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After a year of job searching, I have three interviews this week & while grateful, I'm scared.

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After a year of job searching, I have three interviews this week & while grateful, I'm scared. Due to my eclectic background, they are in different fields and each present opportunities beyond a paycheck to get my life back on track...

The first is a remote role, the same level as my last position. While it's not in my preferred industry, it would be a good fit and salary.

Second option, on site role in my current location and lower level but close to family. Good company that depending on the team, there may be room for advancements , not in my preferred industry but I see the potential.

Third option is the one I'm most excited about but would require relocating. Higher salary and role within my desired industry. Cost of living is cheaper than my last role and with a higher salary so it would afford saving for the future.

To be transparent, I would be grateful for any job at this point and I'm forcing myself to stay optimistic and approach each interview individually and then put that aside to focus on the next day's interview.

Throughout my search, I've lost out to infernal candidates and found out that others were filled before I commenced interviewing. While I can't do anything about that situation, I can only do my best but it's hard to get in the right mindset having this happen so many times. Is anyone else facing this fear and if so, how do you handle it? I'd appreciate your advice and support!

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  1. Anonymous

    Good luck. All three seem worthy.

  2. Anonymous

    Thank you and I appreciate your support!

  3. Laura

    Congrats on 3 interviews that is amazing! In regards to your mindset, remember there is no point in telling yourself to stop thinking these thoughts - if it was that easy we'd all do it! Rather capture the thought, confront it for what it is and then reframe. For example - "I'm going to lose out to an internal candidate again." Confronting it might be simply acknowledging the fear or the uncertainty and saying yep, it's out of my control and that's scary but because it's not in my control nothing I say, think or do is going to change it and then reframe to what can you control. Then list out all the things in your control - researching the company, preparing with a mock interview, having prepared situations to speak to and crafting questions that both show the employer you're serious about this role and ones that you truly want to know the answer to. If you focus on what is not in your control you will feel out of control, if you focus on what IS in your control you will feel more in control. Excited for what the future holds for you and please report back!

  4. Alexis Gladstone

    I think you have the right mindset to focus on them all individually. You're never going to shake those lingering doubts and past experiences and the more you try, the more you'll think about them. If you have time before each interview to spend a few minutes meditating, doing breathing exercises, or even a few minutes of doing something that relaxes you, that might help.

    Good luck. They all sound like they have great potential.

  5. Anonymous

    I love a good typo but infernal candidates just made me chuckle.

    How to handle things, find out before each interview during the process of scheduling or prescreening why the role is open. Ask if they are considering any internal candidates. Generally a large company will and will often give 5 days to 2 weeks before posting to the outside world.

    It is a good approach to go into each one with the goal of getting the offer. Period! once you get to the point of choosing then you can focus on which one appeals to you if you have more than one to choose from. For now focus on really doing research into each company showcase your strengths in the interview and make them realize you are the one! you got this!

  6. MARY BERG

    Not sure that was a typo

  7. Anonymous

    I don't think you mentioned anything about culture fit. Is that important to you? Personally it's very important to me. So in terms of doing research about culture fit and management (compatibility). will that factor importantly in your decision? What's your experience with remote role? Some people thrive in it, others want in person interactions with coworkers. I think that's also another aspect to really think about. Third one sounds great in my opinion but that's for you to decide, of course. Good luck!

  8. Anonymous

    It was a typo but maybe it was Freudian slip! I've completed all of the interviews and the first, I could tell there was already an internal candidate working in the role and not an interim placement. Second one (third role listed in original post) was an HR assistant and my resume is being shared next week and the final was a third-round interview and they advertised the wrong position. It took three rounds to realize that mistake in between screening, team member and then SR hiring manager. It wasn't even close to my background so while I did myself to pitch myself after investing all that time in prep and interviews, I didn't have the hands-on experience for that type of role. It was a lower-level role and 30K less than posted as well. Back to the drawing board but giving myself a break from a chaotic week of prep and interviewing. Starting fresh again next week and I appreciated your advice!

  9. Anonymous

    Well interviewing is a process, keep going and remember it's a 2-way street you can reject them too. Sure sounds like a bullet dodged in a few of those...how they treat you in the interview process can be an indicator of things to come.

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