I feel like I am being pushed out of my role

Keshri Tewari

April 21,2023 at 12:52AM UTC

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I feel like I am being pushed out of my role

I work in a private medical practice as an operations manager AND the revenue cycle manager, so needless to say I am busy. I started working for this business when there were only 2 doctors, but now there are 6. Although my workload has increased, I never got any help. When I take time off, I go back to work and pick up where I left off.

Last year, the director rehired an ex-employee who he's friends with. She was hired to supervise the administrative staff, so she works under my leadership. My boss started to change towards me and the other staff. I had a meeting with him 2 days ago where he proposed to me that I work from home 4 days per week and 1 day in the office, and the supervisor will "run the show". Working from home is a great opportunity because I have very young children, however, I can't help to feel he's pushing me out of the management role. He wants me to absorb other tasks as well, his reasoning being that since I will be less interrupted, I will have more time to do other work. By the way, I handle payroll...this woman (his friend) was offered a higher salary than what I'm being paid, and when I confronted him about it, he didn't even want to hear...he said I was comparing apples and oranges. Mind you, this woman doesn't even seem to know the basics of the administrative side of a medical office.

Am I wrong here for feeling this way? I know how difficult it is to find a new job so I'm not ungrateful for my employment, however, this feels very wrong and he's gaslighting the entire situation.

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AnonymousApril 21,2023 at 1:43AM UTC
Trust your instincts.
Your boss sounds like he needs a girlfriend in his office more than an admin.
Whatever your gut is telling you is most likely spot on but unfortunately it's his practice and his call.
I would use this time working remotely so you can put together your job search strategy.
Rebecca MillikenApril 21,2023 at 2:19AM UTC
Get your resume in order. I know where I live it seems everyone is looking for people who are experienced and reliable workers. Your boss has taken advantage of you and is not valuing your work. Let his girlfriend take care of it all; she's getting the big bucks.
AnonymousApril 22,2023 at 5:45PM UTC
Sounds like you have more than enough work for 2 people. Maybe you can use this time as an opportunity to balance career and family while you decide the next step.
AnonymousApril 23,2023 at 3:21PM UTC
I think you have assessed it correctly. Start looking and leave. 2 weeks notice and I wouldn’t offer to train anyone past that.
AnonymousApril 23,2023 at 5:10PM UTC
I’m in the same boat as you currently and have been applying left and right places. I’m at 58 hours salary while now required in office 4 days a week. His new hire is hourly 9-3 and not even required to call people with issues. Good luck!
Keshri TewariApril 25,2023 at 6:53AM UTC
Same here, I'm on salary - literally on call because when I'm not there the staff contacts me to resolve issues. The boss's friend is on hourly - if she stays 15 minutes beyond her time, she leaves 15 minutes the next day to compensate. I have been applying aggressively to other jobs but nothing can come through yet.
AnonymousApril 25,2023 at 10:03PM UTC
Hope you have luck quickly! I managed 85 calls today, new hire had to leave at 3 getting in at 10. She had cupcakes to make. She’s not salary though so no one will say a word.
AnonymousApril 23,2023 at 5:27PM UTC
Time to look for work. Clearly what you see in that small of a business is what it is. I am not sure it's fixable. You could take him up on the offer to work from home which might make your job search easier. As for her being paid more than you, that you just have to live with unfortunately as clearly nepotism is what drove that decision. Time box your work hours if you do and spend more time with your family.
AnonymousApril 25,2023 at 12:13AM UTC
This where documentation is important. You need to document every mistake the friend makes, date, time, consequence. Consequence can be rework, patient imposition, additional cost to firm.
The higher salary, you need to research the salary for her position in your area and your position.
Document instances of nepotism and the consequences. The next time you get marginalized, show the documentation to his boss.
Keshri TewariApril 25,2023 at 6:58AM UTC
This a great advice - I will most definitely start logging the mistakes. The issue is, our boss is the owner so there's no one above him except the law. I feel this is unethical and blatant discrimination.