Looking for feedback on sudden change in behavior between my boss and myself as of recently...

10 Comments

1. AnonymousMarch 19,2025 at 11:17AM UTC

   Apart from asking outright, you are left guessing. There is little you can do other than a good job and being a strong teammate to the rest of the team.

2. AnonymousMarch 19,2025 at 12:26PM UTC

   I feel like I wrote this. My boss and I had a great working relationship as well a friendly relationship where we talked about our families, spouses, etc

   in the last 8 weeks there has been a sudden shift and she only speaks to me if it’s work related. Others have noticed the shift. I asked her for a meeting to discuss and it did not go in my favor. I was blindsided by her feedback. I have always received good praise and honestly never made errors. In this meeting , it was like she had a laundry list of “mistakes” dating back to my first week of employment. Fast forward 8 weeks and I was let go not because of performance but because myself and an attorney did not like each other (we simply didn’t go out of our way to talk). This was the actual reason I was let go.

   I had already got my resume together and had received a couple interview appointments so I’m not scattering now to get it done. I am devastated by it as I loved my job; however, the employees they had been letting go over the last year have been the highest paid. I believe it came down to saving money and not performance. I would say to get yourself ready

3. AnonymousMarch 19,2025 at 2:55PM UTC

   This was my thought-- something is going on with regard to her role, and the manager has no control or say, now feels awkward. It happens.

4. Tabbi KinionMarch 19,2025 at 5:10PM UTC

   Here's where your thoughts might be running away from you - and causing you unnecessary stress. Step back, take a moment, and write down what you want your relationship with your boss to be. And breathe - most of those thoughts aren't true. Our brains are jerks like that - always filling in the blanks with the worst-case scenarios. It was a valuable survival skill when saber tooth tigers were trying to eat us.

   And, now, for the part that will uncover what is going on. Ask your boss if you can talk. Tell them that you've felt some tension and that because you value your relationship with them (fill in some of the things you want from the list above), you want to have a conversation and ensure you are both on the same page.

   And here's the hard part - tell them what you want, ask them questions, and then really listen. Even if it is hard to hear, going through the hard makes the relationship stronger on the other side.

   Finally, here's my last free coaching nugget: if you walk in worried that you will make things worse - you will absolutely make things worse. That's another pesky human thing we do to ourselves - we prove ourselves right every time. You must walk in committed to protecting and enhancing a good working relationship with your boss because you respect them enough to have the conversation rather than drown in paranoid thoughts.

   Your relationship with your boss is one of the most influential relationships in your life. It is worth investing in making that relationship stay functional and positive rather than letting it slip away over a misunderstanding.

   You've got this! You are a strong employee!

5. AnonymousMarch 20,2025 at 2:00PM UTC

   Happened to me! I had a great relationship with my manager. Later found out that a group of 3 women started bad mouthing me to the manager. They knew I was the strongest performer and they did everything they could to make me look bad. At the end of the day, there were 3 of them and only one of me. I tried everything from putting my head down and ignoring it to talking to HR. Nothing worked, my manager sided with them and started giving me busy work and told me that I hadn’t “stepped up as a leader.” I got raving reviews from anyone outside my department, but I was told I was impacting others by not building a positive culture inside my department. It was caught in this constant cycle of not being able to do anything right. I wish I wouldn’t have stayed in that toxic environment as long as I did as it really affected my mental and physical health. After I left and got some distance from it I did some research and found out that bullies often go after the strongest performers. These women had a history of doing this to others but it didn’t matter. I would just be aware of others in your group and start looking for other roles if you think this could be happening to you…it’s not worth sacrificing your health for a job if that is what is happening.

6. AnonymousMarch 21,2025 at 3:05PM UTC

   There's a lot of advice saying to approach it head-on and just ask why the behavior is different, but I think there's a middle ground. Just ask your boss if there's anything you should be doing differently, and if they seem totally blindsided by that question, go on to say that you feel you've noticed a shift in behavior recently and want to make sure you haven't missed some feedback you should know about / an opportunity to ensure you're contributing the most you can to the team. This frames it as you attempting to be as valuable as possible rather than basically "I feel like you're mad at me :(" which (1) might not even be true and (2) might come off a little immature.

7. AnonymousMarch 21,2025 at 5:55PM UTC

   Book a 1-1 let them know how you are feeling and ask if there was anything that happened to make this shift. If you don't you will always wonder. Watch for their body language in that meeting and be sure that you let them know that you are always wanting to be sure you uphold the best relationship as possible with them and that if there is an issue they can openly give you real feedback and correction. Good luck.

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