Hello everyone.

14 Comments

1. Rhonda TeagueAugust 8,2022 at 1:33AM UTC

   Yes.

2. AnonymousAugust 8,2022 at 1:04PM UTC

   I absolutely feel depressed and my self esteem has plummeted. I have been looking for the last 4 months or more, actually probably about 6 months. I try to apply to at least 10 jobs a day and I have only been past the phone screen twice. I check my email constantly only to find rejection after rejection. Some of them are kindly written and some are downright rude. Either way, the rejection really does something to my confidence and makes me feel bad about myself. I know logically it is not personal. I have looked at resumes brought to me by internal recruiters and passed not knowing anything about that person beyond their resume. Sometimes I just try to assume that I will be rejected but that throws out some negativity to the universe. The constant heart break or rollercoaster ride of what you feel was a great phone screen to then be rejected or ghosted, really has an impact on me. I am currently employed but at the wrong place for me. I want somewhere to land and have a ton to offer, I know I do. My references are impeccable and I'm a high performer but getting through the door seems impossible making me feel bad about myself and trapped. I wish you so much success in your search and let's both try and keep our chins up and remember our worth. Good luck!

3. AnonymousAugust 9,2022 at 6:36PM UTC

   I am sorry about how your job search is progressing. You seem stressed. I apologize if that is very blunt. Based on what you have written you are wise to maintain a job while looking although this may cause extra stress. One recommendation might be, can you take a week of vacation (if this is an option for you) and catch up on sleep, do some relaxing activities to take your minds off of your work/job search situation.

   then, once rested try to minimize your work load as best possible and any stressors at work.

   then, maybe after a few weeks plan a few “dates” with yourself to re start the job search.

   what stands out to me is your incredible stamina maintaining the job you are currently in and your drive to see yourself succeed in the job you want. These are important aspects to consider. Please remind yourself how great you are!!! You are motivating me to rethink my approach as I have related to some of your experiences!

4. AnonymousAugust 11,2022 at 1:51AM UTC

   Thank you for your response.
   I hope you find something you like soon.

5. AnonymousAugust 8,2022 at 1:21PM UTC

   Absolutely. I know I am qualified for a lot of the postings I see, but the qualifications often are my biggest obstacle, as someone with a teaching background who doesn’t want entry-level pay. I have a wide set of skills and an advanced degree, but it feels like none of that matters.

6. AnonymousAugust 11,2022 at 1:50AM UTC

   What kind of jobs are you looking for?

7. Lesa Edwards, Career Coach & Master Resume WriterAugust 8,2022 at 2:07PM UTC

   This is the perfect situation for which to get help from a career coach. If you take this energy into your job search, you are dooming yourself to dismal results and/or job offers that are inferior to what you are capable of. Of course, coaching is an investment...would you rather invest in your future, or continue to invest your time in an unsuccessful job search?

8. AnonymousAugust 8,2022 at 6:18PM UTC

   Yes, yes, and yes. Since I also want to go into the health field alot of jobs ask for experience and I'm in school now but would like hand on experience. It's hard to get a job you want when credentials are in the way and then I don't wanna do to a job that I know I'm not going to be at for long because it looks bad on my resume. We gon get through though, hope is still alive!

9. AnonymousAugust 9,2022 at 2:42PM UTC

   Remember that job "requirements" are a wish list. They are not legally obligated to hire only people who meet every requirement.

10. AnonymousAugust 11,2022 at 1:50AM UTC

    Thanks.

11. Shanita Taylor BSIS, BSc (Psyc), M.A.E.LAugust 8,2022 at 7:57PM UTC

    Some do feel this way.
    Honestly, do not. I get a bit discouraged when I am qualified or have less education and less time in the career field than others with lesser education. I've been discouraged to see I am qualified for the job, and those less qualified get the job due to nepotism. If you get depressed because a job asks for degrees or skills you don't have, you may feel this way a lot.

12. AnonymousAugust 9,2022 at 2:40PM UTC

    Studies have shown that men are more likely to apply for and be hired for jobs even when they don't meet the basic requirements.

    Studies have also shown that confidence trumps actual skills when it comes to hiring and promotion.

    Tell yourself that you are qualified enough (you don't have to be perfect) and that you will be great in the job after you get it. Remind yourself that your humility will help you learn your job, and your confidence will grow from what you've learned.

13. AnonymousAugust 11,2022 at 1:49AM UTC

    Thank you. I'll try it.

14. AnonymousAugust 11,2022 at 1:55AM UTC

    Thank you for your kind response, Elizabeth.
    I feel like at my age I should know what I want and how to get it. But I don't. I feel like I've stagnated where I currently am, and that I've wasted time. I believe I have a good attitude. I work hard. Ultimately, I think if a person is intelligent, attitude trumps almost everything.