My job is very isolating...

Anonymous

October 4,2022 at 4:14PM UTC

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My job is very isolating...

My supervisor has created a not-so-safe and isolating environment for me. I get invited to meetings and projects and then disinvited.

When I aired out my grievances with him...he yelled at me and told me that I would never be an executive at the organization when all, if asked for, was opportunities for visibility.

He thought changing my job description several times, would work, and now I am sitting in the office with nothing to do. I am a highly skilled individual with senior/executive level experience, and on most days, I dread coming in. I have been actively job searching, but it doesn't seem to be going well since I have been in three roles in the last year (I left the first role after two years when my supervisors was fired; my second role I left at seven months due to working 10-14 hours/6 days a week, and I have been in my current position now for over seven months). All prospective employers I have been interviewing with do not seem to fond of my work history in last three years, even, when I am being honest in my responses.

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AnonymousOctober 4,2022 at 6:53PM UTC
You’re being managed out.
Sounds like this may not be a mutual fit. I can suggest these things:
A) Take inventory of the areas that benefit from adaptation. Identify where your mindsets/ actions/ behaviors factor into the mix. What can YOU do better? Even the most experienced people have room to adapt.
B) Revisit your accomplishments. Take inventory of your strengths.
C) Identify the environment that is the best fit for you & seek it out.
hood luck to you.
AnonymousOctober 4,2022 at 7:20PM UTC
First, sorry for your unfair treatment. You are not alone, and I have had similar job experiences. Let this negative experience strengthens you. I suggest you use your free time to document your projects and achievements. Document achievements, failures, and successes and send the list to yourself. Review your previous performance reviews. Then update your resume and attend the resume drop and job fair. Communicate/chat/IM with other departments or stakeholders to keep your name out there and discover what may be happening in the organization. In my experience, there was a reorganization, and my manager appropriated my slides as his own.
Document what you are looking for and why the previous companies did not work for your goals. Do not say anything negative about your current job or previous jobs. It is ok to say the work I love to do, and I am seeking an opportunity where I can use my skills of xxx. Follow your passion and be authentic in your response.
AnonymousOctober 5,2022 at 3:17AM UTC
I am very sorry for your mistreatment, I am going through a very similar issue, you are not alone! If you can keep your job ( and your sanity) let them pay you while you search for a better position (know that you will find one soon). I left my job only to find one I hate more (unbelievable) . I am staying at the second one but searching for a new job. It has been hard. Continue to be honest that will help you find a much better job.
Maegan, Nike Sales Rep & Career CoachOctober 5,2022 at 9:57PM UTC
Hey anonymous,
Sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you need a more challenging opportunity. A few questions for you (from what you wrote) Are you clear on your career goals and values of the company you want to be at? You can be picky with what/where your next job is to build the experiences you are looking for and stay there for a good stretch of time.
Are you leading with your strengths when on phone interviews ? Have you aligned them to the companies you are applying to? Are you working to build your network with people who are at companies you are interested in working for?
I think your answers to these questions can really help you get clear on where you want to be and help you be memorable when applying/interviewing. If you want deeper support with this, grab some time on my calendar and I can help you with it! https://maeganmillercoaching.as.me/consultcall
AnonymousOctober 6,2022 at 1:43PM UTC
Thanks, I will take a look.
AnonymousOctober 6,2022 at 12:03AM UTC
Since he reacted the way he did, which was inappropriate, I would report him to HR. Did he change your job description prior to your conversation with him? If so, why? If not, this may be retaliatory behavior. I would report them, what do you have to lose you are obviously unhappy.
AnonymousOctober 6,2022 at 1:42PM UTC
Thanks for your feedback. I am currently working in a charter school in the NY metro area, and HR here des pretty much what they want. For sure, they follow the "at will" employment pretty hard. I also don't have proof of him saying this to me, and I am not sure how hearsay would hold up to retaliation and/or potential termination. So, I haven't said much and have dealt with it. I am actively looking for work.
AnonymousOctober 8,2022 at 1:58PM UTC
I’m curious, say more. Retaliatory on what grounds?