Advice please!

15 Comments

1. Sue Gordon- retired Career CoachJuly 15,2023 at 1:43PM UTC

   There’s not enough info here to assess if marketing is a good fit.

   If it was something you enjoyed prior to this last experience, then it was the job, not the career.

   Take advantage of this time to add some new skills. LinkedIn has some tools or your local community college perhaps. If you enjoy learning more about marketing it is likely a fit. And you’ll add to your resume.

2. Steve SqueJuly 15,2023 at 5:00PM UTC

   This is similar to my experience. I got stuck in an office in room service because I took to job quickly. Now I can’t back to FOH gigs

3. AnonymousJuly 16,2023 at 12:23PM UTC

   I would talk to a lawyer and see if you can sue for constructive dismissal.

4. AnonymousJuly 16,2023 at 12:47PM UTC

   Take a contract job in marketing. If it still doesn't feel like a field that you want to pursue then transition to another field through education and networking. Believe in yourself even if others did not. That's the key to success.

5. AnonymousJuly 16,2023 at 2:11PM UTC

   Work relationships are kind of fake, yes.

   If you can get some work through Upwork or the like, that will help you stay afloat, keep up your spirits, and build on your resume. I worked at several gig jobs while I was unemployed, including food delivery and respite care for an old guy with dementia. Success was a low bar, but I needed to feel successful as well as needing the money and keeping busy.

   It's impossible to say if you were in the wrong field because you don't say why you think that could be the case. Do you agree with negative feedback you received? Are you afraid you're too old for the field, or not creative enough, or not "in it" when you're working on a project?

6. AnonymousJuly 17,2023 at 2:04AM UTC

   Don't let anyone deter you from doing what YOU want. It sounds like you got talked into a role and didn't really process it completely when moving over. You shouldn't beat yourself up about things but is there a possibility to go back there to the first role you were in? It is a tough time right now in Tech and marketing and there are many people in the market. Can you use the folks who know the quality of your work to help you find other roles? If not try to see if you can find some contract work or maternity leave work if you can. Any use your network and second tier network and let them all know you are looking . Good luck.

7. AnonymousJuly 18,2023 at 12:36PM UTC

   You do you! I speak from experience, you build these relationships and a certain rapport, and I don't think they were/are fake, it was just a time that you could connect with certain people. Beyond that, I still question people to this day, but it's better spent on you ?

8. Karrie RuteckiJuly 18,2023 at 2:07PM UTC

   You had to do what you needed to . mentally and yes physically. I was in same boat 7 years with a company. Was awesome at my job did everything from open to close. Cross trained on everyone's duties. ( Thought everyone at company did too) .

   I got burned big time switching my shift to nights cause the night guy was not happy. Not my issue.

   Wasn't given a choice really so I walked out. They tried to get me back , but being there for so long I know the routine there. So I said no!

   Been out of work 3 months now . A bit panicky yes , but I know something will come a long . Keep looking! The stress is real the emotions are real you will get something and get your groove back..

9. Kristie WhiteJuly 18,2023 at 2:52PM UTC

   Working relationships aren't fake, but they are often temporary. And they may become undesirable if one of the parties becomes "toxic," caught up in office politics, intrigue, scandal, or poor performance. Sounds like you became toxic and your working relationships suffered from it. I have experienced the same. IMO, a real relationship would not treat you like your work woes were contagious and would support you through this difficult time. So you have learned that your relationships there were not strong enough to weather the storm. However, if you think you had a good relationship with someone and now that time has passed, you might reach out tentatively and privately to see if there is any connection. It won't hurt. And by the way, these workplace disasters happen to the best of us - you can't see them coming and suddenly you are the target. If you can identify what caused you to fail in the second job and learn from it, there might be a valuable lesson there that helps you avoid that situation in the future. Good luck!

10. JJJuly 19,2023 at 3:09AM UTC

    What do you mean “Spunds like you became toxic.” Wtf

11. Kristie WhiteJuly 19,2023 at 8:46PM UTC

    re: Sounds like you became toxic - I mean your co-workers became uncomfortable with your difficulties in your job performance. Logically, you may have been sharing your frustrations or concerns with colleagues, supervisors may have witnessed the relationships and wondered if there was a sympathetic ear that they would have to deal with if disciplinary action or performance planning was implemented. When you become someone in the office that is not getting along well - for whatever reason - people become uncomfortable with the conversations around the job, the potential impact on their own job, etc. It's like being afraid you are contagious - it isn't logical, it's human nature to distance from a sinking ship. Someone would have to think about it and make the decision to support you no matter what to change their immediate behavior.

12. AnonymousJuly 18,2023 at 5:03PM UTC

    Hi! Thank you for sharing your experience - I completely relate with you, as similar situation happen to me. All I can say, DO NOT let this experience bring you down! Let this experience empower and motivate you to move forward. There is something better for you. Sending you positive vibes and good luck!

13. AnonymousJuly 19,2023 at 2:55PM UTC

    Do not let what happened to you define who you are and what you want in life. You have a very valuable skill set and knowledge. I'd recommend looking into what it would take to go into business for yourself. It can be a lot of work at times, however, at the same time it can be highly rewarding.

    I was illegally forced out due to being disabled from a job I loved. However, I fought back when my former employer lied and told my state's unemployment office that I was terminated for cause. Unknown to my former employer I had already contacted my attorney about what happened, and I had all sorts of evidence on them. It took me nearly 2 months to begin receiving my unemployment benefits, however, I was lucky in that my parents at the time were able to financially help us at the time. I filed a complaint right away with the EEOC. When I filed my appeal with unemployment in my state I gave them my EEOC reference number, and also attached some of the evidence I had against my former employer for my illegal termination. I filed my appeal on early Friday morning, band by Tuesday afternoon I had my first check plus nearly 2 months of back pay in benefits! I also received a little help from an unemployment specialist at one of the local area unemployment offices, that told me which parts of what happened to me would help me get my benefits the fastest.

    What happened to me led to me deciding to become self-employed as a bookkeeper. I opened my own firm, where I'm currently the sole employee. I love it, because I'm able to help other microbusiness owners, be able to receive affordable help to ensure they are able to have a great set of financial books for their small business. It also works well for me being self-employed, because it allows me to focus on what is important to me. Since, I'm self-employed I was able to spend as much time as I felt I needed to when my mom was brought home on hospice before she passed away. I wouldn't have been able to do that if I had been working for a traditional employer.

    So, I would definitely consider looking into going to work for yourself. There are a lot of great free and low cost resources available to you, to help you make those decisions. I wasn't planning on going to work for myself, however, when it presented itself to me, it just made sense for me to do so.

    Just remember you need to do, whatever, feels right for you.

14. Farah BajwaJuly 19,2023 at 7:04PM UTC

    I have a similar experience. Hired into a job I loved then a year into it I was told to pack up my desk because I was being transferred to a different role. No talking to me about it. My manager was told if I didn't like it I could quit and the rumor mill said I was being saved from a pending layoff. I tried to play ball in the role; it sucked. And a year into that role, after investing in my training etc, I was still laid off.

    Have you immediately filed for unemployed? if not, get on that like yesterday. LinkedIn has an area where people can write referrals. Ask those you are on good terms with to write something for you. Connect and reach out to new people in companies you want to work at - ask them for internal referrals. I'd encourage having a cover letter with your resume to give personality and character to your resume. If you see a role you really really like, if you are brave enough, show up at their door! Stay the course! What's meant for you will come to you!

15. Stephanie LekowskiJuly 30,2023 at 1:16PM UTC

    Being baited-and-switched like you were is horrible and unfortunately done more often than we want to think. If you really don't like marketing anymore explore alternate career paths but I doubt all your relationships were fake; there has to be good people who had nothing to do with management's poor decisions to do what they did to you.