I’ve decided to leave my career and stay home with my children for the summer.
May 17,2022 at 1:16PM UTC
I’ve worked for 21 years straight and am burnout to the point where I’ve lost focus, and can’t disconnect and be present with my family bc of anxiety about work. Im wondering when I start looking again in the fall if employers will frown on the 3-6 mo gap or if positioning this as a sabbatical is more appropriate.
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Underpaid and overworked in Higher Ed - do I play the long game?
I have been working in higher ed for about 2 years now. I really enjoy my job but I am surprised at how raises and promotions work here. I work for a state funded college and the only way to move up is to interview for a brand new job on campus and possibly switch teams to something completely different.
I have a lovely boss that I love and a great commute. However, my job is grant funded which means that it is not permanent and has a (hazy) end date. My job also recently changed so that I work 50% of my time with my current boss, and 50% of my time on a new team. This is what happens with "temporary" staff like myself.
The workload is starting to feel like 2 jobs in one. In addition, the new team is chaotic and disorganized and stressful. I feel like the new team could be a good growth opportunity with lots to learn. In addition, it seems to have a higher title. But it too is grant funded with a hazy end date. I also haven't seen my pay bump yet for the additional work that I am doing on the new team and when that will occur is beyond me.
My current boss who I love keeps talking about a "path to permanency" here which would finally be a permanent job and higher pay and real benefits. But his hands are tied - it's not up to him my pay rate, or if/when I will change categories. Right now I have very little PTO. But this discussion has been going on for a long time. I am wondering if I need to just apply for a brand new "permanent" job on campus, or leave. Right now I am seeing very few roles on campus that seem like they could be a good fit.
TLDR; in short, I am underpaid for the high level of work that I am doing at the moment, but the path up is extremely precarious and hazy. I'd love to work here for a long time if I could get a title that matches the level of work that I do and finally enjoy the benefits of a state job. I am being paid and treated as an admin but I am managing 2 staff, producing large scale events, handling complex grant and budget issues and much, much, much more. I had thought that this new team opportunity would lead to something more but I am losing hope.
My husband and I are undergoing fertility treatment so I am also hoping to minimize stress in my life if possible. I don't need to really be in a super high level job right now and am OK with just being a coordinator or analyst. But, I feel like I am not being paid my worth and am thinking about applying for something else.
Advice? I'm curious if any of you have been through something similar.
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How do I negotiate for a higher salary..
Talking about money in general is something I am never comfortable doing. I never fight for myself , and I know (particularly as a woman of color) that I am often underpaid compared to most of my peers with similar qualifications. I am going to be offered a new position that will essentially be a promotion, but onto another team. I am hearing thru the grapevine what the salary is that they are going to offer me, and it is much lower than what I want and feel I have earned. I'm being encouraged by my current supervisor to accept that number like it is a great deal, simply because it is more than I am making now. I am certain that other employees who followed a similar path of moving into this role were started off at more. As a woman of color, I feel like I have to walk that fine line of not being seen/heard in a negative light. I have to watch how I approach the conversation, but I must try to gather the confidence to do so and pray that it is well received. I want to take the job but I don't want to settle. For once I want to feel like I'm being paid at the top of the salary range or near the top of the salary range for the position. I do believe that my qualifications, skillset, and tenure justify it. HELP!
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I am still angry about things happened the last months.
There was no communication at all at work. The department exists since October 2021. I started to work here December 2021. Since the beginning, there is no communication.
Pretty quick I got this position. Very good fitting.
Yet, it was almost impossible to work in a healthy environment. There is a lot of favouritism, and many different groups. All connected to each other. Not functioning employees are being protected by these groups/this favouritism.
I am introverted and HSP, and I feel this deeply. Negatively. I spoke about this several times. My direct manager agrees. Others, who need to solve it, told me I need to get to know the difference between friendship & favouritism.
I know the difference, and this is plain favouritism.
The turn-over since the start of the department is between 45-52%. Yes, you read it correctly.
Finally, I gave my 2 months notice (a few weeks ago... I felt I was pushed to it). As the position I have is a management position, I directly got a phone call (I gave my notice on a day off). In the phone call, I was told not to come back. They wanted to offer me 2 months and let me stay at home.
I didn't want this. It is easier for my to apply for new jobs while working (working keeps my mind off stress. Even when the job is stressful). So I kept coming and working. I still didn't sign the official resignation papers from the company.
Then HR wanted to talk with me. This conversation was about 1.5 hours. And during this time I was named "mental" at leat 7 times. Because I take things (not being told what changed/was adapted etc.) personal.
I was named "mental" by HR. I want to be informed about needs for my job (information which often fails). And now I am mental because I take it personally. Well, yes, when I cannot do my work correct because information failed, then it is in the end personally.
After consulting a labour lawyer, I finally took the 2 months. I was advised to do this. In the English version of the contract was something mentioned, which was not in the original language. And could have a very negative impact on me.
I am at home a few weeks now. The 2 months I should receive gross into net, was (how could it be!) not net, as said. Difference about BGN 1200 ($700). Not going to do anything against it. I tried, but the person who called me "mental" came with many excuses. Not possible to win this. But I am still very angry.
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My new manager is avoiding me
Last week it was announced that my team is going to have a new manager. The new manager had her 1-to-1s with everyone in the team except of me to discuss how their roles are going to change and just check how they feel about the change and what are their ambitions for the future. I am one of the most experienced people in the team and I have a good reputation within the business. My previous manager asked me how I feel after my 1-to-1 with the new one and I told him I haven't had one so he asked my new manager and my new manager said she has not scheduled anything because I seem to be busy for the next 1 month, which is not true - I have some meetings but I have free slots in my calendar, too and I checked there are plenty of free slots that match with her free slots, so in my opinion this is an excuse. I tried to reach out to her to ask for a 1-to-1 meeting but she did not respond to me at all. As the team is transforming I would like to discuss with her how I see my role and how can I help in this transformation being one of the most experienced people but I wonder if she is not interested or she is just planning to get rid of me (but if that is the case I can't think what might be the reason).
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I interviewed with a company where I hit it off with the hiring manager.
She said she was excited about my candidacy and passed me on to the next series of rounds. I made it to the final round. All of the interviews went well. I sent thank you notes. The hiring manager said I should hear from someone within the week. A week went by and I didn't hear anything. I saw the position reposted on Linkedin. I reached out to inquire about the status of my candidacy and so far have not received a response. It seems to me if they reposted the position then they have passed on me. I just assumed they would send the standard rejection email. I appreciate your thoughts.
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