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What would you do?

A recruiter for a high profile company reached out to me for a role that can sky rocket my career! It was so crazy when I got the email I thought it was fake. Turns out it is real.

It's a manager position in my field that I've been in for 20+ years. The job pays well over $100K salary that I havent been able to reach until now. I would be working with very high profile people and surrounded by the best of the best in their fields which gives me ultimate networking opportunities and a chance to learn from the best.

Here's my dilemma: I would have to move to a different city (4 hours away), with my husband and 2 year old. There is no relocation assistance. I would have to put my current house up for rent (not going to sell) and find a new place to live.

Also, I have been working from home for the last 4 years and due to a health condition I get monthly treatment at a local hospital. I would have to get used to going back into an office 5 days a week and move all my healthcare to the new city as well. My husband works from home so he doesn't have any issues with moving. My child is in preschool and doing really well and I am hestitant to move him.

AND THE KICKER: The job is only for 2 years until their big event, then it ends and I will have to find new employment.

I have been out of work for 4 months now and need to find work and have been applying without any callbacks.

The thought of moving out of our dream house and moving to a smaller house for a couple years is daunting...the packing, the moving, the storage , the renters etc. It will be stressful for sure.

I have lived in the new city before so I know it well. It will be an adjustment for all of us. But then we would move back to our original home in 2 years.

I've had 1 interview so far that was very promising as long as I am willing to move. Of course I said yes I would move to see how far I get in the interview process. Just not sure how I feel about moving and all the changes.

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  1. Anonymous

    I would consider it, depending on if you can switch healthcare providers easily for your treatment. It's going to be a big transition, especially for your kiddo so that may be rough. But the long term benefits of a pay bump could be great and you know when to start applying for jobs back in your hometown.

  2. Anonymous

    I would do the math ( relocating., commuting and maintaing your home as a landlord long distance etc) and be honest with the emotional life costs (emotional wear and tear) as well. Would making over $100k really be that big an impact after taxes and commuting expenses? I recently made a jump from mid $100's to $200 and the impact was minimal after taxes.

    I would look at this opportunity as a sign that your value in the market is strong.

  3. Anonymous

    I was once allowed to work on a contract across the country for nine months, and the company paid for me to commute from my home. I rented a small apartment close to where the job was and flew in on Mondays and out on Fridays. Admittedly, there was a lot of wear and tear in the family life, but we worked through it. I didn't have the health issue you have, though. While this lifestyle is not for everyone, it is an option, especially if it is a limited-term contract. BTW, my children were about the same age as yours when I did this.

    If the company insists that you completely uproot your family for a two-year project, that would be a hard no. Still, alternatives, like half-days on Friday or unlimited PTO, may allow you to meet them halfway with their relocation mandate.

  4. Anonymous

    For what you are describing. Go for it. Especially if you can swing the finances. Why? Opportunities like this get much harder when the kids start school.

    My husband had a job he disliked and was not loyal too and we had a 2 year old. We put it off. Now we are in school age kids with a successful IEP in an amazing charter school (I cannot leave and get them back in). My husband loves his job and the current family situation does not allow me to take big career risks or changes.

    But I would price out if you can financially make it work and take it from there. Don't forget to compare childcare costs. Also your doctors should hopefully be able to provide recommendations for you in the new city.

  5. Elizabeth

    Feel free to send me the name of the recruiter and the company! I have zero qualms about picking up and moving for a job that gives me access to networking opportunities. I’m not employed at the moment. Have no small children or husband to worry about. And I could use healthcare benefits!

  6. Anonymous

    I would not do it. It could put your health in jeopardy. It sounds like you have a great job now that is working with you. 2 years is not worth the stress. Best of luck -

  7. GirlBossanova934974

    First off, I would hold off on all the celebration and excitement until you actually have a signed job offer. Second, the opportunity looks good.. I would take it. And understand you can take the last 6 months of the new job to look for another job. I would give the job of finding a renter and maintaining your rental over to a good real estate agent. They will charge you 8-10% of the rent but you won't have to deal with rent collections, tenant issues, property maintenance, and finding new tenants if need be.

  8. Afo Ogbeyalu Kalu

    From your post, it seems like you already have a solid blueprint for the transition to the new city/new job. My suggestion is to wait for a firm offer and employment contract, have a professional manage your house rental, and start looking fora new position after a year to 18 months into the new job.

    Taking the new job establishes you with a higher title, ability to command a higher salary, and all of the other benefits you mentioned in your post . . .

  9. Anonymous

    It's a lifestyle change and choice that only you can decide upon. IMHO I would continue in the interview process stay the course and if and when offered the role take it as long as your husband is along for the ride to support you with all of the changes. Don't think about the 2 years from now thing because so much can happen between now and then that could alter the course of your career future! Take the path until it doesn't feel right to you. Good luck!

  10. Tami L Cannizzaro

    Continue with the interviews! You can't turn it down until they make you an offer. If you receive an offer, which I hope you do and it's good to think about logistics *just in case, then you can think about what you might want to negotiate. I've had many friends do this, while having a family, and it worked out well for them. They thought of it as both a personal career boost, family budget enhancer, and adventure for all. Knowing it was temporary definitely helped everyone. One person said they actually considered moving to the new city after living there. If it were me, and the job was good, I liked the people/work/etc; my husband could go with me - I'd do it. Again, it's temporary and I know I can do anything short-term.

  11. Liz Milne

    I would accept the offer, get a short term lease and just you go, leaving hubby and kid in house, until you were sure it was a good move. Once you're settled in the job, you can decide together if you're going to all move, or if you'll commute for the time being. 4 hours is a lot, but you could be home every weekend, maybe even work from home some of the time so you don't miss too much. The experience gained from the job might boost your career for after the two-year contract...

    But obviously, you and your husband will have to talk it through, see what's going to work for you both.

  12. Diane J Huff

    I wouldn't sell my home. I would leave the hubby and family at home with the house and look for an extended stay hotel. I would spend weekends at home with the family. If it was a long term opportunity, sure. But I would not uproot my life for a job that has an expiration date.

  13. Dominique Troiano Dachille

    For true perspective find people who have relocated for short term employment and see what their advice is. This is a unique experience - it’s very easy for people who have never been in this position to tell you what they would do, but they have never been in your shoes. Use LI, and if you’re comfortable the recruiter, to find others that have relocated (with or without their families) and see if they found it worth it.

  14. Anonymous

    Go for it! It may be a once in a lifetime opportunity. It may end up to be permanent or you will be offered another permanent position. Family , house and healthcare are all transferable, including the baby’s daycare needs and he’ll make new friends. Good luck.

  15. Anonymous

    No such thing as a dream house. You're building a new life - I say go for it!

  16. Jennifer K. Boulet

    Can you provide this recruiter’s contact information please? I have quite a few however my search, now 9 months of intensive interviewing and applications are failing. My resume is ATS compliant, I’m director level and have been offered five roles from different companies all that have been rescinded the week Prior to starting. I’m about to loose my apartment. Please share this recruiters info or email me at jenboulet24@gmail.com

    thank you and good luck!!

  17. Ayian

    Preschool and early schooling is probably the best time to relocate with children. 2 years isn't forever, but you'll be NETWORKING the whole time with people who you can let know that you'll be available after this engagement is up. You're already planning to rent, not sell the house, so you'll have a place to go back to and rentals are still hot on the market.

    I don't see any reasons NOT to go for it other than the medical/physical aspects and your spouse's job. It would definitely be an adjustment, but somewhere that wants you will absolutely, 100% work with you on your medical stuff. My cousin had kidney failure in his early 20's due to a genetic condition and throughout hiring at high end companies, his medical was accommodated for. When they want YOU, they'll make it work.

  18. Liz Milne

    '* Go for the interview, then accept the offer if made! etc, etc!

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