So I’ve been at my company 16 years.

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October 6,2021 at 3:57AM UTC

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So I’ve been at my company 16 years. I implemented the new billing system for the company from the ground up. Me and me alone. We went remote when COVID hit and recently went back to office. I was moved to a new remote office on a day I was out of office and there were 2 cameras put into the new tiny office I was put in. I was furious as there is no cash or anything that is dealt with by me or my coworker. I said I wasn’t going to work anymore under surveillance and gave my 2 weeks notice. So the executive director said good luck to you and basically said see ya. I stayed 2 weeks and 2 days so I could finish something that was wrong by my own fault and didn’t want to leave errors because that’s not who I am. Nobody else knew my job including my boss. She thought she’d hire some new person and not even offer the job to the person who assisted me and think some young kid could come in and replace me. Now I get a message from the new CFO if I could come back and help “train” the new person to do my job for half a day. As IF a half of day she could learn my job. They have the software company training her but they want me to train her on tips that perhaps the software company couldn’t teach her. Meanwhile the company threw MASSIVE money to other people who have quit recently to stay. I’m insulted that they felt I was so easily replaced. Am I wrong? I already have a new job but I’m really hurt and angry. I feel they did my coworker dirty too for not at least asking her if she wanted the position before hiring someone else who’s much younger also. Am I wrong?

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Navjot KaurOctober 6,2021 at 4:39AM UTC
No, you aren't wrong but your Ex-company is.You are just hurt indicating that you have put lot of energy and dedication to your ex-company's project.You are not easily replaceable .They will realize sooner or later but don't ever go back to them.
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 7:31PM UTC
Thank you so much! I appreciate the kind words!
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 8:39AM UTC
I echo Navjot. You have no obligation either, to help them out, even it it's paid.
Robyn WickOctober 6,2021 at 1:30PM UTC
I think the best thing for you is to politely decline as you have a new job and work on not giving them any more of your energy or time. They don't deserve it and you deserve to have a new start with your new employer that is free of that drama.
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 7:31PM UTC
Thank you!
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 2:20PM UTC
I get it. You spent 16 years there so it's very emotional.
Don't worry about your coworker. She'll be just fine.
As for the new person, She'll figure things out and make the job her own. She will also be fine. Just give her time.
You are entitled to your feelings of hurt and anger. The company didn't throw money at you to stay because they were done. 16 years is much longer than most people stay at a job. So it's probably good to get new blood in the office.
Enjoy your new job, don't spend a lot of time invested in rehashing the day to day activities with your former colleagues. It's keeps you stuck in a dark place. They asked you to lighten their load and make their transition easier. They didn't care about you or respect you when you worked for them so make a clean break and let them figure things out. Everyone is expendable.
Salimah IsmailOctober 6,2021 at 2:57PM UTC
You are not wrong at all. This company had no integrity and treated you abhorrently. The hurt will persist -but like a bad breakup, you will heal with time. Congratulations on the new job, they are so lucky to have you.
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 7:28PM UTC
Thank you so much for your kind words!
AnonymousOctober 6,2021 at 3:58PM UTC
If they are willing to pay you enough to make it worth your while and you can take PTO I'd go for it. If not, nope.
AnonymousOctober 7,2021 at 12:42PM UTC
Very politely decline their half day offer, wish them well, and move on.
Your anger is justified, but your understanding of your work quality and worth to an organization comes from within. It’s really hard when we realize that we spent a lot of time and effort somewhere and we were not valued.
AnonymousOctober 7,2021 at 7:32PM UTC
Thank you for your kind words! I did not even reply and I start my new job Tuesday. It is already such a change and I didn’t even start yet. My new boss told me they are lucky to have me and that he just wants me to Love my new job! What boss tells you that? I’m so happy to be going there and I’m letting go of the old and toxic and going forward with happiness and light! Thanks for everyone’s kind words. It’s so nice to hear from strangers. Love and light to all!!!
AnonymousOctober 7,2021 at 10:27PM UTC
Great news and congratulations! All the best to you in your new position!
AnonymousOctober 13,2021 at 8:19PM UTC
Thank you so much! My new bosses are AMAZING! They appreciate me so much I could cry! I got the NICEST text from one that said how lucky they were to have me and thank you for becoming part of their team. I couldn’t be happier!