard to manage and could potentially destroy trust.
Best wishes in your next steps and keep us posted.
AnonymousNovember 2,2022 at 9:05PM UTC
Thank you, Heather. I've concentrated on an out-of-town position at a time and only traveling for a final round if it's a position I want to pursue. I'm in a difficult situation as if I'm honest, I get removed from the process as I'm not local but I don't want to lie. Therefore I've created my once a month approach to traveling for an interview. What happened this time, is that an interview popped in while I was waiting for the other to arrange the final interview. I have had two additional rounds for the prior role. I know I want to relocate but I'm trying to be careful so that I'd have enough to do so at my own expense. While I need to use a friend's address, it's then my responsibility to relocate. Thank you for the best wishes!
Lara Ivey KauchakNovember 2,2022 at 5:44PM UTC
Even if you would relocate at your expense, they should pay for the interviews...
AnonymousNovember 3,2022 at 2:55PM UTC
Lara, they don't realize I'm not local. When job searching from another area and in this market, I need to avoid as many obstacles as I can to continue on in the process. The cities that I'm targeting already have a lot of applicants in my field so I can't add that I'm out-of-town to the conversation.