I’m 3 months pregnant and have never be so over whelmed in my life…I wfh with customers yelling in my ear all day…I have two other kids at home and a boyfriend and still feel like I have no one to talk to.

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June 26,2022 at 9:35PM UTC

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I’m 3 months pregnant and have never be so over whelmed in my life…I wfh with customers yelling in my ear all day…I have two other kids at home and a boyfriend and still feel like I have no one to talk to. I can barley eat due to morning sickness and don’t feel good half the time. I feel like I’m at a dead end job I got a .50 cent raise and didn’t bat a eye not happy at all. Only me and my boyfriend know I’m pregnant I haven’t told my mom we have our own issues and I haven’t talked to my dad since 2017 because he couldn’t be consistent with our father daughter relationship so I gave up. My mom makes everything about her and it causes me stress even as a child and I just can’t deal with her long but I do plan to let her know there is a baby on the way. Times have been hard since the pandemic no more date nights all we do is pay bills. I want to move but I just don’t see it happening for a while I just feel stuck! I’m up all night trying to see how to change all of this. My job basically said when you go on maternity leave your on your own for 12 weeks unpaid, so I’m saving every dime. I know things will get better I just don’t know when. What did you do when you felt overwhelmed with everything?

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AnonymousJune 26,2022 at 10:52PM UTC
Hugs!!!
Breathe and take one second/minute at a time. Try your best to schedule "me" time. This weekend I binged on Dr Phil on YouTube. Just mindless crap (Sorry Dr Phil!!) to focus on others for awhile.
Other advice: perhaps learn a new skill. I was furloughed during 2020-21 and earned several certifications (Excel and related) so that after baby arrives and you return to work, you can hit the reset button. You may be stuck now, but working towards a goal and being busy will make time go faster and you know you are taking a step towards something better!!!
Hang in there, it will be better.
AnonymousJune 27,2022 at 12:19PM UTC
I definitely need some me time! I think I will take up a new skill don’t know if I can return to work with customers yelling all day lol not good for my mental.
Thank you both! One day at a time!
AnonymousJune 27,2022 at 12:24AM UTC
I agree that taking small steps and also Journaling helpes me. I break everything down into actionable steps. A little something everyday on my plan.
I would also look into short term disability if you can't get family leave.
Try breathing exercises to curb your anxiety and help you calm yourself.
AnonymousJune 27,2022 at 12:16PM UTC
That sounds like a good idea! Writing things down. I need to do that more.
and the breathing exercises I need to definitely learn!
SJune 27,2022 at 1:36PM UTC
If it is an option in your insurance, I recommend virtually therapy. I have mentioned this on here before, but I can't say enough how it has helped me.
AnonymousJune 27,2022 at 11:08PM UTC
I think I should look into it the last time I was desperate for someone to talk to I went to a virtual therapy app and it said that will be $260 please and I literally threw my phone across the room. I will see what my insurance can help with I didn’t think about that thank you.
AnonymousJune 28,2022 at 2:10AM UTC
You got this. You're in a season of hurt, and it doesn't last long if you focus on your girls. Take care of yourself first, you're no good to anyone not taking care of yourself.
What do I do when I feel overwhelmed...I cry, hard. Then I have conversations with God, out loud; when I wake up, in the bathroom, in the kitchen, in the car. Speak what you need to existence. Even if you don't believe in God, speak to the universe, you're covered. These are the times you'll look back on and be able to share your story of struggles with someone who needs to hear them, along with how you overcame them.