How do you get over being fired? I am not talking about laid off, but fired.

6 Comments

1. AnonymousJanuary 24,2025 at 5:32PM UTC

   It won't feel like it now or in the near future, but being fired can be a huge blessing. The best lessons that stick with us often come from experiences that about break us. The best move is to learn from what you did wrong, give yourself grace, and move on to the next phase in life. You probably will have questions left unanswered, but that is probably for the best.

   From my own experience, which by the way I never thought I would go through, it takes time to heal. But after 9-12 months, I realized I was the only one holding on to it. Everyone else, including coworkers that I used to work with, hadn't thought twice about it after it happened.

   Find a hobby or something that makes you happy and lean on any support within your circle.

2. AnonymousJanuary 24,2025 at 7:01PM UTC

   Let's think of it like this, getting let go, fired, terminated, a break up or whatever term you'd like to use, it's a loss. That loss can equate to grief. In many ways, we grieve the loss of a relationship we relied upon, had value to us, but the other side of the relationship wasn't happy and wanted to end it. The end of any relationship takes time to grieve, recover and move forward. This has happened to me twice in my life. For no other reasons than the expectation of one company was so ridiculous, I told them to fire me. I cried. I didn't want to leave, but I knew I needed to and I wasn't going to quit. My previous boss had to witness one sad girl and one of the best workers he had walk out the door. He saw many of us leave that year and others followed suit within months. He too was let go a month later. Years later he watched my professional progression and recommended me to a COO who recruited me and hired me. Another role, the owner was a loser. I knew it but needed the income. He should have been sued. That loss was greater to me than the first. Why? Because I loathed him from day one. But I moved on from it, switched careers and did see him from a distance and I think he levitated. I'm far far away from those years but I want you to remember this, what happened to you does not define you. It only defines what happened to you. You have skills, you are hireable, and the bad experience was a bad relationship that didn't end on your terms. You are on your terms now. Seek and you shall find. Keep looking and consider other environments be it corporate, government or state positions, or non-profits, then seek opportunities in these. There is a place for you. Now dry your tears dear friend and go find that place that is a better relationship!

3. AnonymousJanuary 24,2025 at 9:45PM UTC

   Soul searching and time. You must truly understand what went wrong.

4. AnonymousJanuary 25,2025 at 7:41PM UTC

   Ah! It’s nasty. But in the long run your shame will recede and you’ll see that it was for the best. You’ll even be able to talk about it with a sense of humor. I’ve been fired 2 times in my career. Both broke my heart and shocked me. The first was when I was 17 and a waitress. I loved the job and had done it for a whole month. The. I was fired, handed a wad of cash and told “don’t come back no more and hand in your uniforms “. I was stunned cried and wanted to know what I’d done wrong. I realize now that I drove the older more seasoned waitresses absolutely crazy with my complete incompetence. It was a good decision to kick me loose. But I was sad and ashamed for a long time. The next time the second time was about $ years ago. I worked for a company that was trying to prepare itself to be sold and bringing in a whole new technology to thrust in its ooor clients. I was part of the implementation and account management team. As the new platform was in the beta stage I found a bunch of serious bugs and issues that would negatively impact our clients. The head tech guy appreciated my discoveries but the president and head sales guys did not. So I got canned. Sigh. I was devastated and embarrassed and felt so defeated. But looking back it was the right decision. I was not able to properly support what they were doing and that was what they hired me to do. Again it took a while to get there but believe me I got there. So go easy on yourself and get back out there with your head held high.

5. AnonymousJanuary 27,2025 at 4:54PM UTC

   Learn from it

6. AnonymousJanuary 27,2025 at 5:09PM UTC

   Depends. I've been fired but I felt it was unlawful. I went after them legally. I was able to move on after that check cleared.

   I would suggest therapy, fitness, and time to reevaluate what your career goals are. You will be okay but it will take time