My coworker always looks for little things i forgot and rakes me over the coals instead of gently reminding me.

Anonymous

November 16,2022 at 2:46AM UTC

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My coworker always looks for little things i forgot and rakes me over the coals instead of gently reminding me. She doesnt like me as a person, so shes never going to want to treat me better. She cant just treat me better because im a human being.

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AnonymousNovember 16,2022 at 3:08AM UTC
Are you wanting advice or just venting?
AnonymousNovember 16,2022 at 6:37AM UTC
On dear, I know this feeling. my coworker is also an attention seeker, whenever we ignore her she start to share how dramatic her life is.
AnonymousNovember 16,2022 at 9:44AM UTC
Treatment is 50% a reflection of the person providing it. So consider the source. Laugh and say thank you and move on.
Stop looking for validation
AnonymousNovember 16,2022 at 7:31PM UTC
How often do you forget "little things"? Is she having to double-check all of your work? Because that gets aggravating very quickly and people who are already busy often don't have much patience with situations that shouldn't be necessary. If you are truly making random mistakes every few days, it's probably unreasonable for her to get upset over it. If you make the same mistakes over and over or make many mistakes every week, she may be legitimately upset by having to do your work and hers.