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I got and signed a new job offer. I start three weeks from Monday. I want to give my notice now, but my husband says that by the way they treated me, I don't owe them that extra week. When should I give notice? Should I give them the three weeks I want to or just two. I am not super integral to the company, so there is not a lot of hand-off to do. I am the only one who does what I do. I just want to get it over with. What is the best/right thing to do?

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  1. Anonymous

    Give the 2 week notice. Never burn a bridge. Almost all of my past jobs I have worked at 2 separate times. I was glad and blessed that they wanted me back as it filled a need in my life at the time.

  2. Anonymous

    Sorry if I wasn't clear. I am talking about giving them three weeks' notice rather than two. I will give notice. :)

  3. Anonymous

    OK, here's my 2 cents. Always give a 2 week notice as it's the professional thing to do. Do not ever leave a cloud of dust, no matter your irritation, always leave with the glow of your positive energy behind. Now, if you have 3 weeks, give 2 then leave and take a week off before you start the new job. If you give your notice today for example, 1/15, then your last day is in 2 weeks (1/29), then take a week and a half off. If you are paid in 2 week arrears you will still get a paycheck while your off. But look at your pay stub or ask the payroll folks. Doing this first, could align you with a faster way out, no bad feelings, then a week or so to decompress and take all of your positive energy to the new job. Congrats too btw!

  4. Anonymous

    I was taught my several managers that I mentored under that an employee should never give more than the required notice.

    cut your ties. Give 2 weeks and enjoy the additional week prior to stating your new position

  5. Anonymous

    Give notice when you are comfortable doing so. What does their policy state? Is it a requirement of X number of week notice to be paid out vacation? If not, just do it when you want. Also, be mindful of burning bridges. It's a small world.

  6. Anonymous

    Also, in my opinion, if you are required to give notice and say it's two weeks, Give that notice Monday. And take that extra week in between old and new to recharge, reset, etc. Not enough people do that (or have an opportunity to do that) and I think it is so important to not just hop to the next without at least a few days (not just a weekend) in between.

  7. Anonymous

    Give at least a 2 week notice. Don't burn bridges.

  8. Cynithia Munich

    Depends on the job

  9. Anonymous

    Give 2 weeks and take a week off to rest and reset before starting your new job.

  10. Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition Specialist

    Not everyone can afford to do that.

  11. Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition Specialist

    Congratulations on the new position! My recommendation is that you do what feels right FOR YOU.

    If you want to give notice now - do it. If giving notice now will allow you to exhale and really feel you're moving on to the next step, then go for it.

    Best of luck in your new adventure!!

  12. C. Garrabrant

    I would give notice now but keep it professional. They may not have a good reaction but you have to do what's best for you.

  13. Anonymous

    two weeks notice. They may either say thank you and you can leave now. They may try to get you to stay period or stay longer in a notice period. or They may say ok and do nothing with you.

    Unless you have a contract, you aren't even required to give two weeks notice. I would and I have at even a horrible/toxic place. I worked my two weeks and didn't do anything to sabotage, but didn't do anything beyond my 40 hours each week either.

  14. Anonymous

    This is business, not personal and it sounds like you owe them nothing. If roles were reversed, they might have you leave the day of termination. I would suggest giving two weeks notice today and leaving a week off in between jobs to recharge.

  15. Alexis Gladstone

    If you can afford to, I would give two weeks notice now and then take the 3rd week off and do something fun for yourself!

  16. Anonymous

    An extra week isn't really going to make much difference unless they decide to load you up with stressful work and burn you out before your new job starts. It would be sad to start your new job really burned out.

    I would consider giving your 2 weeks and taking a nice break in between jobs to refresh.

    Also, your employer could always cut you lose early after providing notice just to save $ . So if they have a history of treating you poorly that's a risk. The best thing to do is what you think is best

  17. Goalsetter498760

    This is exactly what my last job did to me when I gave 2 weeks. They kept me the full 2 weeks and then ran me absolutely ragged the whole time with busy work on top of my regular tasks that I was also expected to get done with zero errors.

    If the job is already disrespectful to you before you give notice, give the absolute minimum and take the extra week if you can afford it/you already have PTO to be paid out.

  18. Anonymous

    Give them two weeks. That's it. Calm down and take your spouse's advice (you sound a bit anxious about this). Listen, I have so many friends who "give more than enough notice", only to be told "Why don't you make today your last day?" and they are sent packing....Yep, companies do this all the time. So, if you possibly want 2-3 weeks of no work...then give your notice now.

  19. Ayian

    Three weeks feels luxurious to most organizations and that often leads to being dismissed early. They likely wouldn't give you notice and unless you are early in your career, there are other references you can provide. Do what feels comfortable to you with the understanding that more time gives them more time to think about how little they need you, so why pay to keep you for however long that is?

  20. Anonymous

    I would’ve given 2 weeks right away and used the third to take time to decompress and get mentally ready for the mew job.

  21. GirlBossanova934974

    2 weeks and that's it. You owe nothing to this company. Last but not least, don't be shocked and amazed if they drop you off the payroll when you give your notice or after a week. MAKE SURE you spend whatever of the 2 weeks notice period or LESS transition period, COLLECTING REFERENCES and gathering up things that you might use as a work sample for future jobs. Those references come in super handy and make the next few jobs easier to get.

  22. Anonymous

    My advice, especially if you have PTO for them to pay out when you leave, is to give two weeks' notice now and take the extra week to relax and prepare yourself for the new job. Otherwise, I'm with your husband: wait a week and give two weeks' notice. If the job is intolerable and you don't have an issue with the extra week's pay, give two weeks now and be done with it.

  23. Kelly Schrieber

    You’ve already gotten some great advice, but one other consideration is if there are any contingencies that need to clear before you start - such as a background check, for example, that could affect your start date, then I would wait as long as possible before giving notice. I’ve been stuck before where we’ve given notice only to have a delay in a background check and ended up with a week without healthcare coverage as a result.

  24. Anonymous

    Assuming you've cleared the background checks, give 2 weeks ASAP and take some days to chill before you start your new gig. AND-Congratulations!!

  25. Vanessa Lontoc

    Congratulations! There are more than plenty great advice already given here. I wish you well on your new job!

  26. Anonymous

    I gave extended notice and was treated horribly the remainder of my employment. On top of that, the company refused to interview anyone to replace me and then scrambled with a temp on my last day. I gave them entirely way too much of my time. Only give two weeks and call it a day. Good luck in your new position!

  27. Becky Aldaz

    2 weeks and that's that!! CONGRATS ON THE NEW JOB!!!! You will thrive!!!!

  28. Lisa McCartney

    2 weeks and a week to rest/recoup if necessary.

  29. Anonymous

    There is nothing magic about two weeks. Look in your handbook for the expectations for notice and leave when you want to leave. Just be sure you can survive without being paid for a week.

  30. Celena Barton

    Don’t burn bridges regardless of how you were treated. Give them the full three weeks.

  31. Anonymous

    2 weeks and prepare for them to make it shorter.

  32. Anonymous

    Why don't you give them the two week notice and take the third week off prior to starting your new position.

  33. Kim Kay

    Give the 2 week notice. It's not about the past, it's about the future. You never want to burn bridges or have people be able to point to you being unprofessional. Even if they treated you badly, your best bet is to rise above and continue to be a professional and responsible staff member until the end. They may offer to end it shorter and it's OK to accept but stick to what's generally accepted as the right thing to do.

  34. Anonymous

    2 weeks notice is standard business practice for most jobs and organizations.

  35. Jennifer

    Ha. A friend of mine would say, "they didn't hire your husband, they hired you!" 2 weeks. Do the standard correct procedure for you. If you had a personal issue with them and want just to drop it on top of them, that's fine as long as you aren't looking to use them for a reference. Burning unnecessary bridges is a no-no. This world is too small and you need every bit of good you can get.

  36. Wanda

    AMEN!!!

  37. J S

    I would do the standard two week notice, not three. Reason being, if they have treated you poorly already, you don’t know if they will just let you go on the spot like many companies do. So, why put yourself in that position?

  38. Colleen Hanson

    I agree! I have seen numerous friends and co-workers go through this; they put in their notice and are told to leave immediately. Usually it has happened in companies where the culture was somewhat toxic to begin with.

  39. Wanda

    It's noble of you to want to give them three weeks' notice but two weeks' notice is the norm.

  40. Anonymous

    3 weeks if you can. But employer might cut short to 2.

  41. Anonymous

    If you intend to list them as a reference in the future, give them the 2wks notice.

    If not, do what you feel is right considering the situation.

  42. Sandy Sabean

    Unless you are in a leadership or senior role where the transition is more complex and might warrant giving more notice, two weeks is best practice. The one week in between will benefit you mentally and physically. Enjoy!

  43. NGfairy2024#

    if there are no repurcussions, just give one week. Take the second week off and relax. then join the new job in the 3rd week.

  44. Anonymous

    There is no right thing to do, honestly. Whatever you do is the right thing. But here’s what I think you should consider.

    1. You don’t *owe* that company or anyone who works at that company anything.
    2. You don’t need to be “loyal” to them by giving them extra time because they wouldn’t give you 3 weeks or even one week if they decided to fire you.
    3. Upon giving notice they can terminate you (or ask you to leave) immediately.
    4. Don’t concern yourself with burning bridges just because you give a short or no-notice. That’s something management told people to make them fearful of leaving. Giving little notice isn’t burning a bridge, it’s saving yourself. I’m guessing you have zero thoughts of ever returning anyway.
    5. They will figure it out!!

    Congrats on the new job.

  45. Cheryl Dennis

    Congratulations! Now as for your current employer, keep it simple. Two weeks is sufficient. Take that third week to deconstruct the negativity and rejuvenate for your next role.

    As for me, my previous role I had a boss that was stressful. I gave them three weeks because I knew that o would leave them in a tough spot. You could also go on PTO for one week then when you return announce your two weeks’ notice. So it’s no right or wrong.

    do what is best for your mental health.

  46. Anonymous

    I would give them 2 weeks notice which is standard, but if you want a breather week in between give them 3 weeks and take that last week to refresh before the new job. Congratulations and don't burn the bridge just because they suck.

  47. Victoria Zona

    Give them 2 weeks and take the week for yourself to regroup before you start a new job you will be happy you did

  48. Anonymous

    This is a decision that you can only make, keeping in mind they may let you go on the spot, can you go without any income for a week or so and be ok. 2 weeks is a good amount of time, it's respectful. 3 weeks they may not find the value either in that last week.

  49. Marycorrea305@gmail.com

    Agreed.

  50. Amy Homer-Smith

    I'm in a similar situation at my job. The environment has been so toxic and abusive, my family is telling me to leave with no notice. I feel like there's another advantage to leave without notice (or short notice), it won't give them a chance to call your new job and trash talk you to your new boss.

  51. Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition Specialist

    I would recommend you not leave without giving notice - it could come back to bite you. At some companies, doing that will make you ineligible for re-hire and that could come up on future background checks.

  52. Anonymous

    I would give them notice. It's a small world, and you never know who will know someone in your network. Good luck

  53. Sandy Pochapin

    Never burn a bridge. Give them 2 weeks notice and start crossing off the days on your calendar.

  54. Anonymous

    Legally they can't do that. New employer can only inquire of old employer if you are eligible for rehire. You also don't need to tell your former employer where you are going.

  55. Kim Green

    It can range from "meh" to getting walked out and your account disabled so there's no sour grapes damage on the way out. If you're lucky there's a handoff or at least a project update.

    If there's water under the bridge you may not owe them any notice. 2 weeks is a business courtesy not a requirement most times.

    Right to work state means they can fire you at any time with no cause, and you can quit at any time with no cause, and you are not required to be a union employee.

  56. Anonymous

    I agree with your husband. Two weeks is sufficient. Good luck.

  57. Anonymous

    Two weeks.

  58. Jodi Baker

    2 weeks. You don’t owe them anything!!

  59. Anonymous

    If u do it Monday u give yourself 1 week buffer to reset with just a 2 wk notice - WIN!

  60. Elizabeth

    Tell them now and you get to have short timers attitude for three weeks instead of two. (Kidding, sort of).

  61. Anonymous

    Two weeks notice and give yourself a week at home to rest, restore, and prepare for your new adventure!

    However, if it is a toxic environment, either 1 week or last day notice! I left my previous job with no notice. Went in knowing my last day on a Thursday, gave my resignation letter to the boss at end of day and walked out with my head held high, bounce in my step, and a sense of freedom with no regrets!

  62. Anonymous

    I'd do it now and take a week for yourself.

    Giving 2 weeks is a professional courtesy and says more about you than whether or not your company deserves it.

    Depending on what type of work you do and if you are moving to a competitor, I had the experience that same day they walked me out.

  63. Mariann Collins

    Never burn a bridge. 2 weeks notice is maintaining your professionalism.

  64. Anonymous

    I left a job that was a pretty rough environment with some pretty rude people. I still gave a long notice and left on really good terms. It felt good taking the high road and walking out with my head held high. I think 3 weeks is plenty of time.

  65. Anonymous

    I left a toxic job environment 3 years ago. I gave two weeks notice and had an extra week to recover. I went hiking, took extra walks to throughout the week with my dog. That week was nice but it took about a year for my confidence to be completely restored. I recently found out that in the three years that I've been gone, they have went through seven people for my old position. It is still a toxic environment.

  66. Janet Parkhurst

    Okay, what am I missing here? The poster hasn't even STARTED the job and wants to "quit." She hasn't said why. All the comments speak to toxic environments, etc., but how would she know what KIND of environment it is if she hasn't yet set foot on the premises? (Or started remotely, via PC...) How was she "treated?" That's not clear, either. It sounds like she has just changed her mind about the position and the company, why? Again, not clear. If my understanding is correct, there is no "notice" involved. Simply phone/email the hiring manager with your change of heart message and wish them the best!

  67. Bosslady520080

    She is asking if she should give the usual two weeks' notice as her husband suggests or do three weeks. My opinion is two weeks' notice.

  68. Elizabyth Harrington

    She's got a new job and asking how much notice to give her old employer. :)

  69. Cheryl Wilburg

    Give as much notice as you would like, being aware that they may let you go immediately after you submit your notice. More and more companies are doing this, and if you have already been poorly treated, that's likely what will happen.

  70. Elizabyth Harrington

    Give them a two week notice and use that extra week to decompress and clear your head before starting the new role. Good luck and Congrats on the new role!

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