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Trying to keep my confidence up.

I have an excellent remote job as an AP Manager for 2 "sister" companies, one local and the other in a neighboring state. I am in my 7th year working for the company. I originally started as a staff accountant, was promoted to senior AP accountant, and then to my current position. I have great co-workers (some practically family) and a great immediate supervisor. But, they are investment company owned, and we were bought by them sometime after my first year and were merged with the "sister" company under a DBA. So, anyone familiar with this situation knows that, after about five years, they start to look to sell. That means they want NUMBERS... and as few "superfluous" expenses (*cough* employees) as possible. Therefore, most of the administrative departments are struggling to tread water as we are not getting additional help to KEEP those NUMBERS.

Long story short, some of my good co-workers have left, and one (who was with the company, with her now deceased husband, for over 30 years) was "let go" as her position was "eliminated" (I would have taken her in my department). I'm over it and have started looking for something else. I have only been looking for about 6-7 weeks, so I am keeping that in mind, but over the past three weeks, I have probably submitted about 26 applications online for other remote accounting positions, and I've gotten a few rejections (which is expected). I have even paid a professional resume writer to look at my resume and tell me how to improve the appearance of it and have followed all suggestions.

But this whole situation has gotten me depressed, and I'm basically obsessing over finding a new job now to get out of this otherwise toxic environment...I guess I just need a little encouragement because it's becoming very all consuming in my brain.

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  1. Anonymous

    This is one of the reasons I despise the for-profit space in the US. Our capitalist system makes every company only as good as the amount of revenue it generates and therefore every employee is only as good as they contribute (either directly or indirectly) to the company's revenue stream(s). Everybody else is expendable. People in the investment/financial industries and direct sales roles are only as good as their last sale. I wish I had encouraging words, but I wish the best for you as you navigate the hostile waters. I was laid off after 22 years with a company in 2003 when they decided to eliminate a layer of middle management and decided to make a 180-degree career pivot from IT to the non-profit space by going to seminary first and then getting a master's degree in counseling. The income potential is not near the previous level here, but I am much happier and contented. It hasn't been rainbows and unicorns, as my credit and other things took hits, but I have learned to live within my means. Best of luck to you.

  2. Anonymous

    Practices gratitude and grace for your blessings of a fulltime job and benefits with great coworkers while you search. Enjoy your family and friends. Obsessing over a new job and constantly talking and worrying over it won't make it appear faster. It will just rob you of all your joy.

    Many of us don't have your luxury. We have been searching for countless months. The market is horrific and we are struggling not to lose our homes. So please replace obsessing with gratitude. It will happen when it happens.

  3. Anonymous

    I appreciate that, and you are not wrong. I am also diagnosed ADHD and I'm pretty sure that is where a lot of the obsessing comes from LOL!

  4. Sheila McEwan

    Stay positive always and try something new and maybe the school setting as a substitute or assistant in the classroom or airline remote cause I see that one of the airlines is hiring and maybe southwest.

  5. Anonymous

    Another reminder that you’re fortunate to be able to look while you’re employed. Better to have a paycheck in a sucky situation then to be unemployed and worry about paying bills as well.

    And as I always tell people network, network and network! if you belong to a church make sure people know. That’s how I got my job!

  6. Anonymous

    I'm sorry but the only helpful part of this message is the advice to network. Why tell someone who is having a hard that they are lucky? Be solutions oriented!

  7. Erica Lea Doss

    I do understand what you are saying, and I'm glad that I DO have work to pay my bills and take care of my family. But, I shouldn't have to do it at the cost of my own mental health... that is why I'm asking for helpful advice.

    I am networking, here, linked in, some former (and current) co-workers, indeed, job search....

    Though the last time I networked through my church (at the time) and got a job, the guy ended up being a jerk in real life and I quit after a year....

  8. Anonymous

    It is a brutal job market and the grass will not be greener.

  9. Erica Lea Doss

    Yes, I have been in that situation before, and lasted at my position for 6 months before I had to abruptly quit. The job I had before that was for 9 years and I've been at this one for over 7, so that is obviously not my standard reaction. I think I'm a little gun shy that this will happen again.

  10. Maggie Soldano

    If it feels hard, it's because it is hard. Make sure you're taking care of yourself. Uncertainty at work is challenging. Putting yourself out there to find new work is challenging. Make sure you schedule self-care time — meditation, journaling, therapy. You've got to keep your batteries charged. You're worth it!

  11. Erica Lea Doss

    Yes, I have had issues with this lately... I am diagnosed later life ADHD and I do take meds and see a Dr regularly, though my therapist recently went on sabatical, so I am looking for a new one online. My brain default to "overthinking", so that is part of my problem. I'm trying to work on it.

  12. Stephanie Branch Lekowski

    Are you only looking at remote positions? You may want to reconsider if you are or have been. Even hybrid is better in terms of widening your scope.

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