I know it sounds strange to say but I am exhausted from job searching.

I know it sounds strange to say but I am exhausted from job searching. Before leaving my former company, I could see the writing on the wall and had started looking before layoffs commenced.

I have tried everything I can think of and it's not working! I put in my location on Indeed and Glassdoor for the last month and the searches return without openings. I'm trying for remote roles to expand my search but those are more tech based and while I'm open to change sectors, my background doesn't align with those skills.

In order to advance my skills I've taken certification courses in content and SEO. I'm networking and making connections in the companies. I've had information interviews, changed my resume countless times and when I'm granted an interview, I give my all to the process.

I put my life on hold to have interviews with companies to full commit. I spend time learning about the company, mission, positioning, social etc. I've even flown in if needed and then I'm ghosted.

I feel that I'm doing my best but I can't land an offer. Now when I thought I was the cusp of finally putting my life in order, after five rounds of interviews, there has been radio silence even after following up with my HR contact and hiring manager.

I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong as they won't share any reasons or provide what you can work on to advance your next opportunity. I'm scared that after a year of searching, I'm not going to find something. Close but no cigar! Sorry for the vent but I'm emotionally exhausted!

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  1. Anonymous

    you and many others unfortunately, I’ve been able to take time out from it it’s a killer no one gets back to you they leave you hanging and I was a recruiter for 40 years

  2. Anonymous

    Thank you, Anonymous. That's the hardest part, not hearing back. The angst in continuing to hope and pray and weeks later realize that I've been ghosted.

  3. Anonymous

    Please know that you are not alone. Finding a job is a job within itself. It takes a lot of effort, patience, self-control and being flexible in your strategies. If you are tailoring your resume to each job description, practicing your interview skills and sending thank you notes after each interview, then you've done all that you can. It is very frightening not knowing where your next paycheck is coming from. You have to keep trying and can't give up. You can contact some reputable recruiters and apply for some contract positions, just to get your foot in the door, of the company you really want to work for. Then you can see, if it is a good fit. They may make you an offer after 90 days, to come on permanently. What I've come to realize is that, just like I am applying for jobs, there are about 200 other people, competing for the same job. The recruiters have to narrow it down and select who they think, match most of the qualifications. The hiring manager usually has the final decision of the offer. Stay encouraged, keep praying and doing the work. Something good will come along.

  4. Anonymous

    Thank you so much for the best wishes. You're right, I am getting frustrated especially as my savings are dwindling. I feel like I'm trying everything I can and getting further ahead in the process but haven't been able to close the deal. I'm trying for contract, permanent and temp to perm positions. That's eye opening about the 200 plus people applying for the same position. I really appreciate you and the rest of the group for helping to raise my spirits and to keep fighting!

  5. Anonymous

    I'm really sorry to hear that. Job hunting is hard and I might find myself in the same situation as you since I'm about to start the process.

    Having said that, which roles are you applying for? Have you also considered freelancing, if that is an option for you? When I was applying for language teaching jobs I ended up so exhausted by the school fees and conditions that I ended up teaching independently. Would that be possible for you?

  6. Anonymous

    I have looked into contract as well as freelance work. Unfortunately a lot of the contract work is hard to procure as a lot of people want to work remotely or from home. Other times, the interview process seems just as time consuming as a permanent role. I'm open to contract roles but I haven't been able to get past recruiter conversations.

  7. Maegan, Nike Sales Rep & Career Coach

    It sounds like you are doing everything right (and then some!) Here's a question for you, do you think you are coming off as desperate or coming off as a top notch professional that is the ideal candidate?

    Keep going, it's going to land and you are going to be so glad you didn't end up somewhere else !

  8. Anonymous

    Valid point as I started out feeling confident in my experience and what I could offer the company. As the months have slipped by, I may need to reexamine, how I'm coming across and it might seem more desperate than top notch professional. Thank you for the best wishes and also the wake up call!

  9. Anonymous

    dont feel bad, we have lives and kids to feed , esnt to pay .. ect ect so yeah it's hard to stay zen

  10. Cara Houser

    I read recently on Linkedin that 85% of jobs are filled through networking. That means that the best use of our time when looking to expand our realm of possibilities is to connect with others in a curious and generous way. I'm continually amazed at how successful this approach has been for my coaching clients (and me personally)!

    See if you can practice your skills at this, just 10 minutes a week - share an interesting article with someone, ask them about a part of their journey that intrigues you, ask for their perspective on an issue of shared interest.

    All the best to you :)

    Article: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/new-survey-reveals-85-all-jobs-filled-via-networking-lou-adler/

  11. Anonymous

    Thank you, Cara. I appreciate your advice and tips!

  12. Trie Angeleva

    So sorry to hear; it sounds like you are getting stuck at the interview stage? If so, I'd focus my efforts there. Career coaches like me offer laser sessions where that's the complete focus of the coaching session. Everything from body language, to how you answer the toughest questions, to how you follow up, etc. is worked on.

    If your challenge is getting interviews for the positions you really want, you'd want to focus on your personal branding, resume and how prepared you are for the positions you're applying for.

    And yes, networking is so very important; you want to be sure you're clear on what you're after so others can help you make the right connections.

    I wish you the best!

  13. Sabrina Cortes

    I'm so sorry you're going through this and I understand your frustration.

    Have you considered taking some time to give yourself an emotional and physical respite from job searching? Even if you take a few days off, you'll feel refreshed and ready to get started.

    I'm a professional Resume Writer and want to encourage you to keep networking with potential employers. You never know when a door will open. Here's an article with some great tips (https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/networking-tips.html). I looked here on FGB for articles on Networking, but they didn't come up for some reason. There are a couple of groups though in case you're interested.

    You already said that you're changing your resume. Does this mean that you're tailoring it? You definitely want to do this for each job you apply to. This significantly increases your chances of passing the applicant tracking system's (ATS) scanning process and gets your resume into the hands of a Recruiter/Hiring Manager. The ATS looks for and compares the keywords, skills, and phrases in your resume against those terms in the job descriptions. There are 400+ ATS that employers use, which is why tailoring your resume is key because we don't usually know what ATS they use.

    I'd love to offer you a free resume review (no strings attached and I'm not spammy because I hate receiving spammy stuff and I don't do it to others). If you're interested, feel free to email me at sabrina@writewithsabrina.com.

    Sending you positive vibes!

  14. Vanda Lee

    Get some coaching! There are lots of great ones out there but I met Lesa Edwards on here and she helped me get out of my search rut!

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/lesacareercoach?lipi=urn%3Ali%3Apage%3Ad_flagship3_profile_view_base_contact_details%3BLMYxzHSjSMGpuhNJV4Ip%2BQ%3D%3D

    http://www.exclusivecareercoaching.com/

    I highly recommend her.

  15. Anonymous

    Been where you are and I took a 2 weeks off from my search

    I regrouped two weeks later and started refreshed and in a month had a job. It is good advice as you can be disappointed with the rejection and it becomes emotional because it is personal looking for a job. Good luck.

  16. Laura Brennan

    I agree with all the comments on making sure your head is in the right (confident) space -- which is hard to do when you feel money pressures. So my first suggestion is, what can you do to start bringing in some income? There are two possibilities: the first is to take on some temporary holiday work for the next month. Yes, this is waaay beneath your skill set, but you're likely to be able to pick something up quickly, everyone knows it's a short-term gig, and you ease your immediate money strain while at the same time breaking out of your job-hunting routine. Yes, you should still be looking for jobs, but this shakes it up a bit -- and tides you over the holidays, when interviewing/hiring may be slow.

    The second way to bring in some money is a longer-term strategy and more aligned with your skills and (depending on how close you are to your financial runway ending) can be done in conjunction with picking up a holiday side gig. It is to start freelancing or consulting in your area of expertise. Someone else had asked if you thought of freelancing and you said you were open to contract work; that's not quite what I mean. Instead, how can you put out a virtual shingle? What is the one thing you do extremely well that other people need and would pay for?

    For instance, if you were a CFO, say, then I assume you would be good with money/accounting. Could you offer to do the books for companies? Or their taxes? Or some other small but annoying task that they would be willing to pay someone to do, either as a one-off or on a recurring basis? Again, this is not your full skill set, but something you do particularly well. Revising marketing copy, maintaining websites, training staff in cold-calling... The more specific you can be, and the more it dovetails with your particular expertise/zone of genius, the better. Because your friends and colleagues will be *thrilled* to recommend you -- they know you'll knock it out of the park, which makes them look good for recommending you.

    As for the job search itself, leaning on your network is the way to go. We think networking is about meeting new people, and yes, sure, do that, but the real gold is in the people who already know how great we are. They want to help you. And even if they are not in your particular industry, their neighbor/cousin/bff might be. It's important not to pre-select who you think can help you find a job and who can't. Instead, reach out to everyone.

    I have a couple of videos available for free on my website on holiday networking; no opt-in required. Hope they help, and best of luck! https://www.pitchingperfectly.com/free-webinar

  17. Jennifer Friebely

    I agree with everything Laura is saying and want to elaborate on networking from personal experience. Joining networking groups, particularly women's groups, can help in more ways than you can imagine. And just taking that action and getting yourself engaged -- might be the extra push you need to land your ideal job. Best of luck.

  18. Jennifer Wehrend

    Very mentally exhausting

  19. Anonymous

    I suggest substitute teaching in the meantime. It’s a day to day job and you work when you want. Subs are always in short supply.

  20. Anonymous

    I hear u. Same here. Sending virtual hugs.

  21. Anonymous

    It is always a tough time to job hunt in the last quarter of the year. Take a break and start again in the New Year. Things will begin to open up again then. Good luck.

  22. GirlBossanova934974

    As an SEO specialist myself, I would recommend you spread out your skillset to Paid Search as well. You can get Adwords certified fairly quickly. SEO and content generation are longer term objectives for most companies. You also have to have some sort of website or company that you can point at where you made a big difference in organic traffic and/or organic revenue. There are many more jobs for Paid Search out there vs. Organic Search. You might also want to emphasize what part of SEO you excel on as part of your resume. TOOL SET names are very good to mention as far as your proficiency. On Page SEO, Local Search/GMB, Technical SEO aka Schema Markup, Off Page aka Backlinks, Semantic SEO are topics you can mention on your resume. Content generators like FRASE.io or clustering tools like Keyword Cupid are good to know. Keyword analyzers like SEMRush or AhRefs are almost mandatory. Best of luck!

  23. Anonymous

    Corporate America since covid have been trying to purposely fuck with society so they can continue to colonize. Everyone knows corporate America IS NOT struggling right now. They are just being insecure and selfish and losing horribly. There so many well known companies closing their doors, not because they dont have anyone working, they are abusing and using workers on purpose to the point they are rehiring on indeed ( btw for those of you that dont know, employees know that If you are constantly hiring for a role, its not ever because of the employee, its the managers and executive team do something toxic/ oppressive to keep people from enjoying their jobs. Which I.e is why they are always " hiring"). Companies are finding more inappropriate ways to deny employment, some arent even bothering to train new hires anymore lol. Those assessments, asking inappropriate questions about the COVID Gap (90% of the planet was facing) and then are using that against them in making candidate decisions. Companies are laying people off in boat loads after 6 months earlier saying no one was working, the math isn't adding up. If its December and your company is still having "department issues" you are the one of the companies I am talking about. Companies are threatening employees and firing people in the boat loads to continue to run off their PPP loans lmao. The list is endless for these old mentally ill colonizers. Get Creative with your work and use probability to get the next roles. Don't ever complete the EEOC form with your actual race, let them be forced to see that beautiful soul. Find more avenues for income and get creative. I feel you 100% about your job hunting experience as I have been also dealing with similar issues as well.

  24. Anonymous

    Every human on planet earth outside the C-suite should be on strike.

  25. Anonymous

    I am in the same boat. I am so very exhausted. I have been looking since April. I have networked with lots of people and everyone tells me “I have a friend or family member that can help”. They tell me where to apply and put them down as references. Still no luck. I have worked the last 18 years in Payroll with the last 9 years being remote. I have invested lots of time and money on preparing and equipping my office with everything needed. Now I am

    coming up on what I believe is my last few weeks with the company I have worked for them last 9 years. Work is so slow and I can tell because I also receive all the invoices to match with the payroll. It makes you feel like a failure when these people that you interview with says “you should know by the end of the week”. Then weeks go by and you hear both back. So frustrating!

  26. Joan Marie Verba

    I can relate. I've sent in over 720 applications since I was laid off in 2018. Yes, I've had resume reviews. Yes, I've had career coaching. Yes, I network. Yes, I've had my LinkedIn Profile reviewed. I, too, am emotionally exhausted, but I go on searching since, I, too, need the income.

  27. Anonymous

    Yes, and it is all down to us not "researching the company!" Gimme a break. Gee I never thought to look up some rudimentary facts that the company's PR department put out telling us what a wonderfully diverse place it is. YEP! That's all the kind stuff I need so I can know how to position myself as the person who will "solve all their problems."

    And also, if I knew someone at those companies who could tell me that. Maybe I would have a job by now. I don't. And that is the big problem.

    So they can cut all the condescending bs about how we are doing it all wrong. Unless I join the CIA or Al Qaeda, it is totally effing usless.

  28. Joann S. Lublin

    If you haven't already done so, I suggest contacting an external recruiter involved for one of the companies where you've applied. Often they'll give you private insights as to why your candidacy failed or is stalled. Best of luck!

  29. Rich

    TWO THINGS – In our experience, (helping more than 17,000 people land since 1998), this process will take longer than you want it to.

    So, First, you need to practice SELFCARE. It is every bit as important as interviewing. In fact, our experience is that you won’t interview well otherwise. Selfcare will help you moderate all the negative that hits you during job search. Selfcare is planning and doing things that make you feel better about who you are. I can’t tell you what will work for you; we’re all different. But, it might include family time, exercise, hobbies, gardening, time with friends, etc… It does not include drugs, alcohol, binge watching, or shopping, because those are things that you will regret, long-term. You want to things that make you feel valuable. Keep a few business cards handy. We’ve seen a lot of people land when they happened to talk with someone they met by chance, and gave them a business card.

    Secondly - Target Companies, Not Jobs! I specialize in helping mid-to-late career professionals such as you. The way that the roles you’re looking for get filled is nearly always internally. Only if they can’t, do they ever get posted, and then they get buried under a “Tsunami of Spam Applicants,” few of whom are qualified.

    A common problem that we see is that mid-to-late career professionals have done many different things and done them well. They often find it hard to focus. They think that a general approach will be more likely to be found. WRONG. You’re trying to paint a picture with a paint sprayer, not a paint brush. In a world where the ATS is used to filter out the flood of Spam, these people get filtered out as well. So target your search on a specific job or two.

    Build a large target company list by starting at the Department of Labor’s CareeronestopDOTorg website. Click on Job Search, and then on the lower right side you will see Business Finder. Click on it. Type in the job title you want and the zip code. It will tell you every company that reported to the Federal Government in the last fiscal year (2021) that they employed someone with that job title. It’s driven by reports from Data Axle. It doesn’t mean that the company has an opening, but it means that that they did employ someone with that job title. It will blow your mind how many companies there are. In a recent class, I typed in “Mathematician.” We’re in Houston so I put in that zip code. I expected to find a couple of dozen schools. I was wrong. There were > 6600 positions. NASA, every Engineering and Architectural Firm, Insurance Actuaries, International Finance Organizations, and, oh yes, some colleges and universities. Nearly all the company listings will have a website link, the name of the officer who hires or signed the report, locations, etc…

    You can download the list to a spreadsheet.

    Next, go to your public library and get a library card and speak with the Reference Librarian. You will make their day as they show you how to use their professional tools to research those companies and decide which ones to check out further. A very powerful tool is Data Axle’s “Reference Solutions.” It pulls from multiple sources, including state and federal governments. It will tell you the names of the officers, company history, finances, spending, locations, recent announcements, current job postings, and who their competitors are. That will help you narrow the list, and add more because their competitors should get added to the list. BTW - We teach that "Your public library makes google look like a 2nd grade reader." That's because the library often has access to commercial research resources while google is limited to publicly published information.

    Now, work with your master list of networking contacts. Who do you know that works there? Your most important contacts will be former coworkers, and that list should include ALL of them, not just your friends. Note that studies have repeatedly shown that the ones likely to refer you to a hiring manager aren’t those who worked most closely with you, but only professionally. That’s because those who worked most closely to you remember some negative things as well. (You used to cook fish in the breakroom microwave on Fridays. You tended to get loud on phone calls while working in a cubical farm….)

    It doesn’t matter if you haven’t spoken to them in 20 years. In fact, it might be an advantage. They remember you from those days. So reach out, and ask how they are doing, what’s happening, and ask if you can help them. Don’t mention your job search, yet. Let them respond, and if you can help them, do so. Along the way, some will offer to help you back. In my experience, about one in three. Give them a short, specific way that they can the specific job you want. If it takes more than 30 seconds to say – it’s too long.

    Too often we see people like yourself who are suddenly out of work. They always do the same thing. Update their old resume and start applying online. Studies show that has a less than 3% probability of landing an interview, and it gets worse, the more you apply. The one exception to that is if you have a license, degree, certification, or special skill that is locally in demand. That method can work for folks like that, but I rarely see them.

  30. Anonymous

    Are you comfortable sharing the name of your firm? You mentioned you work with candidates.

  31. Rich

    I work with Between Jobs Ministry, which is located in Houston. It began in 1998, and has helped more than 17,000 people land new jobs. Being in Houston, every time the oil & gas business has a cold, we get pneumonia. We're also in the technology world, and HP's slashing jobs. On the positive, we have the world's largest medical center. So we have a lot of practice helping people land. You can find some details at betweenjobsministry,org. There are about 70 of us helping others. I've been doing it for more than 10 years, and am working on a book for Mid-to-Late Career Professionals. There is almost nothing out there for them, and what it takes for them to land a job is quite different than most.

  32. Anonymous

    I'm sorry you're going through this. All of the comments before mine are helpful and valid, so I'd like to suggest something different. Would you consider doing volunteer work in the field/industry your looking for a job in? I understand that income is very important, so I'm not discouraging you from continuing your search. I offer this piece of advice because it does open up networking opportunities that would otherwise be ignored. From my own experience, I ended up in my current position after volunteering for several years while working in another field. I know for a fact that my resume for the position I'm in now would have been passed over if I didn't have that volunteer experience despite not having the relevant work experience. I hope you consider this and that it helps you.

  33. Cautious

    I totally agree with this advice. I have been laid off four times consecutively and each time I volunteered somewhere related to my field. It gave me something positive to do and focus on, add to my resume and more importantly something current to talk about my interviews and cover letters. I highly recommend it.

  34. Phillip Hatfield

    Have you considered enlisting? Assuming that you qualify the military is quite desperate and offers some amazing opportunities.

  35. Anonymous

    Thank you all for your advice and you've provided a lot of tips that I'll add to my job search. In addition, I haven't taken a break since this all happened and that might be another option to consider. I'll continue to search until the week before the holidays and then take a break between Christmas the new year. That way, I'll be able to spend time with friends and family and hopefully restart my search feeling more hopeful for 2023. Thank you all!

  36. Anonymous

    Your welcome and I hope you have a very restful time off from the search. You deserve it!

  37. Kerry Roper

    I always have best luck w recruiting firms, they have the openings, contract roles lead to new contacts, plus lots of new skills, plus it serves as a working interview allowing you a peek inside a business to see if the fit is right. The pay is usually higher, but that is to make up for the lapse in benefits until you have a permanent role. Have you considered non profits? Depending on your skill set, small non profits don't always pay well, but if you can swing it, the experience is worth it, as it usually exposes you to many new contacts, many new opps to learn and its a wonderful feeling to be involved in an actionable solution, and not feeling like another number in a larger business. I totally agree with the self care comments, if you are feeling down, or pressure to find something NOW, it will most def come across in interviews. Take a good long walk outside (if you can) before an interview, get the oxygen flowing, repeat your mantras, think about who you are and what you've accomplished in your life and career. REFLECT. Think about what you are grateful for. Now focus on a couple of key points- like when you meet any stranger, things you want them to know and understand about you as a person. THESE are the things that people remember and connect with. When a recruiter has a pile of resumes and they all have the same qualifications and experience levels- its the PERSON that you are that you want them to remember. You want them to recall you as someone who made THEM feel good. I am in corp accounting and bookkeeping, and I am NOT a good sales person, I did have to learn how to sell myself though. Something positive will come from this change, and that is because change is hard, it makes US change, and change is life.

  38. Kerry Roper

    I have a question. When someone says we should network by commenting on someone's "journey", etc, what I don't understand is where do people find the time to write their life's journey on a linkedin page? Social media is only about data hunting, and we (our authentic experiences) are their prey, they make us think we should "contribute" on every job, every experience, every single solitary interface with every person you've ever worked with and for.. I don't have the time to do that, and would be worried about the sanity of a person who does. Next thing is we will have is social scores, a la Black Mirror. No thanks.

  39. Kerry Roper

    Last night my social score dropped ten points due to lack of engagement and input.

  40. Crystal Howell

    It is a full time job! Holidays, everyone not really doing a lot. Sit still the door will open

    They www.selectleaders.com

  41. Johanna Lyman

    I feel your pain!!! I have been looking for sixteen months. It's a full-time job that I'm going to need a vacation from as soon as I accept an offer!! Hang in there!

  42. Anonymous

    I hear you! At least when you're working, you have vacation and PTO days. With the amount of time we're putting in without achieving the right results, I almost feel it would have been better served doing something I enjoyed during the time or traveling. I know I need a job but after months of trying, I don' t have anything to show for it. It's frustrating and I'm wishing you all the best. I decided that during the holidays, I'm going to take some time away from the computer. That way, I can recharge my batteries and I know that a lot of companies are under hiring freezes until the new year. Take care and be good to yourself!

  43. Terry Costello

    Looking for a job, is a job in itself, but without any benefits. I too have logged long hours researching company's websites, updating my resume to reflect my contributions to the company that I'm interested in joining. All without no further follow-up's..

  44. Anonymous

    Terry, I'm sorry that you're facing the same problems. I reach out to make connections without any response. I showcase what I can bring to the table and continue to fine tune my resume and then other companies prefer my old one. Trying to navigate what is the right approach is difficult especially when you see that more than 200 applicants have applied. I'm trying to find ways to stand out from the crowd.

  45. Anonymous

    That's okay. I have been trying for 20 years and I am not even aiming all that high. It's truly hopeless even for a dumb part-time $20 an hour job. They want a certain "Miss America" type and I am not it. So only a plastic surgeon can help.

  46. Anonymous

    That doesn't sound strange at all. It can be very stressful. There's a lot of great advice here so I will just say this-Your new company is waiting for you. They are looking for you. You just haven't found each other yet. I promise, it WILL happen!

  47. Anonymous

    Thank you and I appreciate the support!

  48. Brittany Butkiewicz Gonzalez

    If it makes you feel better I lost my job in early September and just got an offer last week. I have a design and e-commerce background. Don’t limit yourself going into tech jobs SEO skills are transferable. Have you tried working with a hiring agency? I have had great luck with Wunderland and Digital People in the past and short term freelance work with Creative Circle.

    I personally have no luck with Glassdoor have you tried LinkedIn? That is how I found my new job. Also don’t be afraid to cross industries SEO is a skill that can cross industries. Do you do freelance work or consulting? I worked for a small company and I could have definitely used an SEO person but on a project basis. Also what about content/copy writing?

  49. Anonymous

    Thank you, Brittany. Congratulations regarding your new job! I consulted and freelanced early in my career and have a background managing Brand MarCom, digital content, journalism, PR, and social. From all my years in the industry and in different sectors, I've considered starting again but was focused on securing a full-time position. I appreciate the suggestion.

  50. Brittany Butkiewicz Gonzalez

    That was in addition to a full time job or to get you through until a full time position is found.

  51. Rebecca A Britt

    I totally feel you! Hugs! I feel like it gets worse I think as the holidays hit. It also doesn't help our self esteem to hear "No one wants to work" when we're pounding the pavement.

    My friend had decades of experience but after over a year of job hunting (through covid and employers had the nerve to ask "why the gap?" She finally took a role way beneath her experience just to pay bills and be employed.

    A couple of suggestions that she did (but cannot guarantee success since of where she is right now):

    Scrub you resume of anything that might date you. She's over 60 so she knows that's a big negative. I also think the opposite can happen if you appear too young--don't look like you're fresh out of school. Again, unfair, but try to appear that you're between 30-45ish.

    Make sure your profile picture on LinkedIn doesn't give away your age. She dyed her hair and the focus made her way less than 60 (she does NOT look 60 in anyway even on her worst day, and even if she did, WHO CARES)

    Consider taking on contract work--either in your field or not--if you're missing a skill, consider temping in a more entry level role to grow that skill.

    Consider having a third party review your resume. Even agencies looking for people sometimes won't tell you what's wrong with a resume. See what to do about the gap--fill it with education or volunteer work, or even just a sabbatical. My friend spend a year caring for her terminal brother and is considering filling part of her gap with that. There is no way she could have cared for him if she'd been working full-time and lists how her PM skills aligned with caring for him (e.g., coordinated care with medical teams).

    Try to be active on LinkedIn in your industry. Comment on businesses you like, make posts and call out businesses that relate to your career. "Look what XXXX is doing with XXXX. Here's why this makes them a standout in our field." Give congrats to leaders in your field. Try to post weekly about something important in your field that is making the news. Post a book review that others in your field would find helpful (and tag the author too)! (this is suggestion is on my 2023 business list).

    When in doubt, see if you hang up your own shingle. I know it's a big leap and certainly not for everyone. I don't know your comfort-level--personally or professionally, but that's what I ended up doing.

    I'd freelanced for almost 15 years before going the corporate route. I got laid off after almost 8 years. Found another job that then was bought, got bounced to a couple of unsatisfying departments and then snagged another job. After 10 months got laid off (while on VACATION). Decided I had more job security working for myself.

    While my industry is in high demand, it's not a hard role to transition to (Instructional Designer). I've bested my monthly income every month since I was let go. In today's world, I'm a huge advocate for doing it on your own.

    If you have other questions about either my industry or hanging your own shingle, just reach out. I don't have all the answers, but I've probably had the same questions.

  52. Anonymous

    Thank you, Rebecca. That's the hardest part not being valued or feeling wanted. I feel that I can bring so much to the table but I'm not given the chance. Sadly, I get my hopes up when I get to final rounds only to have them dashed. I start envisioning myself at the company and know that's a mistake.

    I've tried for contract roles but I'm being judged on my last role that was more a pandemic position. Even Indeed or LinkedIn sends me job suggestions based on that last position and it was in finance. My background is entertainment, MarCom and publishing and that experience is before the pandemic. Even though I have 20 plus years of experience, I can't get entertainment, PR or publishing companies to consider me due to my interim role. I'm actually told throughout rounds, we don't value your time in finance and I have go to examples of how I created partnerships, ran events and produced results. When I am brought in final rounds, that banking background again is a detriment. I'm actual told afterwards that they went with someone with current industry experience and not financial. I'm not sure how to get over this obstacle?

    I've thought about starting my own consulting company due to my background, I'm not sure how to get started and since I haven't bee working, money is a factor. I'd appreciate any of your advice.

  53. Desiree Caruso

    First off, I'm so sorry you're going through this. While I can't offer any advice because I'm in a similar boat, I've come here to empathize with you and let you know you're not alone. While reading your story, it was as if I had written it, right down to the 5 interviews with a company part. I'm going on searching for 18 months now, and the ghosting, rejections, and multipe interviews are tough. I've even applied to positions below where I'm at that I know I'm 100% qualified for. So I came here to say that I totally understand your exhaustion and frustration and I truly wish you the best of luck in your search!!! We WILL get something!!! Keep at it.

  54. Anonymous

    Thank you, Desiree. I'm sorry that you're going through this situation as well and you're right, we will get something! Something I was told recently is that not all companies want you to have 100% of the skills. They feel if you already have t them, there's no room for growth and you'll be looking soon.

    While that's not the case, it's something to consider. If you have 80% of the skills, try those as well. I recently tried for a higher position and received a better response than the lower level ones I applied in order to get my foot in the door. Wishing you all the best and keep fighting! Let us know when find a position and we'll celebrate your accomplishment! I hope you find a job that appreciates you!

  55. Desiree Caruso

    Thank you for your kind words!! I wish the same for you! Here's to celebrating our sucess together!???

  56. Laura Brennan

    No, no: try for anything where you have 60% of the skills. Seriously. There have been studies showing that women wait until they match 100% of the requirements before they apply, but men start applying at 60%. And, shock, because men put their hats in the ring more often (and there are other reasons, of course, but this is one of them), men move up more quickly.

    I had an interview once where one of the questions was, essentially, did I understand the industry-specific jargon? No, no I did not. But they realized as they were asking me that this was actually something easily learned on the job. Basically, they tossed that requirement while talking to me about the things I could rock, and I got the job.

    This was not strategic on my part, by the way -- I was young and fearless, I didn't know enough *not* to apply. And as we get older, I think we could all benefit from reconnecting with that younger-us sass. Like, take the 20% rule and make it, "20% of the jobs I apply for are a stretch for me."

    Holding great thoughts for both of you. Knock 'em dead!

  57. Anonymous

    I think the men get the job with 60%. When I have 99 out of 100 skills, I get grilled about the one thing I am missing. But I think that is because I was in my fifties (now sixty). And they don't even believe you when you say you have the 99 they want. They assume that you must be lying. Otherwise, why wouldn't they just give you a chance to prove it?

  58. Anonymous

    I don't think it's strange to be exhausted from job searching. It can be a real full time job, especially when you're looking for the right fit, and not just the first offer. While I'm still employed, I'm in a similar boat. It's likely that the future of this startup is limited, but so few opportunities interest me/are a fit. I've interviewed with at least 3 jobs in multiple rounds, and only one got back to me with a no and feedback. I hope things turn around for you soon!

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