I've decided enough is enough.

Anonymous

March 29,2022 at 3:17AM UTC

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I've decided enough is enough. I have an opportunity to make a lateral or slightly lower move to a sister facility and leave my toxic supervisor. I need to give him notice and I'm certain he'll want to know why I'm leaving. He will know it's not a promotion. What have others done in this situation without burning bridges?

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Ramona d'ViolaMarch 29,2022 at 8:51AM UTC
You don't need to say anything. He's a narcissistic bully and will flip the script to ensure you know your efforts are lacking in his opinion. DON'T GIVE HIM THE TIME OF DAY, other than to say, "Good day."
Don't engage. Knuckleheaded, bullying supervisors are a $.10 a dozen. Get away, don't look back, be healthy.
AnonymousMarch 29,2022 at 10:24AM UTC
Tell him, if he asks, that you're looking for a new challenge. Tell him you would like to shake things up a bit and this a a good opportunity for you. Don't get specific or he might start to argue that you're wrong.
AnonymousMarch 29,2022 at 11:48PM UTC
No need to tell your toxic boss much of anything other than a plain vanilla response.
Examples: better location for you/your family; good chance to learn about _____; better schedule. If he asks about the responsibility or the money, say you are happy with what’s been offered.
Jillian KnappApril 2,2022 at 7:28PM UTC
I agree with the other commenters. It’s always better, no matter how bad it is, to leave on a good terms if possible. I would thank your supervisor for everything and say you feel this will be a new challenge with potential growth and you are excited for what you can bring to the new place based on your experience in you current position. I know it’s hard, especially if you are at the enough is enough stage. But the fact you want to leave without burning bridges tells me you are a person who wants to take the high road, which in the long run will pay you back in spades. All the best!