Hello, I need help, please don't judge me.

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January 14,2023 at 9:38AM UTC

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Hello, I need help, please don't judge me.

I've been working with my boss for the past 7 years now.

Repeatedly, I keep stealing from him, he forgives, and warns me never to do that again, but still, I find myself stealing from him. Every time he confronts me, I always have this suicidal thoughts raving inside me, even thou I've attempted suicide twice in my office.

In as much as I try to desist from the evil act, I always find my self going back....I'm dedicated, loyal and hardworking at my place of work and my boss appreciates me for that. But the problem he has with me is this stealing of a thing.

Many a times, I struggle to fight this Demon, but I can't help it.

What should I do pls?

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AnonymousJanuary 14,2023 at 10:11AM UTC
Do you know about meglomania? It is an obsessive compulsive disorder where you think about stealing something and then you feel compulsion to do it or your mind would be in obsession until you do it. So this is an illness like let's say Asthama. You need treatment for this, sp you need to find an OCD specialist therapist and also consult a psychiatrist for medicines. You will b good and fine, just seek the treatment for this treatable problem okay? Take care :)
Ruth RobbinsJanuary 14,2023 at 1:16PM UTC
Kleptomania. Sorry you’re going through this.
AnonymousJanuary 14,2023 at 3:35PM UTC
It’s really hard to not be in control of your actions - I’m sorry to hear that you’re fighting this battle by yourself. As another poster said below, therapy and medical help would help enormously. Did you know that a doctor/therapist will usually NOT report your thefts? It’s better to get help now before you find yourself in legal peril. There are medications available for both kleptomania and depression. Accessing the medical care you need will help you a lot. Also, please understand that you have a medical issue - you just need to get the right treatment to get better. Here’s a link if it helps: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/kleptomania/symptoms-causes/syc-20364732
AnonymousJanuary 14,2023 at 9:04PM UTC
Please get help. There are good resources already posted. The other thing is to check to see if your company has an EAP program that you can utilize. I had an opportunity to use one before, and they have just a few sessions (mostly triage and then referral), but it could be an entry into a more significant program.
Erica MitchellJanuary 15,2023 at 1:56PM UTC
Do not listen to the comment below! This is absolutely a place to get advice. My advice to you is to seek counseling for your addiction to stealing. Stealing in any form is wrong and it's something that should be addressed quickly. Good luck with everything!
Erica MitchellJanuary 15,2023 at 1:57PM UTC
Stop making comments like this please. This site IS also for giving advice!
Erica MitchellJanuary 15,2023 at 1:58PM UTC
You're wrong Debbie. Almost every post is about giving advice.
Maureen MulveyJanuary 15,2023 at 2:11PM UTC
Curious about what your stealing because you could be prosecuted depending upon the amount and laws. You should seek professional help. Sounds like an addiction but saying that you will kill your self is way above my head. I would fire any employee who stole from my company. And prosecute. Good luck to you and I hope you find some alternative healing for your addiction.
Shanita Taylor BSIS, BSc (Psyc), M.A.E.LJanuary 17,2023 at 1:30AM UTC
My advice is to seek help. It would be best if you stopped stealing. It will help if you rid yourself of the behavior because you may not be able to steal at your next job, and the boss may have a strike-you-'re-out rule. You do not need to continue a behavior that can get you in trouble somewhere else and have a negative impact on your career. I am wondering what is it that you are stealing?