Looking to make a big move, not sure how to position it with boss - need advice.

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May 6,2022 at 1:49PM UTC

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Looking to make a big move, not sure how to position it with boss - need advice.

At large company for more than a decade, and took a new role almost year ago, but it's clearly not a skills or culture fit for me. I'm not sure I even want to stay at the company,

I want to say "sorry but this is not working out for me, because of xyz, and that we'd both be better off if I move to a different role with abc which this role is missing. would you allow me time to internally look for another role?" I'd like an opportunity to move into another position, but feel the boss will be pretty upset that I'm ready to hang it up. My last performance review was not completed because I was out sick, and don't have any goals set for 2022 so far. So feeling undervalued. How do I approach the subject with my boss? what should I ask for? what's reasonable?

ps. I don't have another gig set up yet, but not too worried about that at this point. mental health trumps it all.

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Theresa BlackburnMay 6,2022 at 3:38PM UTC
It sounds like you have a rainy day fund, so now would be a good time to make a move. You stuck it out almost a year in this role and you know now it's not a good In my opinion, you could make a move now because you have been at the same company for a decade, so that will prove to employers that you are highly mature and dependable. You also seem very diplomatic, so I think you could try telling your current boss that you want to look internally. Since you have strong diplomatic skills, you should be able to avoid burning bridges with your manager when broaching this awkward subject. Best of luck!
Heather MaconeMay 6,2022 at 3:43PM UTC
I think that the language you have proposed is ok, however I would suggest a few small revisions, namely starting off with an apologies. Propose flipping the script: First, I have appreciate the opportunity to work under you however more recently it has been apparent that this position is not for me. In order to be productive about my career growth, I am considering a move to role abc. Would you support me exploring this option?" Managers/bosses ideally would be excited for you to do what will increase your growth and development. I think this request is reasonable, especially if feeling like you aren't able to productively contribute, and you would be able to do so in this other role. Your annual review should 100% be scheduled, insist if you have to by proposing a time on their calendar. Knowing you are opening the dialogue and moving a direction toward role abc could lift the spirits.
JahnaMay 6,2022 at 5:56PM UTC
I think we are in a culture right now that uses a lot of me statements but if you are wanting another role within the same company my recommendation would be to use we statements. We as in the company. "We will benefit from a role switch as I feel I'm not the best fit for this role right now" "I care about the progression of the company and realized we would find success if I was in a different role". Show that you are caring for the company AND yourself.
AnonymousMay 6,2022 at 8:35PM UTC
Your boss's first priority is ensuring he has adequate staff to perform their jobs on their team. If you tell him about your plan, it may cause him to start looking to fill your job before your find your next role.
Focus on putting in for bids that actually interest you and that you feel you can contribute. And when you do get hired, give your boss the courtesy of adequate notice. That is all that should be expected. By you giving him a heads up may jeopardize you.
Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition SpecialistMay 7,2022 at 12:36AM UTC
My personal philosophy is that no one knows I'm looking for a new job until I turn in my resignation which happens after all background checks etc are complete.
I would advise against telling your boss. A job search can last many months - or more. Do you really want to see your boss every day for the next 8 months knowing he knows you're looking for a new job? And if you do tell him, be prepared to be excluded from the best projects, etc.
Also be prepared to be let go.
AnonymousMay 7,2022 at 3:38PM UTC
If you give your boss a heads up be prepared to be let go that day, before doing this make sure you have enough $ to pay expenses, health insurance etc. Don't assume your boss will let you stay after telling him/her you are looking. Most will begin looking for your cheaper replacement immediately. No one is your friend at work.