Help me make sense of this...

Anonymous

December 2,2022 at 6:44PM UTC

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Help me make sense of this...

I've been unhappy in my job and sat with my boss last week. I told him that I have begun a search for another job and I let him know my issues / concerns. He shook his head and said "you're too valuable to lose". Then he got up and walked out of the room. He's been avoiding me ever since.

A bonus and raise could keep me here, he knows this. Instead, he's ignoring me. WTF???

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AnonymousDecember 2,2022 at 8:30PM UTC
They butter you up to get you to stay. I have said in the past when they rave about me, like ok when will that reflect in my pay. And I left and went to a better job.
tiffany birchDecember 2,2022 at 10:34PM UTC
Sounds like he is sticking his head in the sand hoping you will change your mind. Looks like a red flag is waving, and time to connect with a company who respects and values you.
AnonymousDecember 3,2022 at 2:22PM UTC
He is either trying to secure a raise/bump up for you with the higher ups and has nothing concrete to give you. Or he's putting feelers out for your replacement at the same or even lower rate that you're paid. Either way now... caveat emptor. In any event step up your search, meet professional contacts this holiday season, check out consulting and bridge opportunities. And be ready to circle back at the right time. To be a tad cynical... you let the cat out of thebag.
M BaazaDecember 3,2022 at 4:44PM UTC
Your boss is getting a replacement for you
AnonymousDecember 4,2022 at 1:06PM UTC
Ask yourself why a bonus and raise would keep you there if you're that unhappy in your job. I have tried to tell myself for years that a raise or generous bonus would make me be able to put the negative aspects of the job "in perspective". If you have that attitude your boss/supervisor/upper management will get the idea that the way to get you to shut up and go away is to throw money at you. I also hope you are not giving ultimatums that if you don't get a certain amount of raise or bonus you're out of there. That's an amateur/rookie move. And definitely don't quiet quit or act your wage, because that's just daring your employer to fire you in the long run.