Not happy in new job

10 Comments

1. AnonymousJune 14,2023 at 10:07PM UTC

   I'm middle aged (49) and in a job that is not what I signed up for (process changed a lot!) However, I working a HUGE organization and the benefits are the best I have EVER had.

   My partner staff is in India, I'm in E Tennessee - but thanks to technology, we do our best

   I'm going to persavere and if it doesn't work on MY role/dept, I'll find another one comparable

   Regarding trusting your guidance: give them time. Maybe give options (a, b, c are good routes to try) and let them have the control until they are more comfortable with you.

   Don't give up. Personally, I'm too old for the interview crap and my goal is retirement. To build my career (new start since Covid) and do everything it takes to RETIRE

2. AnonymousJune 15,2023 at 2:19PM UTC

   I agree 100% that they should be given time since its been only 2 months. Most of your new colleagues are still getting to know you at this stage. I would be worried if you've been at the job for 6 months or more and that is happening.

3. AnonymousJune 15,2023 at 8:36PM UTC

   Thank you! You made great points. It is still pretty early and I need to give it some time. I'm 46 and really not looking to switch jobs again. I'd prefer to just retire too ;)

4. AnonymousJune 15,2023 at 8:43PM UTC

   I get it!! I'm just playing the game so to speak. Friendly with everyone, and we have a bunch of employee resource groups (not a big club person but I'm glad I joined - good people). There's a lot of busy work as well - I don't complain -- I just get done (easier than starting over!!)All I want is to be successful and seen as an asset (not to show off like some young people may want to; over social media!!!) Hang in there....I totally get it. Completely.

5. AnonymousJune 16,2023 at 12:53PM UTC

   2 months isn't a long time. I really suspect the fact that you're new is why people aren't listening to your guidance yet and it doesn't have anything to do with your age or gender - 2 months in and if most people you work with aren't physically in the same office as you, it takes longer to build up your positive reputation. I'd definitely give it more time. If the hours are already bad though and you're salaried, maybe see what you can do about setting better boundaries there. Maybe they need to hire more people, but they won't see that if all the work is magically getting done with the people they do have.

6. AnonymousJune 16,2023 at 1:21PM UTC

   Oh wow, I can relate so well. I’m in a very similar situation. There are a lot of pros (benefits/salary and telework), but the job isn’t what I was sold and is incredibly busy and demanding Im caring fir an elderly parent also. For me personally, I am looking to find another position with the company and also look for another opportunity. I’m interested in what you decide to do.

7. AnonymousJune 16,2023 at 3:38PM UTC

   I'm also in IT and I moved from for-profit to non-profit and I will say, it was like moving to the land of 30 years ago. Things that I thought were table stakes in IT were suddenly major projects. If you have moved to a large organization OR to an organization that is not as advanced as your previous company's you will need to sit back and build your credibility. It takes time in slow-moving companies but once you build it, you will be a rock star.

   Keep in mind, a new company, especially if you are teleworking, will take double the time to integrate into because you can't just jump up and join a water cooler conversation. There is no 'smoking section' to see. You have to make relationships like you would on social media. Ask questions and give information. Add things to your emails to convey the emotion that is relevant to the culture you are working with. For instance, everyone that has kids/grandkids has a common topic. Find out hobbies and ask questions in that area. Use them as sign-offs on your emails and IMs. It will take a while but it will absolutely pay off.

   How do I know, I have created these types of relationships with people I have worked with sister companies and contractors from Denmark, India, Poland, and a long time ago Ukraine/Russia not to mention three of four US time zones and Canada!

8. AnonymousJune 16,2023 at 10:00PM UTC

   I was in your boat just a few months ago and posted something very similar to your post here. My last job, people immediately gave me respect and trusted my opinion. That hasn’t been the case in my new job, but people are slowly giving me some credit now 6 months in. I would give it some time unless you are truly miserable.

9. AnonymousJune 17,2023 at 5:25AM UTC

   I agree. This is a transition phase and so, you should wait to see how it pans out.

10. AnonymousSeptember 7,2023 at 7:22PM UTC

    OP here. Just an update. I'm happy with the team I have now and the projects in my portfolio. The only thing that's getting worse is my manager. He is the ultimate micromanager and constantly gives negative feedback. It's not just to me but I notice to the other managers as well. He 'scolds' his direct reports, including me, several times a week. He also drops urgent deadlines to us via Teams and demands immediate attention to his requests. It's exhausting. I'm either going to try to stay for another 6 months to keep my signing bonus and then leaving OR just jumping ship now.