Office etiquette seems to be gone and how to cope when management does nothing.
November 16,2022 at 2:15PM UTC
There is a group of people who come into the office and they are just rude. They either talk loudly on the phone, cackle, stand outside of cubicles talking not considering that others may be trying to work., etc. One managers in that group has a nasty habit of barging in on conversations-I was meeting with another manager in her office behind closed doors and she opened the door without knocking and interrupted our conversation! Yesterday I was talking with someone and she literally came up and hijacked the conversation. I tried to see what they were talking about but I was dismissed and so I walked away. I came up to my cubicle and a person was standing inside my cubicle talking to other people and I asked them why they were hanging out in my cubicle. I wear my earbuds and have to turn my volume up to high to tune out their noise. What can be done about rude managers? If I say anything, they will tell my manager. I am thinking of talking to my manager or asking if I can be moved so I don’t have to be near this group.
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I was recently terminated from my job, but I was not notified and had no prior write ups.
The job is at a hotel and the way I found out was because I tried to use my hotel discount and my employee number didn't work anymore. I emailed my manager regarding this and she responded by saying they filled my position due to me not having enough availability, this is how I found out I was no longer employed there. It is an on call position, and there are other employees that work once a month or once every few months. I was working 4-6 times a month minimum, nonetheless there was no hour requirement when I was hired.
Is this legal? To be terminated without notification/prior write-ups. I am located in Massachusetts.
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Ever been unreasonably terminated and found out karma prevailed?
I worked at this role from 2017-2019 starting as Accounting/Analyst and they added Licensing Director. We were a medical collections firm. In it for the job, not the practice (another topic of its own.)
I was hired as the Accountant/Analyst but the Licensing Director quit and "surprise"!! I said fine and accepted the role as job security. My predecessor was extremely disorganized for having to maintain licensing for 50 states - all whom had 50 different sets of regulations. The other part of my job was - amongst other tasks - reviewing insurance bills for HR to confirm anyone billed on the company plan worked there. This is 7/2017.
FF to Oct 2019. Company bought and new people. I saw it coming.....I'd eventually be out.
In December, I am asked to put together a package of all the licences and a status (current, needs renewing, etc..). I had long ago cleaned up my predecessor's mess (filing system was a Xerox box and papers tossed in like trash) into 50 binders for 50 states organized by year of renewal with all the supporting paperwork and an interactive Excel WB to go with it including conditionally formatted by current date of yellow within 4m of renewal and red within 2 as it takes up to 30 days and can't expire (WB included links to the PDFs of said documents). One could basically filter by red and yellow and IMMEDIATELY know a status. Including websites, contact info, etc etc etc. Anything one would expect for one-stop licensing research at a glance.
Essentially a glowing improvement with a shiny red ribbon.
I presented this to the new manager and he asked- after vocalizing his happiness- who did the work so he could meet them personally I politely said "glad you're happy with it, I did all this - and added - it's nice to meet you!"
Next: "you're lying; no way are you smart enough for this!" I was stunned because a)he didn't know me from Eve and b)my manager said she praised me (I received periodic bonuses). Next day: I was out with a 2m severance.
FF to Jan 2021: company was long sold to the new manager people and they assumed it all. They added me to the insurance policy for the employees -- except I didn't have the OLD insurance - on a different plan outside the organization. And no one bothered to check monthly that I was working there and paying my monthly premium for the company.
I received a letter at home from Humana - or whomever - saying my insurance with the company was coming to an end effective 2/2021-- two YRS after I was terminated!!!!!!
Karma. I guess I was smarter that they thought! And by the way, I read some reviews for them: they went downhill
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Bullying by the means of the “silent treatment “
Last year I taught history for a teacher on maternity leave at a private school. From the beginning, I was undermined in front of students and parents. It was a mob of teachers and staff involved. Here are a few things that occurred:
An internal phone call with heavy breathing ( I traced the call from the front desk)
Yelling and screaming at me in front of students.
Told that I was inadequate, although students, parents and board members said otherwise.
And to circle back to the heading,; the silent treatment. I got cold stares all the time. When my contract was up, the Assistant Head did not even say thank you or even a “ goodbye “, even after I sent an email thanking everyone for the opportunity and well wishes. That said, I got a ton of cards from parents and students thanking me for my help. And few board members commenting that I am a great teacher.
All and all, I am confused and very hurt.
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leadership expects me to assist with big decisions but doesn't invite me to important meetings and retreats
I'm in a role that involves strategy and sometimes advising our executives. Our leadership team is all male, and I'm female. They seem to see me as important to the team and value my contributions. However, I'm not invited to participate in meetings where they often make major decisions. I'm usually briefed afterward but not given much context or guidance. As a result, I'm left out of the loop and not operating with the whole story. A few weeks ago, I was given instructions to carry out a project and unfortunately, it failed because I was missing critical information that came out of these meetings. My supervisor described what happened and based on what he said, it sounds like I was thrown under the bus by the very people I trusted to tell me the whole story and assist me with the project. Had I been invited to the previous meetings, I would have taken a different direction.
Moving forward, I'd like to be invited to these meetings and kept in the loop. They expect big decisions from me but don't want me at the decisionmakers' table. Is there a way to improve this situation if they still insist I don't need to attend their meetings? I'm starting to think things will get worse if I don't and I'll just become the one to blame everytime the guys mess up.
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I have been in my position for three years as a temp.
Last year I was told that I would be given a perm. Work, but it would just take time. They explained that because there had never been an LPN in this agency, I was assured that would not be a problem. I was told yesterday that it didn't look good when giving me a perm position. I feel used! I do everything the RN does. what can do besides look for another job!?
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