Starting a New Job Next Month.

Anonymous

October 12,2021 at 3:03PM UTC

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Starting a New Job Next Month.

So I am excited to have a new opportunity next month. However, before I got the final interview my husband and I had decided we were going to try for our second child.

I am now very early into a pregnancy. Will not be 14 weeks along until our company closes for the holiday.

I am not worried about benefits because I currently work for this organization.

We are mostly WFH right now with 1-2 days of office time based on your schedule. My new boss is also a mom.

I personally feel like I am letting down my new management team and my company.

I will be working in the role 9 months before being out for 3 months. It seems like I am giving my organization the shaft.

My anxiety is out of control and I feel like I cannot win.

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Sheila SenescallOctober 12,2021 at 3:36PM UTC
Since your boss is a new mom, have a conversation with her. I'm sure she can relate and can give you some guidance.
AnonymousOctober 12,2021 at 5:44PM UTC
Oh wow...tough situation. What you can do is use your time wisely and work closely with your boss to do all you can to prepare for your leave. You have a lot of time to make a positive impact on your organization and to prepare for your leave.
AnonymousOctober 12,2021 at 7:53PM UTC
Congratulations! On both the baby and job. Im so sorry that your feelings of anxiety and guilt are preventing you from celebrating both of these exciting events.
You have nothing to feel badly about! Your career should support and complement your personal life, not hinder it. I know it’s easier said than done, but if you can, please take some time for yourself and gain some perspective.
Nine months is plenty of time to get into this job, establish yourself and your team, and create a plan for your leave. Because you’re already in this company, they already know your work ethic and character. Mom guilt is awful, but understandable. If you find yourself continuing to struggle, I would urge you to discuss it with your therapist and obgyn.
Fiona EdatOctober 12,2021 at 10:19PM UTC
This feeling must be quite common and if your new manager is also a mom as you said, then a certain level of compassion and understanding should be there. In Europe, maternity leave is about 2 years! Don't feel guilty about taking care of a newborn for 3 months - most people have been in your shoes. When you do go back, go back with enthusiasm - 3 months is not a long time in the grand scheme of things.
Emily HagenOctober 13,2021 at 3:07AM UTC
You don’t need to earn time off to have a baby. You deserve it and need it for your and your baby’s health and happiness. You have nothing to feel guilty about it. If someone has an issue with it, that’s their problem, not yours!!
Congrats, Mama ❤️
AnonymousOctober 13,2021 at 1:37PM UTC
First off take a deep breath and remember that your family is forever and all jobs are temporary. Congratulations on your new role, how exciting, also congratulations on growing your family. Both are very important life events but neither has anything to do with each other. Your new job has nothing to do with your status as a parent so don't let it stress you out or influence your decision on when to share your personal medical news. It sounds like you are a good person who is worried about those who you work with and not wanted to blindside them. BUT please remember that they will find someone else to do the work and they can't punish you for living your life.