I know that is I really wanted to I could get a job. Keeping it is another matter entirely.

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1. Jessica FerlandSeptember 3,2025 at 3:38PM UTC

   I have questions:

   What are the reasons that you get fired so frequently?

   What kind of work do you want to do?

2. ElizabethSeptember 4,2025 at 4:46PM UTC

   I had issues with hierarchy. Toxic work environments. Abusive bosses. Office politics. You get it. I do have a mental illness. I thought that's what it was. Maybe the sigma behind mental illness. Someone mentioned inpatient. At ones point I thought it would be a godsend but I had to defend myself there just like everywhere else. I did get a diagnosis that helped me though. I have a very good therapist but not a miracle worker. I know it'll take time. I've held onto my current job for the past two years. I'm no longer worried about getting fired. I apologize if I sounded like I was in crisis. I was mostly just venting. I know I have to deal with my own issues with people in positions of authority. I am. I also know that not everyone can relate because they don't have the same struggles. Their struggles are water cooler discussions or getting passed up on a promotion.. The irony, I'm excellent at helping others succeed but for whatever reason it doesn't apply to me. Unlike popular belief we're not all psycho. I'm not even depressed. Not anymore. I think I'm just annoyed. Does that make sense?

3. AnonymousSeptember 3,2025 at 4:51PM UTC

   Finding a job is the least of your worries. You need some intense therapy to deal with your self sabotage and extreme anxiety. You don't need anymore firings. Your current therapy is not cutting it. It has invaded every area of your life and that's not healthy.

   So look to inpatient treatment if you can't find a great therapist.

4. AnonymousSeptember 3,2025 at 5:07PM UTC

   It sounds like therapy for your sabotaging your own success is going to be the path for you. Take the time to do this because you need to nip that in the bud before you become completely unemployable. Good luck.

5. AnonymousSeptember 4,2025 at 2:55PM UTC

   I agree with the others. Please find a therapist to get to the root of what's happening with you. Once you understand yourself on a deeper level, things will start to change. Many offer virtual care so you don't even have to leave your home. And many offer sliding scales for payment if you're struggling financially. Asking for help is a big sign of strength! I would define defeat as continuing on the same path doing nothing differently and expecting different results. Oh, wait-that's the definition of insanity :). Therapy changed my life. I hope you'll give yourself the gift of getting the help you need. Hugs!

6. AnonymousSeptember 4,2025 at 4:00PM UTC

   Asking for help is not defeat, and as others have indicated, therapy might be helpful. They do have online options, but in your situation, it may be better to plan to leave your home and get out a little.

   Yes, get a career coach if you want. We can't make that decision for you - you'll have to weigh the pros and cons.

   In your case, build your career networking. Talking to professionals (whom you do not work with) regularly will change your mindset. Also build your social network - join a club, pick up a hobby. Just don't sit around and gossip, try to be productive. You'll feel better about yourself and be less stressed when you are working.

   But ultimately, you should consider whether or not you are on the spectrum. The getting fired repeatedly can be an indicator. Find out what's causing the behaviors employers don't like - until you know what that is, you won't be able to change it.

7. AnonymousSeptember 5,2025 at 1:40PM UTC

   I've also been fired numerous times. I can always find a new job, but keeping it is another matter. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety years ago, but did not start medicating until recently. I can feel a difference. Will it help with keeping a job? I don't know. I also have an appointment for ADHD screening. I'm hoping that helps also. Have you been screened for depression or other mental health concerns? You are not a failure, but something is keeping you from reaching your full potential. Examining and addressing that may be just the catalyst you need to get where you want to be career-wise. Best of luck to you <3

8. AnonymousSeptember 6,2025 at 2:52PM UTC

   Hi, Kudos to you for recognizing patterns. You need assistance to get over what over is causing you not to be employable. It is hard work. Please do the work now before you become a statistic. You are smart and are cognizant. Channel this into working on yourself. Do the self-help. Volunteer also and you will reap benefits in helping those who need more help then you. GO LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!

9. AnonymousSeptember 7,2025 at 12:35AM UTC

   That is how it is for most women who are not married. Shut down the people who say you are not employable. Women do not have value in America, and they never have. So forget that and try to do what you like. If there is nothing you like, go to what you might like, etc.

   single women are valued just below hunting dogs, so just go with it.