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March 29,2023 at 2:45PM UTC

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Hello out there. I had an interview two weeks ago. It went very well. It was my second interview with this company for a position on a team that is not in this country. I would be the only American team member. That is what they are looking for. After the interview, I reached out to the HR lady for what the next steps would be. She informed me at the outset it would be a 3 or 4 interview process. She told me it would be a week or so then she would get back to me. Once the week went by with no word I reached out again. Yet again I am still waiting for a reply. At this point, I just want to know what is going on. So I emailed the manager in Denmark that I interviewed with. I told her I enjoyed meeting with her and had not heard back from the HR lady. I asked if I was still in the running for the position. Per their glassdoor reviews it seems like this HR person has a habit of not responding. So I am not sure what is going on. Should I just let it go and figure I am officially out of the running because I have been ghosted? I was hoping at least for a "we went with someone else." Or "You are not the right fit." I am a grown-up. I can take the rejection. I just want to make sure I am not being too pushy if I am still in the running.

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AnonymousMarch 29,2023 at 3:00PM UTC
If it helps any, I applied to a role back on 2/1 and finished up final interviews (4) last week and now waiting. I interviewed with another company that took almost 30 days to get through 3 interviews. It seems as though everyone's process is taking 1-2 weeks between each step along the way. It is exhausting and sadly has become the norm. The candidate experience seems to be non-existent. For me I did follow up and thankfully both recruiters were responsive one way or another. I have not reached out to Hiring Managers. Could you try to call the recruiter vs emailing?
AnonymousMarch 29,2023 at 3:16PM UTC
Continue your search for a new job. They may still get back to you, as typically it takes more than a few weeks for companies to hire. Especially considering outside the USA.
AnonymousMarch 29,2023 at 6:31PM UTC
Unrelated, but an important thing to fix and not meant to offend, but to make aware. Unknowingly, you're aging yourself by the way you type. You're inserting two spaces after the period. If I were a recruiter/HM I'd assume you were over 40. As I learned several years ago, we now only use one space after the period. It came with the invention of the newer devices, apparently. It took myself quite awhile to learn this. You may want to take a few minutes and review all of your job search collateral (resume, LI profile, other profiles, cover letters, etc.) and do a "replace all" for the. I hope you take this with the help is was meant with. Good luck in your job search.
AnonymousMarch 29,2023 at 6:34PM UTC
Oh yes I am aware..and I am 51 so you are right. I am trying to break the habit, but that highschol typing class burned it into my brain. Thank you.
AnonymousMarch 29,2023 at 9:14PM UTC
no problem, old dog - new tricks thing, I get it, I'm 62
AnonymousMarch 30,2023 at 2:19PM UTC
And pls stop saying “HR Lady” - not appropriate
AnonymousMarch 30,2023 at 6:04PM UTC
why is it not appropriate? HR person? Talent acquisition specialist?
Julie EMarch 31,2023 at 5:27PM UTC
HR rep or recruiter are good options too. I read lady and thought old person.
AnonymousMarch 30,2023 at 2:23PM UTC
Don't consider yourself out, but don't stop searching for other positions. If you get two offers, all the better. You can use one offer to negotiate with the other company, especially if the better offer is not your preferred company or position.
Mare LevineMarch 30,2023 at 5:42PM UTC
I feel your pain--and think you should follow the other great advice already posted. Consider yourself still in the running, while continuing to pursue other options.
I have had two four month hire times (both big global companies), and a five month hire time with a small company. I continued on with my life while they churned and did whatever mysterious process they use for hiring, and occasionally checked in. In all three instances, I ended up getting the job. I hope you do, too.
AnonymousMarch 31,2023 at 1:36AM UTC
Do a search on glass door and other sites to see the track record for hiring within the company. Took me 4 months to land my current position… yep… sucks! This was due to the clearances and such.
it wasn’t personal, and even with me reaching out to their HR I wasn’t getting a response.
so try to keep calm, don’t text/ email/ stalk…lol. Just stay informed. I would do my homework and see where they are at in the process. Best of luck! I remember in my younger years considering L3 Comm. but the family vetoed the deal… ugh! What a different life that would have been! Lol.
AnonymousMarch 31,2023 at 12:37PM UTC
Have you put your job search on hold for this opportunity? I hope not. Unless you have another offer it really does not matter if you've heard from them or not.
GirlBossanova934974March 31,2023 at 12:37PM UTC
So you read the company's Glassdoor reviews and the company's HR reviewer got labeled a SLOUCH! So now the same SLOUCH is being what? Guess? It is time to continue your job search and IF something materializes from the SLOUCH, well that's great. However, SLOUCH or no SLOUCH, you need to understand you are dealing with an international company where decisions are going to take longer and more coordination is going to be required. The manager in Denmark has to wait on someone in the United Kingdom and suddenly things drag out for weeks. I have worked for outfits like this. If you are dealing with an established company who has a track record of running an operation like this, you might be OK. IF NOT, and this is some sort of novel experiment, I would avoid it all costs!
AnonymousMarch 31,2023 at 1:41PM UTC
Did the manager in Denmark respond back to you? In my experience, very few recruiters will respond back to requests for information until they have information to share. I tend to operate under the belief that if you're their top candidate, they're going to keep the lines of communication open with you, including a short reply back when you reach out for an update because they want you on their team and they want to keep you interested. It may be time to move on emotionally from this role, and if they do extend an offer, it becomes a pleasant surprise. This allows you to stay open to new opportunities and not invest yourself in roles you ultimately don't get an offer for, which can be so draining and depressing.
AnonymousApril 2,2023 at 12:13PM UTC
My advice, keep following up, BUT absolutely do not stop applying, interviewing, and looking elsewhere. Always have a contingency plan in this job market. And do your research beyond Glassdoor. Check all the sites you can, google the company. Make sure they’ve been around a while, look at some employees LinkedIn and see if there have been any issues or layoffs within the last year. I was interviewing with a company this past week and did a deep dive on one of my interviewers LinkedIn and found out they had layoffs 8mths ago! ? There’s also a lot of companies putting people through all the processes only to tell them “we’re putting the hiring process on hold for now”, so be aware of that shenanigans as well. I say all of this to tell you to don’t put “all of your eggs in one basket.”