My job is extremely toxic and clique.

15 Comments

1. Nancy CincottaAugust 30,2025 at 2:44PM UTC

   Soooo helpful

2. Nancy CincottaAugust 30,2025 at 2:48PM UTC

   keep doing your job, offering your best to the students and families that you serve. The right people will see your work ethic and appreciate you. You are there to offer your skills and effort in exchange for compensation. Getting to socialize at events is secondary. Focus on your primary responsibilities first. .Sometimes this helps things fall into place.

3. Lakota SierraAugust 30,2025 at 3:10PM UTC

   Thank you Nancy. I appreciate your comment. I meant to write cliquey.

4. AnonymousAugust 30,2025 at 5:08PM UTC

   Your boss is the one who should be embarrassed. Just keep doing a great job making a difference for the kids, and consider transferring schools next year. I'm a teacher who formerly had a horrible boss. Now that I have a good one, it makes a tremendous difference.

5. AnonymousAugust 31,2025 at 1:59PM UTC

   So who is your boss? A grade level team captain? Principal? Superintendent? Is this a public school or private school? I think your level of removal from proximity to this person may determine how often you have to see your boss and whether you can just tolerate occasional gatherings or you need to deal with this. In what way was it embarrassing? Did the boss embarass/humiliate you? Or were you embarrassed for the boss?

6. Lakota SierraSeptember 1,2025 at 5:42PM UTC

   No she is director of a preschool where I work and she is dumber than a box of rocks.

7. Lakota SierraSeptember 1,2025 at 5:40PM UTC

   Thank you,

8. AnonymousAugust 30,2025 at 5:14PM UTC

   And? It sounds like you need to in private give some feedback to your manager about how you are feeling and perhaps excuse yourself from the next event if things can't change. If this is more worrisome than that moving on is the only other option to a place where you just do work and are collegial and not more.

9. AnonymousAugust 31,2025 at 12:20AM UTC

   Next time make an excuse not to attend.

10. Lakota SierraSeptember 1,2025 at 5:47PM UTC

    Unfortunately it was mandatory.

11. AnonymousAugust 31,2025 at 5:45PM UTC

    As an introvert who hates social situations, I decline 2/3 of the social events. I keep track so even if I have to go, I can console myself that I will be able to skip the next two.

12. AnonymousAugust 31,2025 at 7:33PM UTC

    When my boss asked me if I was attending the holiday party I said no, I don't do work parties. He said Okay! No biggie. Then I got a new boss. She asked the same the next year. I said the same. My team doesn't care. She's fine with it but does mention it whenever there's an event. And it doesn't bother me. Its not in my job description. I wfh too and only go in a few times a year. I know I'm lucky. I really like my boss

    and our small team gets all the

    things done.

13. Lakota SierraSeptember 1,2025 at 5:46PM UTC

    Unfortunately, this was mandatory. We are on a point system so if we miss a school event, we get points. It's beyond stupid.

14. AnonymousSeptember 1,2025 at 3:17PM UTC

    Your boss should be embarrassed-not you. I hate socializing outside of work. I have always made up a casual excuse and no one ever questioned it. I hope you're looking elsewhere. Life is too short to be around idiots.

15. Lakota SierraSeptember 1,2025 at 5:39PM UTC

    Anonymous-Thank you. My boss is beyond dumb and very naive. She has absolutely no clue or idea how to treat others.