Is it weird

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1. JJJanuary 13,2023 at 4:03PM UTC

   Sounds perfectly normal to me.

2. Jocelyn LyonsJanuary 13,2023 at 4:13PM UTC

   I don't think it's weird. I am introverted and feel like the energy drains from me when I have to be "on" for customers and also "on" with colleagues.

3. AnonymousJanuary 13,2023 at 4:28PM UTC

   Suffering from anxiety is very real and can be felt in many ways.

   There are countless article's, books and video on techniques to try to better handle this disorder and give you some peace. I would start there.

   If that doesn't help I would speak with your doctor to explore other options .

4. AnonymousJanuary 13,2023 at 5:13PM UTC

   It is not weird but it could be an issue in the bank of a toxic environment. I once worked at an office that on Sunday afternoon I started getting stressed out thinking about going in the next day. Maybe you need to assess is it you or is it them.

5. AmyJanuary 13,2023 at 5:17PM UTC

   You are not alone. (pun not intended but made me chuckle) Even if you wish you were. If it is how you feel than it is not weird.

6. AnonymousJanuary 13,2023 at 6:52PM UTC

   Not weird at all. I enjoy working by myself though in my current position I can't always be by myself.

7. Glenport LifeJanuary 14,2023 at 12:06PM UTC

   nope not weird at all?

8. Jacquelynn LucasJanuary 14,2023 at 1:30PM UTC

   Not weird, just different personalities. I enjoy socialization for a short period of time but also need to recharge from it. It is exhausting for some. Others thrive on it. People are just different.

9. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 1:24PM UTC

   Not weird. I love working alone. I’m a manager and have quite a few people reporting into me. Whenever they are quiet and cracking on with their tasks is when I’m at my happiest. I am not a people person so have to work extremely hard to have so many people reporting into me. If the salary was the same working alone I 100% would be in a stand alone role. This sounds like you are similar to me. I have read so many books and my frame of mind just doesn’t change. I like all my team but when 5pm comes they are gone from my mind. I don’t socialise with them or speak to them out of work. I’m not part of any text groups etc because of this I have to work extra hard to make sure I am amazing at my job. I use my young child as an excuse all the time. People at work think I’m a single mother, I’ve been in a loving relationship for 13 years. I have never told them this, they just assumed and i have never corrected them. i feel your pain. It gets easier with time. Love these anonymous posts, being able to get things off my chest and speak honestly is the best.

10. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 2:17PM UTC

    I’m also not a people person, but considering becoming a manager (my boss thinks I’ll be good at it). I’ve been looking at the pro/cons, but can’t decide.

    Do you have advice for those of us who are introverts or not people people and are thinking of being managers? TIA!

11. Julie EJanuary 15,2023 at 4:58PM UTC

    I would reconsider. I've worked for a non-people person manager and my ex-husband hired one to run a division in his construction company. Miserable experiences. Being good at your job and being a manager are two different skillsets. A good manager can motivate the team, handle conflicts, go to bat for the team, etc. Someone who's not a people person won't have those skills, at least not to do it well. They'll be more likely to wish the problem to just go away. At least that's been my experience.

12. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 1:44PM UTC

    Gossip is why

13. RhondaJanuary 15,2023 at 1:46PM UTC

    First, it is not weird (as many others are saying), but it also might not be everybody's cup of tea. I bet you have co-workers who hate it as much as you love it!

    So, my advice is to tell your manager that you enjoy working the drive-thru . Of course, skip the "I don't want to be inside" part. I bet some of your extroverted friends would LOVE to give up being out there alone.

14. Lakota SierraJanuary 15,2023 at 2:05PM UTC

    I can relate to your situation very well. I have been a teacher for 35 years and I get so sick of the immature gossip. I work with a bunch of immature women. Management will go behind people's backs and talk about them. I like working alone and by myself as well. It gets frustrating working with co-workers. Trust me. I know.

15. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 2:10PM UTC

    i feel you. In my current job we have limited office space. Most of my coworkers love to crowd into one room. I can’t stand it because I am ADD and introverted. I have to get creative about finding workspace where I don’t feel distracted and anxious.

16. Alison PerrinJanuary 15,2023 at 2:32PM UTC

    This is a classic sign that you are an introvert, as I am. You are rejuvenated by being alone and your energy is drained by interacting with a lot of people

17. AyianJanuary 15,2023 at 2:34PM UTC

    No. The best and worst thing for your central nervous system is other humans. Which ones and their relationship to you determines the positivity or negativity of that impact.

18. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 2:53PM UTC

    You are probably an empath. I am. People suck the energy right out of me. However, I have learned to laugh to myself when so coworkers are so “crazy” and get upset by the most insignificant details! I have bugger fish to fry

19. MHRJanuary 15,2023 at 2:54PM UTC

    Me too!!

20. DeBorah WalkerJanuary 15,2023 at 3:15PM UTC

    Absolutely not. You're an independent worker and you are confident enough to work alone. This definitely could be a sign that you're not happy in your environment; and maybe you need to pursue opportunities where you can work independently but be mindful; that there may be times that you will have to be part of a team. However, most of the time you're working independently. it's not weird at all as a matter of fact I can play the team role but I love working alone also. I prefer it.

21. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 3:23PM UTC

    Many years ago I worked in an office with others and at one point, I had to work in a smaller office at the front by myself (it was a rotating role amongst the employees). When I had to go back to the office with the others, after two weeks I asked if I could be in the front office by myself, permanently (fortunately they said yes.). I would have interactions with others throughout the day, if needed, but was by myself 80% of the time!

    I gave to add that I AM a people person, but LOVE it when I don’t have to deal directly with people at work when I work by myself. I get more done, I focus better. And I do not have to hear the chattiness (or cattiness) of others. I also currently work by myself now and love it. I also find, interestingly, that I am getting even more like this as I get older.

22. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 4:01PM UTC

    Absolutely not weird. True story: I've found myself to be the same way especially since late 2021. You won't believe how inwardly excited I get that I'll have the office to myself and we are only three. I am introverted so yeah I need psyching up to deal with people. You are not alone and you're most definitely not weird. Embrace who you are at laugh at it by enjoying the cool and funny introvert memes available on Google.??

23. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 4:21PM UTC

    Since you mentioned energy…have you ever shielded yourself energetically. This is to keep out negative energies from not sticking onto you and drain you. Everyone is different on how they look at energy but this has helped me with work situations. Especially if you are sensitive to subtle energy. Not everyone has that sensitivity but if you do then this will make sense to you. Check out energetic shielding on YouTube to find a way that can work for you!

24. CosmosMomJanuary 15,2023 at 4:30PM UTC

    it doesn’t sound weird to me, I’m an introvert. I can work 12 hours straight by myself, no problem, but I’m exhausted after one hour in the office. People exhaust me.

25. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 4:32PM UTC

    Hi,
    One thing I can tell you is that..you will forever surround yourself with individuals who do not align with your personality, lifestyle, and belief system and those values that are important to you. You are at work to put food on the table and a roof over your head. You are not at work to make friends. You are there to work. My advise to you is to walk in there with that mindset. You respect them and follow your employee handbook. If they do something that is not in the employee handbook. Then start documenting the incident, the people involved, and date/time. Email it to yourself. Remember too...that it is best to find a job that is your passion and aligned with your dreams. I have a similar situation. Before I enter that space I begin with being grateful for the job and the people in it. I ask the universe to protect me and give me strength for the day. Lastly, I pretend I later myself with layers and layers of oil. This way whatever words and energy come my way bounces right of. This seems to help. Remember too...that angry people make others angry. Sad people make others sad. A wise women once said to me " before you label yourself sad, crazy, depressed, and of balance. Look around and see if you are around A-holes."

26. Shelby CJanuary 15,2023 at 4:56PM UTC

    Well stated and comprehensive answer. Some people are emotional vampires.

27. Shelby CJanuary 15,2023 at 4:58PM UTC

    I do not think it's uncommon for introverts. I would caution you to make sure you are in an emotionally healthy environment.

28. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 5:02PM UTC

    That is not weird or at least that is a weirdness you share with others.

    When I realized this about myself, I started to seek out WFH jobs. This allowed me to do my job in relative peace.

    The downside is that now the pandemic is waning, the WFH jobs include in-person time. I always feel drained by those.

    The one caution I would have is that when you are the quieter team member who values alone time, it is easy to be overlooked and forgotten.

    So, make sure that you do spend some time with your co-workers and that you are heard in that environment.

29. Arlene Frances Gottardo (Bryak)January 15,2023 at 5:03PM UTC

    You like to work independently!

30. Julie EJanuary 15,2023 at 5:04PM UTC

    It means you're an introvert. I would either ask if you could work the teller window all of the time or start looking into other occupations where you don't have to interact with people, like data entry. I'm the opposite of you. Working from home during the pandemic was brutal. I came from marketing and business development though where I'd attend networking events to sitting at a desk by myself in my house for 8 hours. It was awful for me. We're all different, which is good because different jobs fit different personalities better. The world needs all of us.

31. Lisa MarieJanuary 15,2023 at 5:46PM UTC

    Definitely NOT weird.

    You obviously enjoy working independently, and dread situations involving long periods of time with tram members.

    As I'm sure orhers have already suggested, ask if you can be assigned to do work where you'll be able to work independently of other team members *BUT* be sure you are prepared to produce just as much as if other team members were doing their part. If you cannot produce the same on your own, then you'll either have to learn how to work with others, or find a job where you can work on your own.

32. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 7:12PM UTC

    Not at all - social interaction recharges extroverts and drains introverts. I'm *extremely* introverted and even though I'm not in a customer-facing role, I often come home on my in-office days exhausted just from sensory and social overload (which is frustrating because it really isn't that much!). I'm lucky enough to have a job where I'm free to manage my work independently, while still being part of a team (team culture being the general norm, I've always kinda felt like I've had to grow my career on hard mode, and that I'm unlikely to find something where I can be 100% independent).

    And of course, the people you work with can be the difference. There's only a handful of people who can ruin a good day for me, so I avoid them as much as I can. Luckily, only one of them is someone I have to work with every day, and we're working on bridging our personality differences, which I probably owe to having an open communication style (yours may be different).

    For now, just make sure you set aside enough alone time to relax and recharge. Over time, it may get easier to work inside as people come and go, or as your working relationships evolve.

33. Crystal HowellJanuary 15,2023 at 9:23PM UTC

    No, you just prefer to work alone. co workers can drain your energy if you allow them, just be preppy, positive, and leave negative water cooler groups. Maybe find someone who prefers to not be on drive thru duty and switch, since they like being inside, ask your mgr.?

34. AnonymousJanuary 15,2023 at 11:33PM UTC

    Nope, not weird at all. You identified how you'd prefer to work and that's okay. Unfortunately, as long as we work in any social/office setting, we will have to deal with other people aka our co-workers. May I suggest you find the best way to be cordial and respectful to your co-workers without being pressured into joining their non-work/water cooler banter? If you can, then you're setting your boundaries within the workplace without being an outcast or that "odd" co-worker. For example, if you were to ignore or walk off from co-workers in mid-conversation, etc., it unfortunately sets the idea that you are stand offish and rude. Instead, if you were to just say something like, "it's nice to see you, but I've got to get back to...(whatever you're doing)" then it's an easy message to send that you are not into the chit chat if it's not work related. I hope this helps you!

35. Charmaine WebbJanuary 16,2023 at 12:24AM UTC

    You sound like you are an introvert and like many of us we like to work alone. In groups our energy can be drained. When you take breaks and lunch try to take them in a quiet area where you can be by yourself or have space from others. This usually helps me energize myself.

36. Maggie PandalianoJanuary 16,2023 at 2:10AM UTC

    This NOT weird! Many people are saying you’re likely an introvert, which could be true. But I assume working the window means you’re interacting with customers which is part of your happy place. I wonder if the issue is that your work environment/coworker dynamic isn’t heathy for you and that’s ok. Maybe time to either ask to work at the window permanently or find a new job?

    we all have our own preferences and boundaries and I think it’s important to set yours so you can be your best self at work!

37. AnonymousJanuary 19,2023 at 7:05PM UTC

    I agree. If she was an introvert she wouldn't like the hussle/bussle of the window and the clients driving through. I lean more to the work environment/coworker dynamics myself.

38. Heather BinghamJanuary 16,2023 at 10:32AM UTC

    I would be just like you - I have a strong preference for Introversion and far prefer working from home to working in the office. My days are full of meetings either way, but video calls are massively preferable to face to face meetings for me. The loose MBTI definition of Introversion is simply that you are more likely to be drained of energy when with other people, and more likely to gain energy when you're on your own. Having small repeated conversations with the drive-thru customers doesn't oddly go against this; a lot of people with a preference for Introversion really enjoy one-on-one interactions with others, especially if they are more superficial and brief, but it is being in the space of others for longer periods that is draining. Quite often having this knowledge in hand is enough to lighten the burden of the days you spend inside the bank. Saying to yourself "Oh, today is one of my more tiring days, so I know what to expect" is oddly a neat way to escape the worst of it. I don't go into the office very often myself, even though I spend all day on video calls, and when I go in I simply do the same and say "Today will be tiring". Because my expectations and the reality are aligned, I know that I feel better than I did when I didn't know the mechanism in play. The best thing on top of this is to look for the positives of being inside the bank - perhaps there are one or two people you do like to see, or the desk is more comfortable, or you have more freedom to move around and stretch your muscles - whatever it is, work out those positives and that will also help you to cope better with the contrast. Finally, and I am in no way berating you here, but count your lucky stars that you are happy for 3 days of your working week, because a lot of people don't even get that. Simply, accept that you prefer some days over others, and why, and look to mitigate the contrasts for yourself with some positive thinking. If it helps at all, roughly half the world would prefer to be in the drive-thru booth, so you aren't alone!!

39. AnonymousJanuary 16,2023 at 1:19PM UTC

    I completely understand! Throughout most of my career, I sat alone in one area or desk/office. When I had to work closely with others (shared desk/office), I hated it. I like having my own space even within a cubicle. And while I enjoy people and interacting with others from time to time, I'd rather be in my space (and I think I'm outgoing)...lol.

40. Gretchen SkalkaJanuary 16,2023 at 3:33PM UTC

    The question may not be so much 'is it weird' as it is 'is it correct'

    But neither are complete without 'for me'.

    If you an naturally introverted, this may make sense.

    In like manner, if you are more of an independent worker, it may make sense.

    Sure, if your colleagues are jerks - this also makes sense (joking, but only slightly since I don't know your coworkers ;)

    But before thinking there's something 'wrong' or 'weird' - it could simply be that it works better for you to work independently (for a variety of reasons) than with others in any particular setting.

41. MaryKayJanuary 16,2023 at 5:20PM UTC

    I feel the same. I like to go off and work a section by myself.

42. Liz MilneJanuary 17,2023 at 12:12AM UTC

    some places and people have negative energy that can be draining to be around...

43. Kimberly GrahamJanuary 17,2023 at 5:26PM UTC

    It's not weird at all and it's good that you identify what makes you tick. I agree with some of the other posts that negative people and bustling environments can drain you.

44. AnonymousJanuary 19,2023 at 6:26PM UTC

    It was never the work I hated, it was the people.